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Admin	How important is it for you to... Posted : 30 Dec, 2010 03:13 PM How important is it for you to get along with, like, respect, etc. your future in-laws? If you have a major problem with the in-laws-to-be, what would you do? Would it be a dealbreaker? Or, would you just tolerate things? What kinds of boundaries would you set with not-so-great in-laws? Post Reply
View Profile History	How important is it for you to... Posted : 30 Dec, 2010 05:38 PM Depends, if the woman doesn't associate much with the bad in laws, then wouldn't break it off...but if they were important part of her life, then I would run out of that situation FAST! Post Reply
View Profile History	How important is it for you to... Posted : 31 Dec, 2010 09:42 AM This reminds me of the mother in law joke (of which there are a million of them) Unwanted Gift A constantly nagged and harried husband decided to buy his mother-in-law a cemetery plot as a Christmas gift. The next year Christmas came again and this year he didn't buy her any present. His mother-in-law was upset and asked the son-in-law why was she forgotten this time. The angry son-in-law responded, 'Well, you still haven't used the gift I bought you last year Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	How important is it for you to... Posted : 31 Dec, 2010 10:15 AM Can a girl answer too? It is somewhat important for me to get along with my inlaws, and for my husband to get along with HIS inlaws, particularly if we all live in the same general area. As far as mother-in-laws go, I don't understand why some girls seem to assume that they will despise their mother-in-law. I don't want to despise my future MIL! After all, she did raise the man I hope to love, and because of her influence on him, I hope to love her too as a second mom. Of course, there are always the monster-in-laws... The last guy I dated wanted his parents to live with him, as they were older and he was an only child. I could understand that, and was willing to deal with it...particularly since his parents seemed really nice and would actually be living in an apartment beside the main house. Fortunately for me, his mother soon showed herself to be extremely eccentric and nosy (and that's putting it nicely), and I think she had a lot of influence in his decision to end the relationship. The way I see it, it's FAR better that I found out about her oddities before the relationship got anymore serious. There is NO way I could have lived on the same property with her because she tended to meddle in every little aspect of her son's life, and even started meddling in mine...and I'd only been dating her son for a couple months! Just imagine how much worse it would have been if I'd married the guy! Honestly, I'm not sure that any distance would have been enough to get away from her. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	How important is it for you to... Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 02:22 PM Well, ideally, I'd like to get along with and respect my future in-laws. If that's not possible because they have a horrible relationship with my fiancee`, then I'll start from there as my attitude and gently, over the years, work on reconciliation, if possible. If that's not possible, then I will make sure they are not in our life at all. Having a great relationship with the girls' family is not a dealbreaker; it's just a nice to have. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	How important is it for you to... Posted : 1 Jan, 2011 02:55 PM I would definitely like to be involved with my in-laws. There are two extremes I see in some marriages though. One extreme is when a husband/wife decides to cut off the other spouse's side of the family and avoid as much contact as possible. The other extreme is when a husband/wife lets their family interfere with their marriage so much that it's literally destroying their marriage, and they continually choose their family over their spouse. I just want to avoid extremes. Somewhere in the middle, where everyone can live and let live and no one is trying to force control or allow manipulation from either side. Even the bible says that when you get married, you LEAVE your parents. I don't think it means to ignore in-laws/parents/family completely, but I think it does mean to start living more separate lives. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	How important is it for you to... Posted : 2 Jan, 2011 11:14 AM Wel,it's like this: if you can handle people that WILL BE a PART of YOU PERMANENTLY if they do'nt agree with you,then-GO FOR IT! You see,most of the time it's that as you are a Christian,you'll be persecuted for you faith,but then again,most in-laws do'nt like the idea that the both of you will have a happy future anyway. Ever saw the movie "Monster In law" starring Jenifer Lopez?It was totally fun for me to watch when it first had been released.:ROFL: Post Reply