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Admin	plus size Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 12:11 PM Hello guys, It seems that for the plus size woman who loves GOD it is still hard to get into a relationship,it makes me upset when men tell me I have a beautiful face but I am too much for them to handle or else I get hit on by guys who can be my dad:boxing:, I believe GOD did not intend for every1 to be the same size. Guys why does it seem u all are afraid if BBW'S ?:peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	plus size Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 12:55 PM Hey girl! I can tell you from recent discussions that most of the guys that post here on the forum at this time don't want their women voluptuous or BBW. I happen to like the older guys, but there are a lot of younger guys that like women with meat on their bones. I don't know if there is a nest of them somewhere or where hide out but there is no shortage of em here in Indy. I find the older guys consider your size less important & they become more 'woman like' in their thinking, not caring about the outer shell as much as a woman's virtue & character. They want a good woman who they can spend the rest of their life. A good, fun companion who will love them and they give back in return. That has been my experience anyway. Post Reply
View Profile History	plus size Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 12:57 PM No guy in their right mind is going to touch this question which leaves me and perhaps a few other brave or foolish souls. I am believing your question is sincere, therfore let's strip it of the good and bad stereotypes by asking a few questions : GENERALLY. speaking would you say. . . . Most women want to date a man who is taller than them? Most women want a man who is stronger than them? * let those questions soak in* Now would you agree women over 6 feet tall have a harder time getting dates? Now let's take a look at men: Would you agree that very short men have a harder time getting a date? If you follow the logic here you can see where weight fits in; I would venture to say that just as most women have preferences in height most men prefer a woman to weigh less than themselves. You are blessed to be overweight, for there is nothing one can do about being to tall, to short or to ugly. I know a few guys who have trouble getting dates cause they can't see their feet past their belly, yet I never heard one of them say ; "Why can't I find someone to love me for me?" They know right off what it is. They either lose weight or get rich. :laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	plus size Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 01:12 PM i am not overweight i just happen to have more than the size 4 woman, and i love myself , i also am from the Caribbean so my weight never was or ever shall be a problem for me. But Christian men need to look past weight and look at hearts. Lol BBW does not mean we are at the bottom of the barrel. I asked because my BF who is a christian and wants to get married so badly started dating an unbeliever because the men in church to her seemed to scorn her, her words not mine. We exercise got to the gym we are healthy and smart women of GOD also. Post Reply
View Profile History	plus size Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 01:14 PM 1babygirl, I better get my butt down to indy find a good church and a good man, lol. But we deserve lol i just do not want some1 who is 50+. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	plus size Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 01:47 PM For me it's not so much the weight. I'm attracted to people that are natural/healthy/active, and I do know mildly overweight women that are all of those things. I just want to have a long, healthy, and active marriage. I'm not against dating people that are overweight, as long as they are still healthy/natural looking, and as long as they can do active things(bike riding, rollerblading, hiking, etc). I'm pretty active and adventurous, and I don't want to marry someone that I have to leave behind whenever I want to do those things. Marriage isn't all about "looking past the shell", it's more about finding someone you can share life with in every way possible. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	plus size Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 02:15 PM I was eating a carrot the other day, apparently my dog thought since I was enjoying it, it must taste good. So I snapped a piece off the very carrot I was eating and gave it to her. She sniffed it then looked back to me for something tasty to her. I told her "look I broke a piece off this very carrot I am eating now, yum yum it is so good, go head and try it" Evidently it didn't matter to her what I thought the carrot tasted like since she was going to be the one eating it. Hmmm. . .food for thought Post Reply
i_live_in_canada View Profile History	plus size Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 02:56 PM Ah the weight issue. We all have our ideal person in mind as far as looks go. Like I have said the men I have dated before have been all sizes. I didn't necessarily find them attractive at the start but over time there looks grew on me. You just need to meet guys as friends first. Don't put the pressure on them for a relationship because till they get to know you they are just going on what's on the out side. I would rather not date some one out of shape. Like has been said I would want some one to be able to move around and be active. Now if they are big but in good health then that's fine. Post Reply
View Profile History	plus size Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 03:19 PM Val, girl come on up here! I go to a good church home, it's da bomb! I agree that we should all be as healthy as we can, good healthy comes in different sizes and weight. I don't agree with the idea that most men want a smaller woman. The media of course would have us think that and everybody YALL know may think along those lines, but I know too many everyday thick folk that are married and actively pursued. Val, on fb there is a group that I recently joined called 'Voluptuously Yours'. I posted a pic on it and I have gotten so many friend requests from black, hispanic & white men that I don't know, I've been trippin'. I can obviously see the lust in some of their eyes jumpin right off their pics, but the point is they all complimented me on being beautiful to them & my confidence. So they are out there, it is just a matter of taste.:rocknroll: Post Reply
View Profile History	plus size Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 03:29 PM u what I think is so funny the media wants everybody to be the same size right,did the media make us LOL God knew everybody could not look alike and be the same size. i think any person man or woman can be a larger size and still be healthy. There was a time in my life i never liked myself but now i know a great secret GOD loves me always will he ain't ever gonna say I cannot come to him cause i am too big. I got my confidence and my swagger back from GOD whose image i am mad in. I just do not like to see big women looking for love out of the church is all. Love you all Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	plus size Posted : 16 Oct, 2010 06:00 PM Twosparrows is right. However, because I am "out of my mind for Christ", I will touch this! Val, you are right in that we all come in various sizes. You are also right in that the world has an unhealthy fixation with cramming every woman into a size 0. However, the basic desire of men to want someone that is not overweight is not evil. It is what we like, in much the same way that women do not want a shy guy or an overweight man or a man who is short. I will say this, though -- if you were thinner, that alone would not get you a date. I think that the issue may in fact be elsewhere. Let me explain what I mean. Women like tall men, right? I'm tall, but being tall isn't enough. Women like guys who make good money, right? I do pretty well, but that's not enough. Women like guys who are in good shape, right? I could use some work on my tum-tum, but I'm in good shape; that's not enough. The single thing that has made the most difference in my life in getting positive reactions from the opposite sex has been basing my self-esteem on what Jesus says about me instead of what the world says about me. I have worth and value that no-one can take from me and because of that, I can be confident and courageous. I'd give it two weeks of claiming your unbreakable identity in Christ and see if you see changes, too. I bet that you will. Post Reply

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