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Admin	The debate of kissing Posted : 20 Mar, 2011 07:05 AM Is it reasonable to think there are guys out there willing to wait until he is at least engaged to kiss? This is something I feel God is laying on my heart and although my friends support me and have even joined me, all I keep hearing is that is it impossible. Any thoughts? Post Reply
View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 20 Mar, 2011 08:19 AM I have some friends that did not kiss until they were married, so t is not impossible. However, I can tell you from first hand experience, this does not solve all your problems. The key is not what you deny yourselves, the key is what you focus on. For every rule, there is a way around it, however there is never a way around the spirit of a thing. Post Reply
View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 20 Mar, 2011 08:22 AM For me, I think it just causes a lot of trouble and thats when the relationship tends to focus more on the two people and less on God where it is supposed to be. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 20 Mar, 2011 08:44 AM If God really is laying that on your heart, then I'm sure you'll find someone who agrees. Post Reply
View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 20 Mar, 2011 04:57 PM I myself believe that first kiss is wedding kiss. And I've met some guys who believe the same principal like me. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 20 Mar, 2011 05:35 PM I know plenty of people who waited to kiss until after they said "I do" and signed that marriage license. If you feel that God is leading you to wait until marriage to kiss, then you should stick to that conviction...and the right guy will share your conviction or respect you enough to abide by your wishes. Personally, I'm not committed to absolutely NO kissing before the wedding, but there won't be much of it happening. I know from my very limited past experiences how I respond to things as simple as hand-holding and hugging, and I'm afraid I would just get into trouble if I did much kissing prior to the wedding! Post Reply
View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 20 Mar, 2011 07:57 PM Doing that, choosing to wait till engagement before the first kiss would probably show men that you have a backbone, and they�ll respect you for it. However, choosing to abstain from kissing definitely won�t make you more spiritual. One word of caution: There was someone who would look down at their feet or even close their eyes when someone attractive would walk by, because they thought it sin to even look upon someone attractive. That same person, because they spent all their energy and self control on keeping their eyes down had no self control left for many other things important in life. When it came to eating, and exercising, these areas slowly became way out of balance. The result was someone who was unhealthy physically. I�m saying that it takes someone with great powers to be able to keep other parts of their life balanced while choosing to do something extreme in one part of their life. I know you can do it. And I admire you for making that decision. Post Reply
View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 21 Mar, 2011 04:59 AM I think it is reasonable. I'm saving my first kiss for my wedding day because it just makes the wedding day that much more exciting! A few of my friends and most of my family have told me that is the dumbest decision I could ever make. I don't care what anyone says, I know that He will bring me a guy that shares in my decision or will respect my decision. Post Reply
TonyP View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 21 Mar, 2011 04:02 PM for me it would depend on what kind of a kiss it was. it was just a peck would not be bad however if it were passionate that would proly make me want other things and that would not be right. Post Reply
View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 22 Mar, 2011 12:25 PM I'm with ya! It is possible and it is my goal. :) I don't think it is a sin to kiss but it sure can lead to sin. Post Reply
View Profile History	The debate of kissing Posted : 22 Mar, 2011 05:02 PM I think this is mainly an American thing - certainly haven't heard of such a debate here in the UK... Of course, we have Europe's highest teen pregnancy rate so I wouldn't hold us as an example for anyone to follow! Kissing in itself isn't wrong; but you've all touched on and skirted around the real issue of lust - whilst you're passionately kissing, where are your hands moving, what are you wanting or going to do next?! To those few with exceptional control over a very powerful (and normal) instinct, you'll know when you're about to overstep the mark. And to those that have overstepped, Jesus is still ready to forgive - and I thank God for that! Post Reply

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