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HazelEyesSparkle View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 2 Jan, 2025 10:31 PM I've unfortunately been feeling pretty down about not being able to find someone to date and settle down with. Some days, I don't mind at all like it completely slips my mind. It is very hard though when you see everyone getting engaged around you but you. One of my best friends has been married for about 9 years. I just learned that my other best friend got engaged this past year. I don't know what it is about me but no one seems to want to even embark on anything with me. I don't understand why. I find myself very positive, nice to be around, adventurous, and down-to-earth. I like a lot of different activities and such if they would just give me the chance. I've gone on dates where men just want physical, they are silent, or they just don't want to put any effort in. I do want to get married but can't achieve that if everyone hates me. Should I just give up or put myself more out there or what? Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 10 Jan, 2025 06:54 AM So HazelEyesSparkle if you believe that God spoke to you twice about waiting for the right man, then why are you here complaining about not finding the right man? Why aren't you at home sitting on the couch watching The Kardashians and waiting for the Man God has picked for you to knock on the door? It's because you know that God didn't speak to you and the Man of your dreams isn't just going to fall into your lap. You may believe there's a Man of your dreams out there but I'm here to tell you he doesn't exist. However there is a Man or multiple men out there that would be great for you but you have, and will not see them because you're blinded by what you have been convinced of by feminism as to what to look for in a man. Many of what you think you want in a man don't belong nor will they ever be a masculine thing. You need what all women need and that's a real man and not some feminized version of one. But you also need to play your part by being a feminine woman, but certainly not a feminist woman. No part of feminism belongs in your way of thinking. As I said before if you were the type of woman that men are looking for then you would have so many to choose from you would have to run the excess off with a stick. Post Reply
HazelEyesSparkle View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 10 Jan, 2025 02:20 PM Firstly, hate anything Kardashian related (side note). And God has spoken to me before but not about men. I think the right men are just not around me at this point. I am looking around but it's very hard to find someone in person. I just don't know how my friends found people so easily. One of my friends found someone online, from high school, etc. I guess I'll just have to run into someone or have a friend who knows someone. Also, I do meet people that work at shops and stuff but I'd like to meet someone who maybe has gone to school, like me Post Reply
HazelEyesSparkle View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 10 Jan, 2025 02:22 PM And as far as men go, I have not ignored the ones right under me, in fact given many chances to guys even that are not the best-looking. But I won't settle like the other poster said. I expect to find someone attractive as in I am attractive as well Post Reply
HazelEyesSparkle View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 10 Jan, 2025 02:24 PM I have standards Post Reply
Handyman62 View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 10 Jan, 2025 04:18 PM Glad to know you don't care for the Kardashian's but the point I was trying to make wasn't really about them anyway. I do think that being physically attracted to someone is important so no compromise there to me is perfectly fine. There are many other things where unrealistic expectations come into play that modern women have been deluded into believing that men should be and provide in order for them to be considered attractive enough. Which is where the problems arise and are currently destroying relationships and potential relationships. You say there's really no men around where you are, but I don't believe that because good men are everywhere which brings it back to what I've said before. Most modern women don't see the good men that are all around them because the women have unrealistic standards and expectations and that is precisely why you haven't found anyone. I can't make it any planer than that because what you're looking for likely doesn't exist. You're looking for the perfect package in a Man but the only perfect Man was Jesus. Post Reply

Handyman62 View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 10 Jan, 2025 05:07 PM You mention that you want someone who has gone to school which I assume you mean college which also brings up a problem that women create. It's pretty typical for women to look for men that are at or above what they consider to be their level. So if she's gone to college and gotten a degree then has to to have also. If she make $100,000 a year then he has to make at least that much. And then there's other things like if she has traveled then he has to be able to take her on expensive trips, or if she had a horse when she was a child then only a man that has horses will do for her. Therein lies one of the problems with most women. They're not willing to step down or step back from their expectations of men. It's seems that men are only there to improve their lives and only in the ways they see fit. But women don't seem to care to understand that by thinking like that they just be short changing themselves out of the chance to meet a great man in the process. Think about it. The majority of men don't go to college, make a $100,000 a year, travel or own a horse. And that's just a few examples. Modern women are putting to much importance on things that are not scriptural. If you claim to be a Christian but expect things out of a potential mate that God hasn't said are important. Then wouldn't that make you're expectations of a husband ungodly? Post Reply
Moonlight7 View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 23 Jan, 2025 07:10 AM Talk to the young man start a conversation then in so then ask him if he is married. Some men don't mind a woman starting the conversation First. No dating and relationships are not all difficult for many people. Online maybe more difficult to get to know a compatible person. Have several places to meet a optional spouse not just online. Seek a compatible Man . Women don't have to settle. Post Reply
freetobe View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 5 Feb, 2025 04:30 PM Clearly, the important factor is who you marry, not when. Be sure you take your time getting to know someone and their beliefs. What they believe about this, that and the next thing. You don't want to be stuck with a crazy one. Ask questions about everything ( and I mean everything) ! Post Reply
LittleDavid View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 6 Feb, 2025 04:38 PM That’s exactly right, and get to know their family and friends. Who they hang out with says a lot. After all, we’re known by the company we keep. Do they forgive when wronged. To make a marriage strong, there MUST be forgiveness‼️‼️ Post Reply
silver761 View Profile History	Are dating and relationships supposed to be this difficult Posted : 6 Feb, 2025 07:29 PM "I don't understand why. I find myself very positive, nice to be around, adventurous, and down-to-earth. I like a lot of different activities and such if they would just give me the chance." Yeah, same here. I don't understand either. But you know, it can happen anytime, and once you find the right person, things can start to happen very quickly... I have known a lady of whom I thought she'll never get married, but she found a husband very quickly and effortlessly. So, anything can happen! lol Dont give up hope! Post Reply