Author	Thread: How close is too close/how far away is too distant?
marikashome View Profile History	How close is too close/how far away is too distant? Posted : 14 Nov, 2010 09:10 PM On a first or second date, how close do you expect to sit to someone you barely know except through e-mail/chat? How about someone you've been vaguely acquainted with but have never gotten to visit with much before? Do you hope to: hold hands? cuddle? nuzzle her ears? kiss? put an arm around her? or visit and get to know her? Post Reply
View Profile History	How close is too close/how far away is too distant? Posted : 14 Nov, 2010 10:37 PM On a First Date I sit exactly 14.5 inches away. The only part of her body that I touch is her shoulder and one hand and never more than two times! :ROFL: You asked: "Do you hope to: hold hands? (I believe that would be awkward and inappropriate for a first date) cuddle? (Again...on a first date!?!?) nuzzle her ears? (only if she is a Beagle) kiss? (?!?!?!) put an arm around her? (Why?) or visit and get to know her" (I believe that is what is called for) Peace Post Reply
View Profile History	How close is too close/how far away is too distant? Posted : 14 Nov, 2010 11:10 PM This is something you cannot quantify as it changes from person to person and there being two persons. It is all about feel; sometimes you feel it, sometimes you don't and sometimes you dont like what you do feel. Sometimes "it" is there for both or neither, but it becomes awkward when "it" is there for only one. Post Reply
View Profile History	How close is too close/how far away is too distant? Posted : 14 Nov, 2010 11:33 PM Nuzzling her ear?? Isn't that like sticking your nose in someone's ear? I'm not sure I'd ever want to do that or have that done to me. I also don't like to have my face licked or to be drooled on. I'd be open to doing all of the other things on a first date, though things would have to be going quite well. Also, I'm always changing my mind on the kissing issue. Sometimes, I think I want to wait until marriage; but, I'm not sure I could resist kissing somebody whom I really like. I would like to be hugged!! Kissing me on my forehead or the top of my head would be very sweet =) Post Reply
View Profile History	How close is too close/how far away is too distant? Posted : 14 Nov, 2010 11:34 PM Oh, I also don't like biting! It hurts! I don't know why guys like to do that!! Post Reply
View Profile History	How close is too close/how far away is too distant? Posted : 15 Nov, 2010 12:03 AM Can't stick my nose in your ear, can't drool on your face....... Well thanks alot pixy; you just managed to ruin all my fantasies for you! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	How close is too close/how far away is too distant? Posted : 15 Nov, 2010 06:32 AM Well, meeting off the internet I usually like coffee for a first date. It's cheap, but somehow comes off as upscale compared to fast food or something. There's also plenty of witnesses in case she tries to kidnap me. How close we sit tends to be limited by the size of the available tables. At about 45 minutes, whether I really like her or not, I'm calling it a day. None of this talking for 4 hours stuff. While we're technically strangers, we probably know each other better than a lot of people who go on first dates. I mean, with the girl I'm going on a date with Tuesday, I know her name, that she's from Texas, that she's in the Christian sorority, and a few of her likes and dislikes. That much is usually covered in a decent profile, no message needed. The first date is just to answer the question, "Do we really enjoy each other's company like we thought we would?" (after you answer the question, "Is she actually who she said she is and not a 45 year old man?") I may take her arm and lead her to the table if it seems fitting, but I'm not gonna actually try to hold hands, and I like to finish the first date with a hug. You can read a lot into a hug. No need for cuddling, kissing, nuzzling, or any of that stuff. Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	How close is too close/how far away is too distant? Posted : 15 Nov, 2010 06:36 AM Thanks, all. I don't like to be drooled on, licked, bit or ear-nuzzled, even by my pets, so I'm with you Pixy. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	How close is too close/how far away is too distant? Posted : 15 Nov, 2010 07:08 AM I'm not a guy, of course, but here's how I would LIKE for a guy to handle "distance"! Q: How close do you expect to sit to someone you barely know except through e-mail/chat? How about someone you've been vaguely acquainted with but have never gotten to visit with much before? A: Across the table from me! If we are at a restaurant or coffee shop, that would probably be close enough for conversation, but far enough away that it's not awkward. It would also allow me to actually LOOK at him while we talked. The same would apply whether or not I met him online or if we were just acquaintances. Do you hope to: hold hands? -- No, not the first date...maybe the 3rd or 4th. cuddle? -- No, not until we are really sure we want to date seriously, and even then, serious cuddling would need to wait until we are engaged...or married. nuzzle her ears? -- Ew, gross...NO. kiss? -- No, not until we are engaged; a kiss on the cheek would be appropriate a bit earlier, but not on the 1st or 2nd date (or 3rd or 4th, or 5th...) put an arm around her? -- Depends on how it's done...that could be inappropriate, or just friendly. or visit and get to know her? -- YES! This is what I would primarily want to do on the first date! Post Reply
View Profile History	How close is too close/how far away is too distant? Posted : 15 Nov, 2010 01:08 PM twosparrows and Tulip ... you guys ALWAYS break me up!!! :ROFL::ROFL::ROFL: Thanks I NEEDED that ... I ALWAYS need that, of course!!! :yay::yay::yay::applause::applause::applause: Laughter IS the BAREFOOT BEST MEDICINE (next to BAREFOOT SEX IN MARRIAGE, of course!!!) from God for one's emotions!!! :laugh::laugh::laugh::dancingp::dancingp::dancingp::rocknroll::rocknroll::rocknroll: Getting serious, though, I agree that it all depends on the "it" you're both feeling ... AND where you are HAVING your first DATE after your "getting to know each other time" online ... can you imagine trying to nuzzle the gal or guy's ear in a restaurant like Bob Evan's or Starbucks etc with all the people AND kids too, perhaps, so close to ya in other booths or at other tables? Talk about INSTANT "OUT THE DOOR" for YOU, man or madam!!! :eat::rolleyes::ROFL::ROFL::ROFL: Steve Post Reply
marikashome View Profile History	How close is too close/how far away is too distant? Posted : 15 Nov, 2010 04:24 PM OK, part II of the question: If you "felt it" and the lady didn't, how would you prefer she let you know that, especially if you were in a very public setting? Would her drawing slightly back or politely explaining that she wasn't comfortable with very close proximity until she knew a person much better be enough, or would you need her to be more blatant? If she needs to be more blatant, what would you like her to say or do to make things clear? Post Reply