Author	Thread: Are you being true to yourself?
Admin	Are you being true to yourself? Posted : 22 Apr, 2011 05:40 PM So I was wondering if you've broken up with someone and or the relationship hasn't work out are you being true to yourself if you try to move forward dating knowing that apart of you is still apart of them. Is it fair to the other person also? You are rally trying to move on. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are you being true to yourself? Posted : 22 Apr, 2011 08:34 PM That could depend of if you've been physically intimate with the person or not... Post Reply
View Profile History	Are you being true to yourself? Posted : 23 Apr, 2011 11:45 AM No nothing like that, having them be your first love along those lines. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are you being true to yourself? Posted : 23 Apr, 2011 03:43 PM Depends if you were being true to yourself when you broke up. Were you being true to yourself in the relationship by putting "Us" first. If the answer is yes to those two questions; chances are you wouldn't have to ask this question. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are you being true to yourself? Posted : 24 Apr, 2011 10:00 AM Wow, kjd, that�s a super good question!... so I�ll have to flop my toe over the line drawn in the sand and answer even though I know this is for the guys. I just saw a movie, best movie I ever watched, and it�s called Charlie St Cloud. It definitely contains a story behind a story. If you haven�t seen the movie�I�m about to spoil it for you, so if you want to see it don�t read my post, just close your eyes and move on. � In the movie an older brother makes a deal with a younger brother that they�d play baseball once a day for an hour until the older brother goes to college. While the deal is on, the younger brother dies. The older brother finds that every day at the same time, however, during their appointment the younger brother is visible, and they continue their brotherly bond for five years this way. The catch is that if any one of them are ever late, then it won�t work anymore, and that�s the last time they�d see each other till Heaven. A girl then enters the older brothers life, she gets into harm, and the brother has a choice, whether to save her, which will mean an end to his present intra-spiritual connection with his younger brother, or saving the girls life, and developing a physical relationship with her in the here and now. Relationships can be a tangled mess sometimes� �What a tangled web we weave�, but ultimately you�re doing the �younger brother� persona a favor by not showing up, by letting go. Because this is choosing to let him go on with his life. This is not to say that it is easy. Its hardest on the �older brother�, I believe. You feel like no matter what happens you will fail someone. But the truth is, healing comes with closure. And for me, closure comes when I broaden my horizons, and by get back in the batter�s box. Post Reply
i_live_in_canada View Profile History	Are you being true to yourself? Posted : 24 Apr, 2011 07:55 PM When a relationship ends it can feel like loosing some one to death. Just as you would need time to heal in that situation, the same goes for a dating situation. The deeper the feelings, the longer it can take to heal. To be fair to your self as well as the new people you date, take it slow. Make sure you are ready to actually date again. Don't compare your new relationships to your last. Some times getting out there and dating can help get your mind off of your last relationship. But don't do as a lot of people do and rush in. Take your time and guard your heart. Find out what it was that your last relationship lacked. Best wishes Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Are you being true to yourself? Posted : 24 Apr, 2011 08:55 PM What a lot of people fail to realize is that emotional intimacy can be just as binding as physical intimacy. We need to pray that God will unleash our hearts from the people that we are no longer in a relationship with. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are you being true to yourself? Posted : 25 Apr, 2011 07:56 AM @ I Live In Canada, give that woman a cigar! :applause: Wait, did I already give my last cigar to Tulip? Post Reply
View Profile History	Are you being true to yourself? Posted : 25 Apr, 2011 09:58 AM Thanks so much for your replies. This is something I have been thinking about for a while now. I'm always the girl among my friends that has waiting on that one guy never really was entering into a lot of relationships. Then I met this guy and we were great friends first, feelings developed and we fell in love. Maybe I was a little more in love than he was because he went of to travel and met someone else and married her instead. It broke me apart I was comatose for a while lol! I still love him and probably always will on some level. But I know that God has someone better for me it's hard sometimes because we do communicate now and then and I am happy he found what he was looking for and has a wonderful family. Then apart of me wonders if that was my one chance silly huh lol. But i thank God for the comment that maybe I should pray to God about releasing my heart. I never thought about it like that. You guys are the best and I appreciate your wisdom more than I can count. Here's looking forward to better days and being true to yourself. Post Reply