Author	Thread: Rejection?
1jon310 View Profile History	Rejection? Posted : 28 Jul, 2024 08:18 PM Hello Brothers in Christ: I was wondering if or how many of you have run into this issue when interacting with the fairer gender among us. You treat them with sacrificial love, respect and express compassion and safety. In short you treat the women that you meet as a cherished daughter of the King with respect and holiness. But then she gets upset and feeling rejected because you did not make moves on her or try to get her into bed. Do any of you have the same experience and if so what's up with that? Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	Rejection? Posted : 29 Jul, 2024 06:27 AM Sounds similar to Joesph’s experience with Potiphar's wife from the book of Genesis. He treated her with respect but she continually tried to sexually seduce him. Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	Rejection? Posted : 29 Jul, 2024 06:38 AM I realize Joseph’s encounter was most certainly not a dating experience but the fact this married woman wanted to commit adultery with him might be something relevant to the situation with a single woman in your experience Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	Rejection? Posted : 30 Jul, 2024 06:26 PM My estimation is that many women have their selfworth so tied up in their attractiveness that to not be inappropriately approached they feel that they are degraded. Without humility i suspect that a person can get used to being objectified and then feel rejected or of less worth when someone sees you as something more than just something to be used or idolized. What say ya'll? Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	Rejection? Posted : 1 Aug, 2024 02:38 PM In some cases that’s true. We all seem to have expectations and demands of others. I did and still do (trying to have no expectations) Life got easier when I stopped having many expectations of others. One example of many: in church, of all places, it’s expected that nice people who meet there would like us just like Jesus likes us. After all, church is a place where people are in the process of becoming more like Jesus and they’re supposed to like others. But that’s not always the case. Some people just plain don’t like some people for whatever reason. It’s still troublesome but not as much, when church folk just ignore me. I’ve learned to commit them to Jesus and have no expectations of them. Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	Rejection? Posted : 1 Aug, 2024 07:50 PM LD No matter what we're always going to have expectations. It's when we have unrealistic expectations that we go off the rails. Yes some people won't like others and they may have good reason to or not. Nevertheless we should continue to have reasonable expectations of others while at the same time realizing that you will not always get it. 1jon310 As far as women go, most are lost in the world of feminism & social media and aren't worth pursuing for marriage. Post Reply
1jon310 View Profile History	Rejection? Posted : 1 Aug, 2024 08:05 PM We all have some idea of what we are comfortable with in life and that includes our understanding of people. We put them in a box and whatever does not fit in that box most will exclude. Often we do not even give it enough thought as to why we exclude people. We just do. I am here looking for friends and as such there is no reason for me to be as picky about qualifications for a future wife. But that excludes me from most people's expectations. There are however those who try to change my mind on friendship and find out that not all men are easily swayed by a pretty smile and bat of the eyelashes. May the Lord give Grace to all of you looking for a spouse . Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	Rejection? Posted : 2 Aug, 2024 09:36 AM I agree with Jon and Handyman Post Reply
Christson2 View Profile History	Rejection? Posted : 4 Aug, 2024 11:58 PM I see that you like many church men have zero clue about female nature. You ever heard the saying that nice guys finish last? There is a reason for that. Women hate nice guys. They want a bad boy. Post Reply
WalkNTalk View Profile History	Rejection? Posted : 5 Aug, 2024 07:23 AM "But then she gets upset and feeling rejected because you did not make moves on her or try to get her into bed." Joseph had that experience. He refused to sleep with Potiphar's wife who took notice of him and advanced him. Potiphar's wife got upset and felt rejected when Joseph did not accept her advancements and did not go to bed with her. He was put in prison for it. Joseph went to prison for not going to bed with her. Ha ha (Genesis 39) But God worked it for good. Most of us here would wish we had that problem. More of us are invisible men. We hardly get any notice. We lack any attention at all. We age and become even less noticed till we really disappear. It seems a waste of time to even bother. But here we are anyway on a Christian site hoping for attention. Standards are different today. No one is looking for a virgin. As Don Williams sang in one of his songs: "I don't believe virginity is as common as it used to be." "But I believe in love, I believe in babies. I believe in mommies and dads, and I believe in you." Job made a covenant with his eyes not to look lustfully upon a woman. (Job 31:1) Post Reply
silver761 View Profile History	Rejection? Posted : 9 Oct, 2024 10:53 PM "I was wondering if or how many of you have run into this issue when interacting with the fairer gender among us..." I have never met a woman who acted the way you described. This does not seem like a Christian woman to me, and I only date Christian women. Post Reply