Author	Thread: Would you rather?
Admin	Would you rather? Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 10:57 PM As much as I like that game this is not it, got ya. haha. Also, I do have a real question in that same form. Would you rather have no reply, maybe your message read, and not be told that they are not interested OR would you rather receive a kind message that they are not interesting. Personally I would rather get a kind message back saying that they are not interested, but sometimes I am not sure what to do. I usual reply and try to communicate to make it clear that I am interested in friendship with that individual. My biggest concern is that I don't want to hurt any girls feelings or lead any girl on. What are your guys thoughts? Post Reply
knightdash View Profile History	Would you rather? Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 11:26 PM I found a Christian review site for Christian related dating sites. They had an interesting advice about replying back to messages. "As as courtesy, you should respond to every one who writes to you, even if you are not interested. Come up with a standard response like; "Thanks for writing. After reviewing your profile, I don't believe we're a good match. Thanks for writing, and God bless you." In other words, let them down easy, but give them the courtesy of one response." I think that would be something good to use as a generic response. You could just copy it to a notepad document and just copy and paste it every time. Better than no reply at all. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you rather? Posted : 9 Apr, 2011 06:46 AM I agree with both of you. Personally, a "don't think we'd make a good match" would be preferred over no response at all. You'd think girls would want the same but I'm beginning to think no response is better. On more than one occasion I sent don't think we'd make a good match, and got back, "I think we would" , and two girls asked, "Why not"? They won't take no for an answer. Lol Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you rather? Posted : 9 Apr, 2011 07:47 AM Usually, I send the standard don't think we make a good match to guys I'm not interested in. Sometimes, I will send a different message. It depends on who writes. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Would you rather? Posted : 9 Apr, 2011 09:56 AM Message or no message, if we don't click, we don't click. It doesn't bother me in the slightest to not get a reply. The only time something has ever bothered me was when I got a reply from a girl saying that I was creepy and that it was no wonder I was still single (among other things). I know my sense of humor isn't for everyone, but I found that response to be incredibly offensive. I sent her another message basically calling her out about it, but she never responded. I would have appreciated a response to that one. Oh well. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you rather? Posted : 9 Apr, 2011 12:03 PM Yeah, I agree with ya guys. I think I need to start being more clear in the fact that I am not interested in them. Tulip, HAHA!! I know exactly what you mean! I have never got a reply like that, but I have gotten no replies at all though. haha. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Would you rather? Posted : 9 Apr, 2011 12:29 PM If she reads my message and doesn't reply, it's pretty clear she's not interested. I don't need a message to help me pick up on that. It's not like it makes rejection any better because she wrote me to tell me. Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Would you rather? Posted : 10 Apr, 2011 06:26 PM I'd much rather get the "sorry not interested" response than to be ignored completely. Post Reply
VKWV1 View Profile History	Would you rather? Posted : 11 Apr, 2011 04:44 PM I would rather get a response with the truth. No reason to be offended. Everyone has certain things they are looking for. I think a lot of times we take it personally, but we really shouldn't. I had one lady write back angry, saying that I was judging her because of her looks. I actually thought she was a good looking gal. For me it was just that we had wildly different views on things. Post Reply