Author	Thread: is it inapropreate?
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	is it inapropreate? Posted : 13 Jan, 2011 12:34 PM I had a former boyfriend die recently. He was only 49, and it was diabetic coma. We had lost touch, over the years, and I had not seen him for years, but it still upset me more than I thought it would. I googled my high school boyfriend, just to see how his life turned out. I found out he was married and a minster. I wrote him a very nice letter, saying how happy I was for him. He never wrote back, and blocked me. I was NOT trying to make a pass at him. Did I do something wrong? Post Reply
View Profile History	is it inapropreate? Posted : 13 Jan, 2011 01:55 PM No, and neither did he. Besides for all you know his wife may have intercepted the letter and blocked you. If your letter and motives are innocent then so are you. You don't know why he may have blocked you, however you have to trust he did the right thing for him. He may not be able to handle a innocent friendship ...who knows..? Post Reply
View Profile History	is it inapropreate? Posted : 13 Jan, 2011 03:42 PM I agree with twosparrows on this one. I have nothing to add. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	is it inapropreate? Posted : 13 Jan, 2011 03:53 PM Two is on the right track. I'll just sort of restate it from a girl's perspective. If I were married, and my husband received an email (no matter how innocent) from a former girlfriend, I would probably not be all that happy. I'm not saying that he should ignore the email and block the sender, but I guess I'd rather him not take a chance on stirring up old feelings for anyone other than ME. Also, since he is a minister, think how it could hurt his testimony and witness if he was caught with an email (again, no matter how innocent) of a personal nature from a former girlfriend? So, I don't think you were necessarily wrong to send him such an email, but neither do I think he was wrong to ignore it. As for him blocking you, that does seem a bit extreme, but who knows what the situation was with that. Post Reply
View Profile History	is it inapropreate? Posted : 13 Jan, 2011 04:08 PM With 2spa and BC on this one. Post Reply
View Profile History	is it inapropreate? Posted : 13 Jan, 2011 08:13 PM I don't think you did anything wrong. Either his wife intercepted it, he thought he wife might see it, or he just reacted in a knee-jerk way and, as you say, inappropriately. Post Reply
Elisa View Profile History	is it inapropreate? Posted : 13 Jan, 2011 09:51 PM A possibility is work-related. If you sent it to where he works, they could have blocked you. At my job, our personal emails are blocked. So, as the other mentioned, don't take this one personally. There is no telling what the reason was behind the blocking. Post Reply
View Profile History	is it inapropreate? Posted : 13 Jan, 2011 10:02 PM I agree with two it could of been someone else not him Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	is it inapropreate? Posted : 14 Jan, 2011 09:09 AM i'm just super, super, glad he's alive and happy! that real what i was finding out! it really "rocks" you when contemporaries die. you sorta feel your mortality. the one that died, had such a sad life. he was estranged from his family, after caring for his exstreamly difficult mother all her life. (she broke US up!) when i heard, i got by myself and cried for him. He had at least one true morner! Post Reply