Author	Thread: Standards too high?
Admin	Standards too high? Posted : 4 Apr, 2011 11:28 AM This one is not about what you believe and what standards that you hold a future mate to, but what looks and personality standards you have for a relationship. I know every person is different and everyone has different things that appeal to them even if they don't admit it. I also would venture to say that just because your not picky about physical traits that you can still be considered shallow based on being extra picky with personality. The question is where do you draw the line between settling, compromise, being shallow, or expecting too much? So.. Where is the balance between the physical and personality as well as not compromising, but not expecting too much? I am also posting this on the Girls side. Post Reply
TonyP View Profile History	Standards too high? Posted : 4 Apr, 2011 04:16 PM The question is where do you draw the line between settling, compromise, being shallow, or expecting too much? I dont expect anything from anyone period.There has to be some physical attraction after all we are human. The only thing for me is they have to be a believer so we would be equaly yoked. I dont think of myself as better then anyone else so how could I be settling unless it was for a non believer and thats not going to happen. I will not compromise my values of only being with a believer.If she was shallow and a believer and we get along then no problem however if she is that shallow proly would not click so would not worry about it. I dont realy have a line so to speak except she must be a beleiver and we must click. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Standards too high? Posted : 4 Apr, 2011 04:31 PM Physically, I've got to be attracted to her. I tried dating a girl I wasn't attracted to physically, and it just doesn't work. I don't have the highest physical standards, but I'm not exactly 6'3 with a six pack (well, of muscles at least), so that's probably fair. Personality-wise, I've got to enjoy my time around her. I don't know how you can build a life-long marriage together if you don't even like each other in the beginning. The girl I'm talking to right now is incredibly easy to talk to, which I think bodes well. Spiritually, I've got very high but not ridiculously high standards. I don't think it's asking too much to find a woman in the church who is actively seeking a closer relationship with Christ has an active prayer/Bible-reading life. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Standards too high? Posted : 4 Apr, 2011 11:46 PM One other thing that I think I'd like is for her to have enough of a "past" before Christ that it doesn't make it hard for her to accept mine. I could be wrong, but I feel like a girl who grew up extremely legalistic before Christ would have a hard time accepting some of my dabblings with sin before Christ. It's not like I killed anybody for drugs or anything, but when the worst thing she ever did was a little premarital front-hugging, we'd probably have a hard time relating. Post Reply
View Profile History	Standards too high? Posted : 5 Apr, 2011 04:45 PM "premarital front-hugging", they let you say that on here? Actually I got a little excited when I read that. Wow, I think I need a wife, and soon! :goofball: Post Reply
View Profile History	Standards too high? Posted : 5 Apr, 2011 05:57 PM I think maybe those horse kisses, are not enough!! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Standards too high? Posted : 5 Apr, 2011 06:00 PM Well Two, you know that if a guy gets anything other than a side hug, he'll start thinking about sex, and we all know that sex standing up might lead to dancing! The horror! Post Reply
View Profile History	Standards too high? Posted : 5 Apr, 2011 06:54 PM I really like hugging =) My love language is physical touch. I feel the same way Tulip does about someone having a past. With all of the stuff that's happened to me, I feel like some guy who's been like 100% pure his whole life would find me completely repulsive. Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Standards too high? Posted : 6 Apr, 2011 06:40 AM tulip and two...you guys made me LOL Post Reply
View Profile History	Standards too high? Posted : 6 Apr, 2011 07:53 PM River, Love your new pic. I wonder if Dennis has seen it yet? He may be writitng you another song soon.lol Post Reply
Princekermit View Profile History	Standards too high? Posted : 26 Apr, 2011 10:25 PM @pixy "I feel the same way Tulip does about someone having a past." The reformed bad boy/girl who has trouble with even entering the church and beats his/her chest crying out "Have Mercy on me a sinner" is a far cry closer to God then the Religious who say Thanks God, that I am not a sinner like that one, while proudly strolling in the church. It goes deeper, if you look at the "forgiven much=loves the forgiver much" principle, you can see that the odds are a person who has a clear understanding of who they are in Jesus, and has overcome much, been delivered much, and been transformed, well again the odds are they will be a better mate. Having said all that, I still would prefer the woman I will marry to have held on to her maidenhood, and cherishes purity. *Ponders suddenly* So maybe I am looking for the former self-cutting, ex-bank robbing, car-jacking, shoppaholic, Kleptomanic (in remission), arsonist who is still legitimately wearing her promise ring. (uh oh, Did I come to the wrong site?) @pixy And here... I thought I was the only one who bothered to read "the 5 love languages". Post Reply