I would really love to talk to you, and just be there for you, as your sister in Christ. Do not be distressed.
There are still good men out there, with good hearts.
I have seen a few myself!
Don't cry, dear. I will pray the Lord gives you peace in your heart, and strength, it's important you draw closer to him, more than anyone or anything else.
my definition of a good man is a man who treats others right and sees the world as god does so he would treat women or men in the world better then some men have treated me
wishing you all the besst in searching for true love
Don�t trouble yourself with what �men� are looking for in a woman � �men� are sinners and MANY men, including many �Christian men� view women and what is attractive incorrectly.
Plus, nowhere in God�s word does God tell you to consider what �men� are looking for in a woman.
Instead, God calls you to keep your focus in His Word, and what �HE� is looking for in a woman, future wife and mother.
Think about it�
Do �you� want to provide a man for yourself? = Add unto yourself�
Do you want a �man� to provide himself to you? = Allow another to add unto you�
Or do you want God to provide to you a man that HE�s prepared for you?
Remember, true Christian men are not there own. They have been bought at a price, and they are God�s to give to whomever HE chooses.
Consider Matthew 6:33� �But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things (including a husband) shall be added unto you.�
Allow God to add unto you what only HE can while you allow God to continue to prepare you for that special person He will bring into your life in His perfect timing!
Dreamtime's right. It makes sense too. What's going to be most attractive to a man of God? A woman of God. What's going to be most attractive to a woman of God? A man of God!
Go pursue Christ, find your satisfaction in him, pursue his calling for you in life, and if God has a husband for you, he'll bring the two of you together. After all, you're only 21. You've got years and years left to be married. The only way you're ever going to be satisfied is by finding your delight in Christ. Even in marriage, if you try to find your delight in your husband, you'll be miserable. Only Christ can be what you truly need.
On a more practical note, you really need a picture if you want guys to look at your profile, much less message you. With thousands of possible people to message, people without a picture are going to get overlooked 9 times out of 10. Second, your profile is pretty empty. What makes you special? What makes you unique? What makes you stand out from any of a hundred other girls your age? You don't have to give your life's story, but with two or three paragraphs of information to read, interested guys can not only get a better idea of who you are, but they'll be able to send you more interesting messages.
And remember....that its CHRIST in you who's special, its CHRIST in you who's unique? And its Christ in you in HIS own unique way that will stand out from any of a hundred other girls your age!
Ella,
The battle to find true love in a man (which IS Christ) is the Lord's. Its not even your battle. Like all battles, you can't actually win this one. Only the Lord can.
2 Chronicles 20 describes many of the battles and trials we will face in our lives. When we respond to these battles and trials as Jehoshaphat did, God will still respond as He did for His people then.
" (Ella) Do not fear or be dismayed because of this great multitude (of men maybe :winksmile: ), for the battle is not yours, but God's" - 2 Chronicles 15.
