Author	Thread: Guys a girl says she "independent" on profile...red flag?
Admin	Guys a girl says she "independent" on profile...red flag? Posted : 8 Dec, 2010 05:56 PM I know the word independent can be intrepeted differently. But does it cause you to take a step back when you read that on a lady profile? Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys a girl says she "independent" on profile...red flag? Posted : 8 Dec, 2010 07:01 PM Although I desire a woman that can take care of herself the proud expression of independence is a red flag for me. In my opinion if independence is part of a woman's prized identity she will find it difficult to be interdependent as she would have to give up a valued part of herself. I wouldn't ask a woman to make that sacrifice for me. I would rather look for a gal who wants to be interdependent as I also want to be interdependent. Even though I am more independent than 95% of people I have ever met, I don't proclaim my independence, rather I proclaim my dependence on God, His Son and Holy Spirit. That's just me, others have their own paradigms that work for them. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Guys a girl says she "independent" on profile...red flag? Posted : 8 Dec, 2010 09:00 PM It depends on how she says it. "I'm INDEPENDENT and don't neeed NO man to make me happy! I'm just fine by myself!" doesn't mean near the same thing as "I'm caring, giving, independent, and love to laugh." Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys a girl says she "independent" on profile...red flag? Posted : 8 Dec, 2010 09:01 PM Just a thought....maybe when women say they are independant it is because they don't want you to think they are helpless and can't take care of themselves if they need to. It doesn't necessarily mean they don't want to lean on God or you if they need to. I consider myself independant because I am raising my daughter by myself, have a job and am going to school, I'm not just sitting around waiting for some rich dude to come sweep me off my feet (although that sounds nice). I would think 'red flag' if she is talking woman's lib though....lol Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys a girl says she "independent" on profile...red flag? Posted : 8 Dec, 2010 11:02 PM Redflag?!? No, the exact opposite. I want some one that has lots of options but chose me because she WANTS to rather than needs some one to support her and basically clean up her messes and doing things she should be doing for herself. For me it's major respect points when she takes pride in being able to live the life she wants to independently. And I can't love somebody in that way if I don't respect them. I know nobody is completely independent, but there are different degrees. Being able to support yourself emotionally and financially and take responsiblity for her own life is sexy to be honest as opposed to expecting somebody else to do it for her. I want to meet the chick that says "I do it so good I don't need anybody else" lol. Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys a girl says she "independent" on profile...red flag? Posted : 9 Dec, 2010 02:04 PM I agree with Brandon. I don't want a woman I neccisarily have to support but I want her to still want me. The thought of being used scares me but I definitely don't want to use a woman either. I just can't stand really bossy women who are like it's my way or the highway. LOL Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys a girl says she "independent" on profile...red flag? Posted : 9 Dec, 2010 04:59 PM Some men �need� to be in control. They do poorly with any woman (or man) that has their own thoughts or ideas. These types of men must have someone they can keep �under� their thumbs. These men do not do well in Religion, because they will not submit to any Authority (not even God) although they will spew forth all kinds of �religious� verbiage, their real (and only) concern is Themselves and their �Ideals�. Do the words Taliban, Jihadist, KKK and such ring a bell? These organizations are filled with these types of men. God Created men and women Independent�FREE! We are to be Dependent on only One person�GOD and even then we are to do for ourselves�stand on our own two feet. The saying goes that if you release something and it returns to you of it�s own Free Will�it is there forever. Men and women have fought and died for Independence. It is something I look for and want in my wife. Her independence does not frighten me, for just as I will �submit� to her�she will also �submit� to me. This is no different than having Free Will. When you become Interdependent�you become Dependent on someone or something other than God. This leads to Control and also Enabling. Beware of anyone that tells you that they do not like anyone that is Independent�for if given the opportunity�they will Control you (or if they can�t�they will make a big stink). Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys a girl says she "independent" on profile...red flag? Posted : 9 Dec, 2010 05:51 PM Archimedes, Yes, brother, I have the gift of reading between lines....lol Therefore I have a simple question for you, so as not to threadjack just one answer will suffice: Are you... A) Dependent on B) Interdependent with C) Independent of The Roman Catholic church? Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys a girl says she "independent" on profile...red flag? Posted : 9 Dec, 2010 07:33 PM Chuck, If you feel the need to control this thread...I'll play. The answers to your three questions are No No No I am Obedient to God. Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys a girl says she "independent" on profile...red flag? Posted : 9 Dec, 2010 08:05 PM Thank you Archimedes for your answer. Just in case you are wondering, I am interdependent with my church. I am a part of body of Christ is one body with many different parts, interdependent on each other and the body as a whole. (1Corinthians 12:12-26) Are we not to love our wives as Christ loved the church? (Ephesians 5:25) ----interdependent---- Post Reply
View Profile History	Guys a girl says she "independent" on profile...red flag? Posted : 9 Dec, 2010 10:20 PM Chuck, Dependent �relying on or requiring a person or thing for support, supply, or whatever is needed� Yes, the Head depends on the Feet to move it and the Mouth depends on the Hands to feed The Body�so�yes, I am Dependent on The Body of Christ and therefore Interdependent � but your question was of The Catholic Church. I only �depend� on The Truths She holds and The Sacraments She dispenses. Other wise I am independent and of a free will. I would be curious Chuck, to hear what you �depend� on The Body of Christ for? This is good Chuck�we are actually having a conversation where questions are being answered (not avoided). Post Reply

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