Author	Thread: Traversing a minefield, by Rabbit32
Admin	Traversing a minefield, by Rabbit32 Posted : 25 Jan, 2011 05:50 AM I was curious on how to deal with a sister-in-Christ, who is dressing immodestly. Not so much confronting her, but there are times when a man could be blindsided at work, church, school or wherever, by a fellow sister-in-Christ's cleavage, or any other form of immodesty. My first reaction is to get that part of her body out of my visual range so I don't sin. If she is a friend or acquaintance, it may look odd if she approached me, to talk, or say hi, and run for the hills or use my hand to block part of her from view. To be honest i don't know what to do when more than not looking is required. Post Reply
View Profile History	Traversing a minefield, by Rabbit32 Posted : 25 Jan, 2011 05:54 AM In case anyone ever wandering, Rabbit32 was a former member of this site and actively involved in the forum. He deactivated his account a while ago. Andddd, I don't have think this topic would be a problem for me :ROFL: Post Reply
View Profile History	Traversing a minefield, by Rabbit32 Posted : 25 Jan, 2011 06:01 AM Maybe you could share some scriptures with her that would start her thinking. 1Timothy 2: 9,10 is a good one. Deborah Post Reply
View Profile History	Traversing a minefield, by Rabbit32 Posted : 25 Jan, 2011 10:02 AM Rabbit, do you know if she has a mentor, or an older woman that she looks up to. I know it may be a bit awkward, but maybe you could speak to the mentor about the issue. I don�t think it is a good idea for men to speak to the ladies about this issue, unless it is a father to a daughter. Post Reply
View Profile History	Traversing a minefield, by Rabbit32 Posted : 25 Jan, 2011 11:33 AM Give her a banana tree, then strip every single leaf off, leaving the bananas. Ask her how it looks. Then explain to her she looks the same way with no leaves and her fruit hanging out. Not really! :laugh: The 'banana tree stalker' strikes again! :ROFL: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Traversing a minefield, by Rabbit32 Posted : 25 Jan, 2011 12:05 PM I recommend gathering your Christian guy friends around her and talking very loudly about how immodestly she is dressed. She'll overhear you, see that how she is dressed is wrong, change how she is dressed, and perhaps later come thank you for tactfully helping her see the error of her ways. Post Reply
View Profile History	Traversing a minefield, by Rabbit32 Posted : 25 Jan, 2011 12:15 PM Buy her a Trench coat and tell her you'd like to see her in it every day! chevy Post Reply
View Profile History	Traversing a minefield, by Rabbit32 Posted : 25 Jan, 2011 01:04 PM I'm with Mr. Cobbler on this one, JLM. I think any advise for this young lady would be more favorably recepted from another lady. In California, a lot of the younger ladies here have never even heard of a camisole and wouldn't know what to do with one if they had it. My parents were very strict while my sister was growng up. She wasn't even allowed to wear tank tops in public. I find modesty in most women a rarity these days. Post Reply
View Profile History	Traversing a minefield, by Rabbit32 Posted : 25 Jan, 2011 01:06 PM sorry, meant advice. No spellcheck on here. Post Reply
View Profile History	Traversing a minefield, by Rabbit32 Posted : 25 Jan, 2011 02:30 PM When talkin to her...look down with eyes closed tightly...on purpose...When & if she notices ya aint lookin her in the eyes and asks why...Jus say...When ya " Put The Girls Away " I wont be Distracted "...Ifin she aint embarassed by that or dont "Get it"...offer her yer jacket so she knows ya aint kiddin...xo Post Reply
theDave View Profile History	Traversing a minefield, by Rabbit32 Posted : 25 Jan, 2011 02:58 PM Spackle. I think that you should spackle that thing right up and avoid the cleavage issue altogether. OR you could simply deal with her in love and not be judgemental with her. First, we don't really know how long she's been a sister. And second, as a guy... we probably shouldn't say anything at all. We should get an older sister to disciple her and let God sort out her bad habits. We really have no grounds to speak into someone's life outside of relationship (and more importantly discipleship) or unless they come to us for our insight and opinion. I hope that answers things Post Reply

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