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LUVmyJESUS View Profile History	DATING SITES.... When is it appropriate... Posted : 12 Dec, 2010 12:59 PM When 2 people are dating EXCLUSIVELY (agreed upon this), when is it appropriate for them to remove their profiles off of dating sites? If a person (man or woman) is still actively looking on other sites... what does this mean in your opinion? I realize that this is something in a relationship that 2 people need to communicate about... but it does seem that sometimes a person will not be honest about this. So, I want to know your underlying thoughts on this topic. Thx! :glow: Post Reply
View Profile History	DATING SITES.... When is it appropriate... Posted : 12 Dec, 2010 01:30 PM I know a couple of gals on this site who have boyfriends, and have indicated so on their profiles. I respect that. I agree with the saying; "Just cause we are together doesn't mean I can't talk to other people" But in a relationship this freedom comes with responsibilities. If abused, it makes the abuser into a two faced, lying cheater. The problem occurs when people are not honest with themselves about their own motives. Well how was that for presenting all three sides...lol Post Reply
View Profile History	DATING SITES.... When is it appropriate... Posted : 12 Dec, 2010 01:58 PM I would submit to whatever my boyfriend felt was appropriate. Post Reply
View Profile History	DATING SITES.... When is it appropriate... Posted : 12 Dec, 2010 01:58 PM When you say exclusively�I am going to assume that they have met and are actually dating. As for me if I want to stay on that site to be able to comment in the Forum�I make it known that I am �seeing� someone and we are dating. The very �term� exclusive (to me) means that everyone else is �Excluded� from this relationship. If they want to stay on other sites and continue �looking� (and I can understand this) they should not use the word �Exclusive�. I personally do not have the time to give 100% of (my time and effort) to more then one person at a time. I would be wary of anyone that tries to �keep their options� open. I also would not even entertain seeing any other woman for fear of giving the wrong impression. Any woman friends I might have would certainly understand this thinking. A relationship that is just beginning is fragile enough without added stress of wondering about another woman. I take what I am endeavoring to do seriously. My focus would be entirely on her. God gave us the ability to �see� through Lies. Trust your instincts. Trust your Heart. There are some people that will say what they think you want to hear and eventually will do want they want to do. In time they will show their True Colors. Post Reply
LUVmyJESUS View Profile History	DATING SITES.... When is it appropriate... Posted : 12 Dec, 2010 02:15 PM Thx to all for your input. The bottom line for me in a relationship is this.... I must submit to God first. He keeps the intentions of my heart pure. When I depend upon my flesh.... I am in trouble...lol (haven't we all experienced this?) There will be times when we do not understand actions of another person (in ANY kind of relationship). In singleness or in a marriage... we can only be responsible for ourselves... not the other person. We need to do what we feel is righteous and honorable in the eyes of God. We must use Godly wisdom in all things.... and cease without praying. Trust.... an interesting word really. We must first look ourselves in the eye don't you think? We must trust ourselves first... before we can even begin to trust another. Relationships are fragile... and satan comes to kill, steel, and destroy. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	DATING SITES.... When is it appropriate... Posted : 12 Dec, 2010 03:27 PM I think they should change their status on whatever dating sites they are on as soon as they agree to be exclusive. A couple doesn't have to leave the site if they like participating in the forums, but some people are better off so doing. They should be honest and agree to do whatever is needed to not allow undue strains on the relationship. Me, I'd be ok with changing my status, but I do know that girls get a lot more attention than guys, so I'd also be ok with taking my profile down completely if she wanted to go that route. Post Reply
View Profile History	DATING SITES.... When is it appropriate... Posted : 12 Dec, 2010 05:29 PM I do not know what to say of people who are dating on more than one site except that if there is someone they are interested that overshadows all others, to definitely make it apparent in every one of their profiles. Personally, as soon as DontHitThatMark and I confessed to each other how much "in like" we were (before meeting), we cropped down our profile information. Once we were 'officially' dating (met each other), our pictures were then of both of us together and our profiles indicated we were both with someone. I try to make it abundantly clear that I am dating someone exclusively, but even though that is all that my profile says, I still get men who are interested messaging and winking me. Some men do not take the time to read profiles, even one-sentence ones of women who are pictured staring lovingly into the eyes of another man. My point is, no matter a person's relationship status, there is always going to be the presence of other people of the opposite sex. Both parties need to trust one another and have each other's best interest at heart. People can still be approached and flirted with when they are married, there is not a sign hanging over our heads when we are 'taken'. It is up to us to be loyal to each other, or be honest with each other if we do not desire to be loyal to each other. For the record, I am still on this site to talk to people because it's easier to do this than go out and make real friends. Kidding!... sort of... :goofball: Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	DATING SITES.... When is it appropriate... Posted : 12 Dec, 2010 07:44 PM I won't go into all the details but based on my previous dating relationship, I think both people should be willing to make the same profile adjustments...whatever those adjustments might be. If one is not willing, he or she might not be as committed to the relationship as the other thinks. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	DATING SITES.... When is it appropriate... Posted : 12 Dec, 2010 11:26 PM As others have mentioned, it really depends on what's going on. If they make changes to their profile indicating they're taken and just want to participate in the forums, that shouldn't be an issue. If they still represent themselves as single and are actively messaging other people, that seems pretty across the line to me. Post Reply
AddisonMichael View Profile History	DATING SITES.... When is it appropriate... Posted : 3 May, 2011 05:00 PM Well, if it is agreed upon, and the guy wants to stay out of trouble, he better get his off quick, :-) or else he may need the :nicenurse: Post Reply