Thread: Why can't the young and the old find the right person?
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Why can't the young and the old find the right person?
Posted : 11 Mar, 2011 12:09 PM
Why can't the young and the old find the right person for Marriage?
I am posting this in each section, because of the importance in getting responses.
I look back when I met my ex-wife 35 years ago. We bumped into each other in a parking lot. We smiled at each other, and then we talked to each other. Then I called her for a date and we both knew soon after, we were in love. We were not equally yoked, but the pastor from my church didn't put emphasis on the matter, after 27 years of marriage, then came our divorce. Can we really find Love on the Internet? Many say they can.
I have a son 30 and a daughter 24 and neither are in a relationship. I see more young people on here than the older ones. I believe people are not the same as they were 40 years ago. People today would rather surf the web for a date than look for a date. People in general don�t smile to strangers, let alone speak to strangers. If they do, they would rather text on the phone or email than call them again.
The core to the problem, people are interested in their gadgets and their busy lives more than the fellowship in talking with them in person. We need to get back to the Golden Rule that we have lost over the years. We should be kind and love everyone, that is what the Bible tells us to do!
Is it because we are living in the last days?
Would love to hear what others think about this issue.
Why can't the young and the old find the right person?
Posted : 11 Mar, 2011 01:00 PM
Well, a lot of the problems for me is that the only real places to go are bars or clubs. Outside of some churches, that don't really promote singles events, there's not really much you can do that does not involve a lot of drinking. And since I don't really want to marry someone who drinks, I have to think of alternative areas.
Why can't the young and the old find the right person?
Posted : 11 Mar, 2011 07:40 PM
I would like to think that I could go to any one of the numerous bars in downtown Athens and find a guy. But would I really WANT the type of guy that I could find there? Nope.
I would be friendly to most any guy who approached me in a public location, but I would want to know more about him before agreeing to a date. I'm committed to dating only Christians; there would be no point in accepting a date from an unbeliever. Not to mention the fact that the world is full of creeps, and I don't want to be stupid!
So it seems that I'm left with only a few other options for meeting guys: at church, at Bible studies, through friends, at work, etc. Or online. I'll be the first to admit that I'd much rather meet a guy in "real life" than online. I put myself out there, force myself to meet new people and widen my circle of friends, and let my friends know that I'd love to find that special guy.
If I'm doing all the "right" things and trying really hard to meet guys, then why can't I find the right one? Goodness, why can't I even find a guy who will ask me out on a date? It's not like I'm fighting them off!!! I don't think that technology/internet is the only thing to blame, but I'm sure it plays a part. We can keep up with friends and get news from all over the world with a few clicks of the mouse, so why should we put in any more effort to get to know people in our day-to-day lives? It's sad when I meet an interesting guy, and feel that I have to add him as a friend on FB if I want to have any chance to getting to know him better and/or catching his eye. What happened to the good ol' fashioned telephone? Or long letters (I will admit that emails are far more convenient, and can be just as long and exciting as "real" letters)? Or even face-to-face conversation? Like I said, it's sad.
OK, so now that I've rambled on and on, have I even started to address your post and concerns?
Why can't the young and the old find the right person?
Posted : 13 Mar, 2011 12:31 PM
I can definitely relate. I don't want to go to the bar to find a partner, not that I have a problem with bars. It just so hard to find another Christian in those environments. On the other hand, dating within your Church and Bible study can bring drama, especially if the relationship doesn't work out. It would be nice if friends or family would help with the matching process, but it seems they are too busy with there own lives.
