Author	Thread: Are men tired of making the first move?
LavButterfly View Profile History	Are men tired of making the first move? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 12:47 PM I'm kind of old fashioned about this and would rather wait for a man to contact me first. Are men just so fed up with making contact first that they want to wait for the woman or what? :angel: Post Reply
JesusEveryday2010 View Profile History	Are men tired of making the first move? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 01:04 PM I agree with you because I've noticed that when I send a message to a guy..I get no response. Yet, they say that "send a message for I'm an open book" or something along that nature. I don't get it, why should I pursue when it's suppose to be the guys doing the pursuing. I know as each generation gets older everything is out the door such as chivlry by opening doors for the woman he loves no matter how long they've been together to actually talking to her first especially if he wants to get to know her. If I'm not mistaken, Father God has made men to be leaders for their families. I don't see how that is any different when it comes to finding their wives by actually talking to her. Perhaps it could be because some of us women are not attractive enough when they see our pictures or that we are independent. Who knows? I guess I'm old-fashioned as well or that I don't want to end up like the women in my family and having to deal with mistrust and infidelity. Also, I'm tired of being burned because of my boldness when it comes to talking to guys. If they are tired of making the first move then it would go along with that I'm tired of being burned and having to put forth the effort of trying to talk to a guy when he possibly might think it's a competition to see which woman would come out on top. That's crazy and I'm not about to be part of that. Yes, I'll send a message to a guy if there is something that interest me but he doesn't respond then it's his own loss, not mine. So no, there isn't anything wrong being old-fashioned, just wish guys would consider why we women don't take likely to that type of pursuing. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are men tired of making the first move? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 02:38 PM On sites like this, it can be pointless making first move. Guess depends what mood I am in whether I feel its worthwhile to write or not. Also, alot of people's profiles are near empty, so don't even know if have enough interests to make contact worthwhile, so move on looking for profiles with more substance. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are men tired of making the first move? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 03:25 PM In the last 50 years the womens movement has redefined the roles of men and women to the point no one knows how to act. Nowadays it is a free for all. However, the one thing that remains consistent is your actions and behavior will attract a certain kind of person......it you are going fishing for a particular kind of fish, you would do well to know what they are biting on. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Are men tired of making the first move? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 04:12 PM What I'm tired of reading, quite frankly, is women complaining and complaining and complaining about men not making the first move, when so many women don't understand how to present themselves to capture a man's attention. The two are related. Second of all, the culture now is that men are not supposed to make the first move, because that's sexist, evil, whatever; even Christian men have been beaten down by that. So how about some compassion? How about some love? How about a little understanding? Post Reply
rainbowian View Profile History	Are men tired of making the first move? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 04:58 PM Yes. It's not much fun having to deal with repeated rejection, being ignored, etc. But why can't women make the first move? Nowhere in the bible does it say that the man has to. If women want to work and get equal pay, they should be equally able to make the first move. Post Reply
LavButterfly View Profile History	Are men tired of making the first move? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 06:55 PM Ok, let me back this train up a bit. Not really complaining or trying to place blame, just trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong in trying to find God's mate for me. I was married nearly 25 years and so I've not really gotten the hang of what's really expected. Finding out I'm not comfortable in contacting a man first and I don't understand why it's not easier to say, "Thanks for the contact, but I'm not interested" than it is to ignore people. I try to respond politely when someone takes the time and initiative to write to me...not so much the winks because they feel like a blanket interest statement. And I do tend to feel that there are many who say to contact them and they just ignore the contacts when they aren't interested. Sorry if it sounded as if I was complaining! As far as profiles not having much information in them, I feel that's true as well. I have tried very hard not to make mine too long to read and yet give some basic information. Maybe you all can suggest what kind of information you LIKE to see in a profile? Thanks for all answers!!! :angel: Post Reply
View Profile History	Are men tired of making the first move? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 07:05 PM If someone takes the time to email me, I always answer because regardless, there is a person on the other end with feelings!! I'm sorry for you guys that have had that happened to you but I will say I have emailed nice messages to guys on here, who never replied, so I know how that feels too!! Post Reply
LavButterfly View Profile History	Are men tired of making the first move? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 08:38 PM @ Godsgirl1965~~ I'm with you! I think it's just respectful of other humans to respond politely, whether it's in the negative or positive. I still think the Golden Rule applies. :angel: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Are men tired of making the first move? Posted : 27 Nov, 2010 09:34 PM To be honest, yes we do get tired. Women seem to think that men are so different than they are, and that we have some sort of immunity to putting ourselves out there and being rejected. Any sort of immunity we have is really a lot more like a callous. If you get rejected enough, it doesn't hurt so much anymore. I believe men are supposed to be leaders, but that doesn't mean that women should make things difficult for us. If you see a guy on here you like, you should message him. The internet is like a crowded party, and if you don't say hi first, he may never so much as see you. There is much more to being a leader in a relationship than just saying hi first. Sure you might be ignored or rejected, but just think of it as a taste of what men go through. Post Reply
i_live_in_canada View Profile History	Are men tired of making the first move? Posted : 28 Nov, 2010 01:22 AM I say if you want some thing go for it. That has worked for me. It's good to start off a bit slow and be fun. Don't come on too strong as that can be a turn off. Let them see you and they might make the first move. Post Reply

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