Author	Thread: Love as a choice
Admin	Love as a choice Posted : 15 Nov, 2010 12:16 PM I was wondering if a love is a choice why can't we choose not to love the one who breaks your heart? Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Love as a choice Posted : 15 Nov, 2010 01:05 PM You don't have to, we should love everyone. If you have real love for someone, it shouldn't ever go away. Just don't be in a relationship with them. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Love as a choice Posted : 15 Nov, 2010 01:12 PM Hi KJ, I'm a bit confused by your question... "We" have a choice in All things (free will.) "We" can choose to love or not to love someone or something. To choose to stop or continue to love someone or something. "We" even choose to have Jesus as Lord and Savior of our life or not. So, if you "love" someone who keeps breaking your heart ... Those are both a choice right? It would be a choice to give someone that much power to break your heart weather it be once or several times. And, it would be a choice to love that person. I hope my answer helped. :) Blessings, saved3 Post Reply
View Profile History	Love as a choice Posted : 15 Nov, 2010 01:34 PM Yeah it was a question posted in my prayer group the other day. But I do have friends who have been in love and they've had their hearts broken then can't move on cause they are still in love with the person... so it made me wonder. yes we should love everyone but i think there is some basis and merit to my question. Post Reply
View Profile History	Love as a choice Posted : 15 Nov, 2010 09:24 PM .. because in making the choice to love someone else, you are basically making a decision, a intentional commitment to actively return positive regard, affection and desire to them. In so doing, you make yourself vulnerable, you gamble that your emotional and personal stake is going to be appreciated and expected. The sad thing in relationships is that this doesn't always work out very well in the mingling of lives in real time, let alone over the limited media of texting, emailing, picture sharing and even phone calls. A lot of personal stake you put into someone else can be easily lost in your attempt to translate it into a verb through the medium of your own life. So when the relationship takes its course, plays out and you realize that the one you chose to love DOESN'T in fact feel the same way and may even want out, you feel broken, hurt and rejected .. and the dreams you shared weren't what you thought, but you can't accept that. You want the vibe, the feeling, the remembrance of that warm glow of affection you briefly basked in. Your decision making can't help but break down .. and that's why you find it hard to choose NOT to love .. Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	Love as a choice Posted : 17 Nov, 2010 09:54 AM no, I DON"T think you choose who you love. That's why it hurts so badly at times. I do think, however, you choose to stay in "active" relationships. For instance, I still deeply love my EX, even though the man he once was in long gone, and I had to leave him to protect myself and my daughter. My daughter and I still deeply love her first love, and we pray for him everyday. I have even asked people here to pray for him. He is, however, on serious mind-altering drugs, so my daughter and I don't see or have direct contact with him. Maybe this is what is meant by "Tough Love"? Post Reply
mariavicenta View Profile History	Love as a choice Posted : 18 Nov, 2010 12:25 AM well indeed love is a choice..it's a choice using our hearts and minds... i have loved and been hurt..and learned frm it.. Love...love..love..is not all abt roses, but also thorns..:hearts: mariavicenta..:nicenurse: Post Reply