Author	Thread: Not a Match
seriously1 View Profile History	Not a Match Posted : 1 Feb, 2011 03:58 PM A man viewed my profile a couple of times so I reviewed his, after reading it, becuase of some differnces, I found we would not make a match. So that he would not continue viewing me, in a nice way I mentioned this, well his reply was very rude. In capital letters he wrote "WHO ASKED YOU"? I thought "he calls himself a Child of God"? I wasn't rejecting him, we just had a few differences that would not make a match, that's all :rolleyes: He wasn't the first one to reply this way. What's up with that. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not a Match Posted : 1 Feb, 2011 04:08 PM I think they do see it as rejection and the immature strike out in anger. I don't bother guys that view me often because many times they are gathering the courage to speak or they use that as a tool or as their 'first move' to get you to speak to them. So, the last thing they would want to hear as 'reward' for viewing you is rejection. I've got a guy right now that has viewed me over 15 times in the last 3 months. He hasn't said anything and its all good. Maybe you are just so cute to them they need to see you before they go to work to brighten their day.:dancingp: If you don't think a guy is a good match, I wouldn't bother saying so until they say something to you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not a Match Posted : 1 Feb, 2011 04:54 PM He was rude, and that reply was uncalled for. I send "I don't think we'd be a match" messages only if the guy actually gets around to sending me an email. Post Reply
seriously1 View Profile History	Not a Match Posted : 1 Feb, 2011 05:48 PM Good advice. Thanks Post Reply
View Profile History	Not a Match Posted : 1 Feb, 2011 06:24 PM I may be the last to say something because some think I'm kinda harsh myself, but my expectation for rudeness, holy living and everything that goes with that was squashed a long while back. Everybody who types Christian in isn't, just cause they're here doesn't mean they are Christian and sometimes Christians are rude too. Accepting Christ as ones Savior doesn't mean we can't/don't act out emotionally. Depends on the marurity level. Post Reply
View Profile History	Not a Match Posted : 1 Feb, 2011 08:09 PM While his response "might" have been a little rude, he also might have considered an "unsolicited" rejection from you just as rude. I think it's important for some of you women to possibly consider 'human error' as one of your assumptions as to what the man is doing or even considering on the end.... From MY personal experience.....: There have been PLENTY of times where I'm just merely perusing the "catalog" if you will, and I will have forgotten if I've even viewed a person's profile who randomly pops up in the "line up" of pictures. Or sometimes, a woman has changed her main pic, and after clicking on it, realized that I have viewed their profile before. Look at it this way.... If you were in a supermarket, or any other public place, and a guy looks over your way more than once..... do you automatically go up to him and even say..... "Hey, I don't think we're a match, so STOP LOOKING AT ME!" In essence.... that's what you did. All men are not perverts when they are viewing you. All men are not trying to figure out a way to get you to contact them first after viewing you a few 'extra' times than you think they are ALLOTED by your permission. And if will help calm the ego a bit, MOST men can't even remember if they looked at your profile in the first place.... So as another suggested, there is actually no need to even contact them with a rejection unless they contacted you first, and they don't meet your 'standards'..... Quite honestly... ONE of the myriad reasons why I even refuse to contact a woman first on places like this is due to "attitudinal knee jerking". Blessings Post Reply
View Profile History	Not a Match Posted : 1 Feb, 2011 09:42 PM I was going to reply, but then I saw Gomer took the words right out of my mouth. I agree with what he said. Post Reply
shepherdess View Profile History	Not a Match Posted : 1 Feb, 2011 09:44 PM I'm with Gomer on this one. If a man had out of the blue written me and told me we weren't a match just because I LOOKED at his profile...omercy. I would have been horrified. Probably would have trouble coming back at all! Post Reply
seriously1 View Profile History	Not a Match Posted : 2 Feb, 2011 10:00 AM ok I over acted. I am sorry, will apoligize to him and anyone else I offended.:peace: Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	Not a Match Posted : 2 Feb, 2011 12:51 PM seriously: i think you were right, the guy seemed a little imature. Gommer: My GOSH: YOU ARE CUTE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! sorry to do it this way, but I'm 52, (look younger) and this was only way! Gomer: Please check my profile. Debra Hubbard Post Reply
roeroe View Profile History	Not a Match Posted : 2 Feb, 2011 01:06 PM I have to agree with you on this one also Gomer.... I wouldn't have sent a "not a good match" reply unless I was emailed first...But there's also no need to get so upset by it.....either....there are lots of worse things!! Stay Blessed all!! Post Reply

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