Author	Thread: Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl?
bcpianogal View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 21 Mar, 2011 10:29 AM Guys, what are your thoughts on asking a girl's parents for permission to marry their daughter? Is there a difference in asking for permission vs. asking for their blessing? Would it make a difference if she still lived at home with her parents as opposed to living on her own? Girls (since I know you'll put in your opinions anyway!), how do you feel about the whole asking permission/blessing issue? My motivation for asking comes from the fact that so many young people these days move out of their parents' home as soon as they finish high school, and many don't return before getting married. That sort of changes the dynamic of a dating relationship, since the parents aren't as actively involved as they were in generations past! I just wondered what you all think about the subject! Post Reply
TonyP View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 21 Mar, 2011 03:43 PM Think it is a good thing to have the parents blessing although not sure I would be asking permission because both of us would be adults. To me it makes no difference if the girl still lives at home or on her own. Think the blessing would mean more if the girl still lived at home. Post Reply
View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 21 Mar, 2011 06:48 PM I believe that asking a woman�s parents for permission to court their daughter has everything to do with a man recognizing, respecting and honoring the role that parents have played in their daughter�s lives. It allows parents to examine a would be pursuer, but at the same time and just as important it gives the pursuer the opportunity to examine the woman�s life from a different perspective � not to say that parents will always give an accurate picture of their daughters lives ;) In doing such a thing, a man has the opportunity to give himself freely to a certain amount of examination by the parents (parents should care deeply about their daughter�s potential spiritual headship) while at the same time, and just as important, the man will be able to tell a lot about the woman�s parents by how they examine him e.g. do they really even care who you are beyond your bank account! Also, Today, due to the break down in families, I believe that the church needs to be proactively used in place of parents as a position of oversight that couples give themselves to�Jesus said "Who are My mother and My brothers?" Looking about at those who were sitting around Him, He said, "Behold My mother and My brothers! - �spiritual� parents come in many different forms. Post Reply
View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 21 Mar, 2011 06:59 PM Wow, mydreamtime33 said it so perfectly. I would respect a man a lot more if he asked my parent's for permission to marry me, not just their blessing. Usually the parent's want what makes their daughter happy. Parent's are older and can tell a lot more about people than their children can because they have the experience. Anyone who doesn't have enough respect to at least talk to your parents about marrying you probably isn't a good guy. (To me, it doesn't matter if the girl's moved away from home.) Post Reply
View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 21 Mar, 2011 08:45 PM I agree with what everyone has said so far. Personally, it would be very important for me to have the parents' permission to marry their daughter. I don't think permission would be given without their blessing as well. Marrying someone without the approval of the people who raised her and (other than Jesus) probably love and know her better than anyone else, would not be possible for me. Whether or not she lives at home would not matter. I'd ask permission from her parents in either circumstance. Post Reply
View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 21 Mar, 2011 10:53 PM Ms. Marvel, a former Sunday School teacher of mine, told this one young man, he still needed to ask his wife's father for her hand in marriage, as away of showing them respect. Post Reply
View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 22 Mar, 2011 12:16 PM piano gal, piano gal you are so boring. just throw the girl over your shoulders guys and carry her to the preacher. She has no say. You buy her from her father. A couple of hunting dogs and a good horse.:ROFL: :dancingp: :glow: :nahnah: Post Reply
View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 22 Mar, 2011 12:57 PM I wish a guy would marry me like that, dgrimater! I kinda prefer he club me over the head and drag me off by my hair though. Post Reply
View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 22 Mar, 2011 12:58 PM I think the smileys are all men, because they're all very bald. :ROFL: :excited: :laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 23 Mar, 2011 10:20 AM you are a few years to young for me.:laugh: ms. marvel Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Asking for permission (or blessing) to marry a girl? Posted : 23 Mar, 2011 10:39 AM Well, you guys surprised me with your answers! I'm glad that there are still guys out there who feel that it is important to ask for permission. I have always thought of permission and blessing as two different things, but your posts might have changed my mind...they do sort of go together, and parents likely won't grant one without the other. Personally, I want a guy to ask my mom for her permission/blessing before he asks me to marry him. I think it's a sign of respect, and even though I'll already know if my mom "approves" or not, I still want him to ask her. Post Reply

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