Author	Thread: Men and Women & Romance.
Admin	Men and Women & Romance. Posted : 30 Apr, 2011 05:30 PM It's been on my heart to ask, so I'll go ahead... Do men view romance differently than women? As in they don't like it at all? I'll be more specific, romance to women means: Being with someone who loves and cares for them, and usually looks out for them, and wants to sort of be attentive and kind to them, you know, someone who just sort of loves the person you are and your relationship with God, and wants to feel that way towards her husband. Okay, now let's go over here to the opposite side of the track, I'm not a man, never going to think like a guy, so I'm going on testimony. Men think: Practically, typically about their jobs and physical comfort from the woman, as a man wants a wife, I've heard a few of them say it's primarily for practicality, cooking and to have someone to be there for them -physically- and have children with, and sort of look after everything. Okay, what I'm asking is, do men value romance at all, like women do? Or do you think it's pointless, maybe a little impractical or downright gross? A man told me once that romance and love as women see it was like pornography is for men, mostly fantasy and based off of untrue conclusions on how men think. I hope I haven't offended anyone, this is a rather deep topic, I guess. I really just wanted to know. Rachel Post Reply
View Profile History	Men and Women & Romance. Posted : 30 Apr, 2011 06:06 PM Well, there are both types of guys. There are those who see a wife purely from a practical point of view, such as the Mr. Collins character in Pride and Prejudice. These types are usually willing to provide for the family, so it�s not completely one-sided, but they are not interested in romance. Then there are guys out there who are interested in romance, even if they may not be good at it at first. I would love to be there for my wife, to take care of the big things and little things. I would love to hold her when she cries, and to ease her burden when the load gets too heavy. I know how to cook, so that is not a need for me. Although I would be more than happy to �let her� do all the cleaning. The trick is how do you show that while you are dating. The practical guy could be attentive simply because he knows he needs to do it to find a wife, but will stop caring once he is married. Then there are guys like me who come across to strong and scare women away because they think you are only doing it to make them think you care. It�s hard to find a balance. To answer your question directly, yes there are guys out there who love to be romantic. Not that they don�t care about the more �practical� part of marriage, it�s just not the only thing they care about. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men and Women & Romance. Posted : 30 Apr, 2011 06:08 PM Do not wory Rachel, it is not off the beaten road to ask. I am on medication for seizures, so I am interested in more than just romance. I need a woman who can read me and know when I am having a bad day with my medicine. So, I am looking for a personal relationship. If she wants romantic things that is ok with me to share with her. Every woman wants something different. I meet her needs and she meets mine. Dennis:hearts: Post Reply
View Profile History	Men and Women & Romance. Posted : 30 Apr, 2011 06:09 PM To sum it up the best I can in one sentence, Men have to make love to feel loved, and women need to feel loved to make love. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men and Women & Romance. Posted : 30 Apr, 2011 06:18 PM �Men have to make love to feel loved, and women need to feel loved to make love.� Well, that�s kind of her point. Are guys only �romantic� because it gets them what they want, or are they romantic because they want to show devotion to them? Depends on the guy. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men and Women & Romance. Posted : 30 Apr, 2011 06:25 PM Wow! I'm impressed that you referenced Mr. Collins in P&P!! Post Reply
View Profile History	Men and Women & Romance. Posted : 30 Apr, 2011 06:31 PM Yeah, very sad. I have read the book several times, seen the A&E version (with Jennifer Ehle and Colin Firth) a bunch of times. I even own it on Blu-ray. The rest of her books are hard to choose from, although I would have to say Persuasion and Mansfield Park are towards the top. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men and Women & Romance. Posted : 30 Apr, 2011 06:47 PM There is also Mr. Elton in �Emma�. He was simply looking for a wife for the practical and social benefits. One the other side, there is the ever so aptly named, Mr. Knightly who loved Emma and only wanted her to be her best, and was very generous to everyone. Post Reply
View Profile History	Men and Women & Romance. Posted : 30 Apr, 2011 06:52 PM Rachel if you really want to find out buy the DVD Hatari. It is an early 1960's romantic commedy. yes, they had color back then.:ROFL: A young 20 year old was chasing John Wayne. She asked him how do you like to kiss? hmmmmmm........ fast or sloooowwww.... I really have to buy it to enjoy it. :glow: Africa here we come. When I get home now I will watch that movie. You have inspired me girl. :yay: Dennis Post Reply
View Profile History	Men and Women & Romance. Posted : 30 Apr, 2011 07:01 PM Then there is McLintock! Don�t forget the shovel� Post Reply
View Profile History	Men and Women & Romance. Posted : 30 Apr, 2011 07:03 PM I'm impressed too... Jane Austen is one of my favorite authors, have you seen Sense and Sensibility, Cobbler? The movie is almost exactly like the book, word for word. Either way, that along with Pride and Prejudice are probably my two favorites works by her. Yes, victory, precisely what I was mostly wondering, do men like romance apart from women? As in, do they like it, even if there was no sexual interaction to gain from it... Cobbler, and Dennis totally got it. I just want to know, how radically different do men see love than women. Post Reply

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