Author	Thread: Why Do the Men Get Iinto Relationship & Go Poof?
BreathOfPraize View Profile History	Why Do the Men Get Iinto Relationship & Go Poof? Posted : 24 Feb, 2011 04:47 PM Anybody know why men go poof! Praying about that again today, met a guy on here, who declared I'm his "Eve" etc., my position was, 1 step at a time, and willing to develop friendship & relationship. Calling/ texting my phone daily... Was coming to my State/City to spend 3 -4 days getting to know me and see where it goes...all the way up to Thursday am. From Thurs-PM to arrival time, then, not another word, text, email, etc. Been guarding my heart and keeping it before God the whole time. But the thing that bothers me is: since he said he was interested and the more we shared seemed to like me more. So can you at least as a fellow human being, (not restricted to Christians, OK) have the courtesy & decency to say you're not coming! Plans, Preparations were being made (even the weather was absolutely beautiful for the events would /could have shared) and his arrival was anticipated... I'm Ok, just puzzled and @ times Frustrated by this, can you guys help me & ladies understand this one? Trusting God, said Ok :waving: in my release to God about it...thinking Lord, they must have been wrong for me/or just wrong? Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Do the Men Get Iinto Relationship & Go Poof? Posted : 24 Feb, 2011 06:04 PM Hi BOP! :) :waving: I totally agree with you and I've felt the same frustrations. I don't understand why people (especially Christians!) aren't at least courteous to each other. I've wondered...Does the Golden Rule change when you take an interest in someone?! If so, no one told me! Haha! ;) I also agree that it's better to have found all that out now, instead of wasting more time and energy on unfruitfulness. As a good friend of mine recently told me.... "When people show you who they are, believe them!" Glad you're here with us in the forums! :) T Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Do the Men Get Iinto Relationship & Go Poof? Posted : 25 Feb, 2011 07:18 AM Hi, BOP!!! :waving: I'm sorry you had to experience that "poofy" guy ... I don't understand it either ... but I'm glad you were guarding your heart and gave it all to God ... and are moving on from it. This kind of thing happens to us guys too, and it's hard to make sense of it, whichever gender you are. Love, Steve Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Do the Men Get Iinto Relationship & Go Poof? Posted : 25 Feb, 2011 10:13 AM BreathOfPraize, have you heard anything at all from him? Is he on this site? Can you tell if he has logged in since he was supposed to meet you? Not to be overly dramatic, but he could have been injured on the way to meet you. But, he could have also felt that he wasn�t going to be good enough for you and got cold feet. I know for me, I do way better through writing then in person, at least for a little while. Post Reply
PEM4 View Profile History	Why Do the Men Get Iinto Relationship & Go Poof? Posted : 26 Feb, 2011 05:39 AM I am sorry this happen to you. I have been pondering the same question for a while , here are the answers that I got: 1. They realize it wasn't going to work... 2. The lady was not what they expected her to be and they thought it was better to end it 3. If he disappear without communication it would not hurt the lady as much as if they told her. 4. He did not have the guts to tell face to face 5. He is too nice to tell the woman he is not interested and play along until he feels like he is drowning, and then he shuts down and stop calling or showing up.. No communication! no explanation! 5. He was looking for a fling and found a lady...not wanted 6. He was wolf in sheep clothing.. A scammer, player.. 7. things are progressing too fast for him and he needs time to sort out his own feelings, whether he wants to commit now, walk away or take it slow...he just can't tell you because it is between him and his self.. 8. He is has been in love before and has been hurt and he might be scared. 9. Lost the chemistry ...lol Whatever it is that cause men to disappear, it causes disappointment, frustration and makes it difficult for everyone, especially the future guy. Every Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Do the Men Get Iinto Relationship & Go Poof? Posted : 26 Feb, 2011 03:18 PM Women have been known to disappear too. No gender is Poof Proof. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Do the Men Get Iinto Relationship & Go Poof? Posted : 2 Mar, 2011 04:57 PM I think he was probably trying to spare your feelings, but didn't realize that what he did was much worse. It's hard to have closure and get past the relationship if the other person never even told you, "It's over". I (and probably most people) would prefer someone to actually break up with me, even though their words may hurt my feelings a little. It's much easier to take, than simply not ever knowing what happened. PS: I'm sure girls are guilty of this too, but it's really not acceptable no matter the gender. Maybe you could get away with that in grade school, but we're adults now! Come on! Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Do the Men Get Iinto Relationship & Go Poof? Posted : 16 Mar, 2011 11:33 PM Sorry to hear you had this happen, personally it is rude for anyone to do this regardless of gender. For someone to not show up and not let you know they are going to show up is just not acceptable in today's technology age where we (most of us) have cell phones, home phones, email, texting, etc. there's no excuse not to let someone know you decided not to show up. While I haven't experienced this yet but as the guy I feel I should be the first to make the trip to meet the lady. But I have had several developing friendships that seemed promising till "poof" they stop responding, or replying out of the blue, now I know there can be many reasons for this but it would seem polite to at least drop a line and say why. If you met someone else then say so. I'd rather know rather than speculate for a while before giving up after sending a message asking if your still wanting to talk. Best thing we can do is not worry about it and just behave in a Christlike manner just keep on treating people the way we'd want to be treated. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Do the Men Get Iinto Relationship & Go Poof? Posted : 21 May, 2011 04:33 AM yes you are right. but five fingers are not same. some bad peoples who think some play with girl who hurt girls and cheat but but before start relations we should think about future. it,s important if we will walk straight and good than we can reach right way. if we will walk zig zanging than we left some tears on way. just understand what i am saying. i am virgin and because i am looking true life partner. i am looking my first love. even many time girls cheat with me. but i ignore them. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why Do the Men Get Iinto Relationship & Go Poof? Posted : 21 May, 2011 05:52 AM You wrote this post a few months ago, but the one of the first lines which got to me was ' see where things go.' Where was God in that? I believe you really need to KNOW what God wants for a relationship instead of going in hoping/holding unto a maybe/wish... God already knows where the relationship will go and whether this will be another POOF guy. Possibly the guy was seeking to see whether you'd be a woman of not so strong faith? I've learned is that everything can seem good, but if it's not what God wants for you, it won't work. You'll start at the bottom of the hill again and again until you listen to His voice and KNOW that He has instrumented this relationship to be something meaningful. Knit into Christ and when it is right and you meet someone, you'd both know. God would allow you both to know. Post Reply
BreathOfPraize View Profile History	Why Do the Men Get Iinto Relationship & Go Poof? Posted : 5 Sep, 2011 09:41 AM @browneyedgirlky - You would think, that respect and the Golden Rule never changes whether business, personal, anywhere? AMEN! "When people show you who they are, believe them!" Glad "he showed me" early enough not to go ANY Further, Ok, thank You Jesus! :bow: Post Reply

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