Author	Thread: OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!!
Admin	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 4 Feb, 2011 12:07 PM Have been on this site for several months ~ closer to a year than not. I have deleted, come back, removed, rewritten my profile many times over ~ changed out pictures. All this just to keep things fresh and up to date. I am now wondering what I might or should do to encourage more participation with kind "gentlemen" who "look" but do not see. I have over 25-pages of "views" ... at last count, I believe; however, it appears that there are few conversations with me. I have made my profile shorter ~ thinking that might be the culprit; I have narrowed it down ~ I have softened the edges and not been as "in your face"...but thus far, nothing really is working here. So...I am at a real crossroads as to whether or not I am going to just shut my profile down for good and forget about it. I would seek your advice in perhaps giving me some pointers regarding this...I know this is lengthy. Please bear with me... Please be honest ~ to the point ~ sincere ~ and mindful that this is a Christian Site and there are ways to respond that are still in tune with the subject matter in this topic. Thanks for your input and consideration!! God Bless us, every one!! Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 4 Feb, 2011 12:40 PM I don't think you're doing anything wrong. My advise---- Be Patient. chevy Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 4 Feb, 2011 12:43 PM Are you reaching out to any of these guys? I know women prefer that the men pursue the relationship, but I don�t see anything wrong with stopping by and saying hello. Send them an email and ask them a few open ended questions. You sound like you can be a great conversationalist, get something going. To me, pursuing a relationship and getting a conversation going. You state in your profile that you are not seeking marriage. I realize that you are not opposed to marriage, but you kind of come across as if it should be a last resort. I know it can be hard to get your exact point across, but it sort of sounds like you want to take a long time to find out if you will marry someone or not. Too me that would keep me from writing you, but I am a year or two younger than you. Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 4 Feb, 2011 12:46 PM Thank you, Chevy, for your sincere reply. Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 4 Feb, 2011 12:50 PM To be very honest with you ~ I am not one to take that first step ~ of writing first. Not a real comfort zone for me and I have to grit my teeth. Really difficult to open that door for the first time; and, I am from the old school of still believing that it is the man who makes that first move. Sometimes, one just does not know which is better ~ to wait ~ which I have certainly been doing ~ or ~ to step up to the plate. About the marriage thing ~ I don't want to appear to be over zealous about it and I did do a rather informal "disclaimer" with regards to the paragraph on marital bliss in my profile. Maybe I should just remove it, altogether and just do a short sentence of sorts. Not sure on that. And, you are quite young ~ but handsome. Thanks, ever so, for taking the time to respond in all honesty. Saundra Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 4 Feb, 2011 01:17 PM Saundra: Just doing a quick read of your profile I noticed a lot of negatives. "I don't" "I'm not into" "I'm not". The overall feeling I got was negative. Maybe change those into positve statements? Also, just my opinion, but your profile text is wordy. Maybe shorten what you are saying? Or perhaps group it better (for instance the YOU and ME sections could be grouped better so they don't take up so much room.) Your pictures are great. I notice you don't reply to winks. On this site Winks are sometimes used by guys to flirt, but at other times to get your attention. Maybe rethink that? Otherwise --- my advice is like others: be patient, keep praying. Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 4 Feb, 2011 04:57 PM Godslamb: thank you for your comments and I will certainly take them under advisement. Much appreciated!! I did group the "no reply to no photo" and "no reply to winks" together. I have never understood the winks...quite honestly, I USE TO reply to the winks ~ by simply saying, "thank you for the wink". Never heard another single word from any of them who sent a wink. So, I never got that. I quit responding at all to any of them. Post Reply
seriously1 View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 5 Feb, 2011 06:17 AM hi, how do you feel when you receive a wink? when i receive a wink i smile. i read the profile and if there we have something in common i reply. started reading your profile and thought wow, too long. some guys, not all, but some do not want to read a long profile. hang in there. Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 6 Feb, 2011 03:40 AM First response when I receive a "wink" ~ no real feeling about it at all. I don't get excited about it ~ do not feel anything. I never understood a "wink" at this site simply because there is no "wording" that comes along with it. Perhaps if there was a category along with an animation of a wink of sorts ~ whether it was something like, "Hi, I am trying to flirt with you" or something of that nature ~ it would make more sense to me. I guess it is all in what is a personal preference. For me ~ it is in the real contact via communication. Sending a short note: "... hey, I just read your profile and....etc. etc. " That would get my attention and I would respond one way or another. Since I use to reply to every single wink ~ with no further response, I quit doing that. Responding to winks, I mean. Everyone feels differently about them, I suppose. What really bothers me is for someone to open up chat if they see me online ~ and then they say nothing ~ waiting for me to initiate the first dialogue. I wait and wait and they do not communicate. My thought is ~ why do they open the chat to speak to me and then say nothing. And, yes, they are still there, but no attempt is made for them to begin conversation with me, though they initiated the chat. Perplexing, to say the least. Thanks for your comment/suggestion. Post Reply
brittanyrisin View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 6 Feb, 2011 02:13 PM Hi i know i'm a girl But Hon i wanted you to know that the right guy is out there somewhere, just around the cornor!! Dont give up! Who knows where you might meet your prince charming. Take everything in fun and with a light heart. God has the perfect guy for you out there. Mayb the guys are not reponding becuase they want to see if you will veiw them back. I personally veiw ever guy back that veiws me. From there, if I like their porfiles, I might send them a wink but not a message. I hope this helps! Sorry for the girls reponse boys, Brittany Post Reply
View Profile History	OK...I MUST BE DOING SOMETHING WRONG...BE GENTLE..I HAVE FEELINGS!! Posted : 7 Feb, 2011 02:56 AM i think I have to agree with seriously1, I'm only 24 so i don't really know if my opinion is valid but for me i find when i come across a large profile, weather im interested in the person or not I find it hard to start conversation because the questions id normally ask, the answers are already there. keep it short and sweet. hang in there. keep praying! Post Reply

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