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Are Christian women getting too picky these days............?
Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 12:54 AM

Being choosey narrows the field of potential partners that's true, and having boundaries and conditions is beneficial also....so where is the line drawn?



Have Christian women become too picky in seeking a potential partner? It is written in Scripture not to be unequally yolked and tells us how to treat a husband/wife...so for those of us Bible believing followers, we have foundations to start with....so why so many Christian women (including me) not finding what we are looking for??



I am thinking maybe we have gotten off track and are chasing a more "worldly" ideal man.....Brad Pitt looks does not necessarily mean happy ever after................or are looks a large slice of the "happiness" pie...?



It seems to be harder as a person gets older to find a suitable partner but I am blown away by how many 20 somethings are also not finding what they are looking for.....seems like something has really gone wrong somehow....

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Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 06:14 AM

I think that both men and women are too picky these days. There has been such a push for �perfect� marriages that it has gone too far. I am not saying that one should compromise on Christian principals, absolutely never. But, people need to realize that you can�t marry the perfect husband or the perfect wife. It takes practice to become perfect, and you have to be married to be able to practice at being the perfect husband or wife.



One needs to look at the person�s character and what they can become, and stop expecting the person to be �perfect� now.

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Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 07:53 AM

Nowadays women say they want a husband when what they really want is a masculine male wife.

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Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 09:00 AM

@ 2 interesting :goofball:

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Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 01:48 PM

I agree with what you have said about being perfect "now"....



Marriage is for life and it takes that long to get it right!

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Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 02:01 PM

Two sparrows! I have NEVER heard that one before but it did make me laugh :laugh:

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Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 03:03 PM

What is the definition of "picky" here? I believe that DEEP within a ladies heart, that women are desiring the same things that they did some forty years ago. Godly morals, honesty, integrety, communication, gently love. But what has happened over these years? "Worldly" men was mentioned. Take a cup of red dye and add it to a gallon bucket of clear water. Now put that bucket under a slow dripping tab of "worldly" values. Over time that gallon of red dye is not as strong in color as it used to be. Statistics tell us that 50% of Christian couples were getting divorces in the 80's! How are Christian values being taught to the next generations? How are young boys being taught to love, when no example of that is there before them? I feel that this generation is very selfish, and self-centered. "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it."

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Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 03:59 PM

Yes they are. Dating is easier for women. Just looking at some profiles I see several women that are on 15+ favorites lists. When you have a lot of options you end up wanting the perfect option instead of just picking one that you can be happy with. Lori Gottlieb wrote a good book about this.



I think the line should be between need and want. Something that you need is important, something that you want ultimately isn't important. Hopefully that makes sense.

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Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 04:26 PM

I'm glad you mentioned the favourites thing...I really don't get that...I wonder if it becomes somewhat of a measuring stick in deciding if that particualr "profile" is worth reading...the higher the favourites number the "better" the person....





Just a thought!

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Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 04:52 PM

@Oshen

Just now added you as a favorite; Do you feel "better"? Quick go look in the mirror; do you look any different? I am always here to help: see just by knowing me I have made you a better person! Although I must confess I had to search for the" favorites" button. Truth be known, I suspect there is a mathematical formula behind this phenomena that goes something like this:

For women~

(weight � height) - weight x # of sq inches of skin showing = # of favorites

For men

(weight � height) + height � annual income = # of favorites

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Posted : 29 Oct, 2010 06:17 PM

Rainbow: I have seen men's profiles on here with 30+ people listing them as favorites. It is not just women who have that.

2Sparrows: somehow I doubt your formula :goofball:

The way it was explained to me is that you can add someone to your favorite (as your favorite? what is the correct way to phrase that?) and that way it is easier to message and IM them - you just go to your favorite list and click them. That is what I was told when I asked about it, anyway.

As for Christian women getting picky..... well, I think the same thing could be made about Christian men. I don't think it is just one or the other.

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