Author	Thread: Feminine men...why?
bcpianogal View Profile History	Feminine men...why? Posted : 10 Oct, 2010 05:57 PM Guys, I have a weird question for y'all. Why do some guys go out of their way to look feminine? I'm not talking about cross dressers, or gay guys who wear makeup. I'm talking about straight guys who say they want to get married (to a girl, of course). I got a message from a guy the other day. His message was fine, so I viewed his profile. I swear, at first I thought I'd clicked on the wrong one. He looked like a lady. It wasn't just his facial features, though they were somewhat feminine; his hair was long and styled, he was posing in feminine poses, his clothing was very gender-neutral, and the whole thing just really creeped me out. The rest of his profile was OK, though I saw some things in it that were red flags for me personally. But the pictures... *shudder* Apparently this guy wanted to come across the way he did. He certainly could have cut his hair (or at least not had it styled!), worn clothes that were obviously guy clothes, and posed in more masculine poses. But he didn't. So what would make a guy intentionally present himself as very feminine? I know that a guy can't help his facial features, and some guys just have a feminine look to them (which is totally fine), but why play up those features? Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Feminine men...why? Posted : 10 Oct, 2010 06:55 PM Maybe he's looking for a manly woman:laugh:. There also seems to be a rash of men that do not like the popular concept of "men" and do not like to be associated with their contemporaries, so maybe he's trying to distance himself. It may have something to do with having poor/horrible father figures or no father figure at all, I don't know. I know that if I didn't have the fine father figure that I was blessed with I might be in the same boat, because I really can't stand most "dudes" and I don't want anything to do with them or have anything in common with them. It's depressing/frustrating, because nowadays you are usually instantly judged by general stereotypes, and you have to jump through a ton of hoops to prove you aren't "like that". Maybe he was trying to make it hard to be judged by a specific stereotype, and trying to put himself in with another stereotype he feels closer too. I'm not saying it's "right" or "good", but I can kinda see what might possibly be the mindset behind it. To want to be "straight", but not be associated with most "straight" guys. :peace::peace: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Feminine men...why? Posted : 10 Oct, 2010 08:35 PM Mark makes some good points. Maybe he's such a nice guy that he made a really great friend to a lot of girls, so much so that he started behaving just like their girl friends? Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Feminine men...why? Posted : 11 Oct, 2010 03:50 AM I think Mark is on target here. I can't agree with what the guy chose, but I really do get wanting to separate yourself from most guys. I, too, don't get along with most guys (I find that they have monster attitudes, are stuck on themselves, are obnoxious and self-righteous, etc), and so I don't want to have any part of that. I think was a trend towards more feminine men, and now we're seeing the blowback from that. Remember metrosexuals? Maybe this guy is just behind the curve or bought into it too much. Post Reply
View Profile History	Feminine men...why? Posted : 11 Oct, 2010 04:54 AM The guys have come up with what seems like very valid points as to the why a guy would play up his features and choose to be more feminine then masculine. People are really good at self-denial. If a guy is feminine, that is a spirit. He either is gay or a transsexual & hasn't come to terms with how he feels. If he has chosen to be feminine when he is really not in order to distance himself from a certain group, that, in my opinion, is mentally unhealthy, and again, my opinion, the worse of the two. Now that it's trending & more acceptable, how many people have come out of a 'normal' way of being or heterosexual relationships, to say that they have been gay or uncomfortable in their gender all along? Judith Baxter(I think that is Mike Fox's mom from Family Ties, name) and Cher's daughter, just to name a couple of celebrities. People aren't aware that there is deliverance for these things. Hard to say where all the different perversions that people deal with originated unless you research each individual case. But you can be sure that sin is the at the root. God made man and he made woman. Everything else is a perversion orchestrated by Satan to steal God's glory from His original intent of His creation. Post Reply
RenewedReborn View Profile History	Feminine men...why? Posted : 11 Oct, 2010 11:30 AM I agree with you pcpianogal, I also want a man to look like a man - neat hair thats trimmed or long hair thats styled. I once dated a guy who wore colored contacts, not sure what was going on, but I thought it was a little different. I'm not judging men who want to play up there strong or unique points, but I have to say that I do not want a man that I'm dating to look more feminie than I do. I also agree with Mark, I can see a guy not wanting to fit into a certain mold of a man (wanting to be different), but no one should mistake a man for a woman if he is not purposely trying to look like one. Post Reply
View Profile History	Feminine men...why? Posted : 11 Oct, 2010 11:20 PM I just saw a picture of a guy on here who had hair like mine, only blond!!!!!!! I'm not sure if he's being feminine or if maybe I just look masculine! I think that God created men and women to be unique and that we should be content with that. Being glad with what God has given us shows respect for Him and honors Him. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Feminine men...why? Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 09:49 AM Thanks for your input! I had never thought of choosing a more feminine appearance as a way of breaking free from certain cultural expectations and such. I still think I prefer a more masculine guy, though. Nerdy/geeky is ok too, as it is one form of masculine. But when I have to look under the 'gender' category to determine what the person is, I'm not likely to look much farther!!! Post Reply
hubbarddebra99 View Profile History	Feminine men...why? Posted : 12 Oct, 2010 12:50 PM type faster, i hear Areosmith:ROFL: Dude looks like a lady:ROFL: Post Reply