Author	Thread: Should women pursue men?
Jeremiah21 View Profile History	Should women pursue men? Posted : 2 Oct, 2010 07:21 AM Should women pursue men in the courting process? Post Reply
View Profile History	Should women pursue men? Posted : 2 Oct, 2010 08:13 AM First, I thought you were a dude, cause of Jeremiah. Then, I see you a woman with a wedding dress and veil! That must make for a interesting talking point in your emails. You made a beautiful bride. I know people have always said men should do the pursuing, first because of the hunting thing they got going on (or is that taught?), second cause of the scripture that says a man that finds a wife has found good thing. Well, I am putting these things together. First, Eve was presented to Adam, he did not have to go out and find her. The scripture everybody quotes doesn't necessarily mean dude went out and found her but rather he that has a wife has a good thing. Third, I look at the steps that Ruth took to secure Boaz and I say that we can't put God in a box. I think many women are sitting at home unmarried cause they have decided God can & will only move in one way. I say once you have prayed, however the Spirit moves you to move, do that. P.S. I think everytime we go out, look nice with the hope of snagging a man's attention, we have entered the game whether we are the first to speak or not. Post Reply
View Profile History	Should women pursue men? Posted : 2 Oct, 2010 08:51 AM I mostly think not. It's like a friendly game of tag where the point is to be close, almost within reach and then sometimes caught. The trick is to get the guy to only want to chase you. This used to confuse me because it seemed so one sided (as in guy does all the work showers her with praise affection and attention and all she does is just sit there), but that isn't the case and one day I realized "Wait a minute, this IS a game." Like darts, pool, or poker: it's fun. Nothing more, nothing less. Girls I say: Stay on your toes, be something to almost catch, but not quite except sometimes and just make us want to endlessly pursue. Post Reply
View Profile History	Should women pursue men? Posted : 2 Oct, 2010 09:20 AM I would say that women should be pursuable. I've known women that wished they were married, but they didn't go anywhere, didn't talk to guys, they wouldn't put themselves out there. You can't just sit around and wait for some guy to come along, show some interest in the guy. Dating is just like any relationship, both have to work at building it, you can't just expect the other person to do all the work. For me, I am not that big on starting the relationship in just the perfect way. How you first meet, why you go out with him for the first time, none of that is important. The important part is that two people get together. Post Reply
View Profile History	Should women pursue men? Posted : 2 Oct, 2010 09:38 AM What Cobbler said: I've known women that wished they were married, but they didn't go anywhere, didn't talk to guys, they wouldn't put themselves out there. You can't just sit around and wait for some guy to come along, show some interest in the guy. What I say: :laugh: SO true. Post Reply
View Profile History	Should women pursue men? Posted : 2 Oct, 2010 10:31 AM Brandon: You sure are an authority on your own opinion. :ROFL: Post Reply
paschen81 View Profile History	Should women pursue men? Posted : 2 Oct, 2010 11:06 AM What Cobbler said: I've known women that wished they were married, but they didn't go anywhere, didn't talk to guys, they wouldn't put themselves out there. You can't just sit around and wait for some guy to come along, show some interest in the guy. What Brandon said: SO true. What I say: yes I agree as well however, there is no where to "go" where I live and sometimes between working hard to pay all the bills and going to school full time so that I won't always have to work so hard to pay all the bills doesn't leave much time to do much else. Also, by saying no where to go... I mean that interests me...I do not enjoy the "bar scene" which is about all there is to do around here. Everything else is usually activities that can be done solo as for talking to guys, I talk to guys all the time... just seems that I also tend to intimidate them as well haha. So now what? Post Reply
View Profile History	Should women pursue men? Posted : 2 Oct, 2010 11:56 AM Yes and no. I pursued InHisHonor (my boyfriend) as a friend and invested a lot of time in the friendship because I enjoyed him and because I hoped something else might become of it... because I was (and still am) very attracted to him. I think I may have finally met the person who I can't scare away =) But anyways, I didn't really pursue things beyond the point of friendship because I was afraid of getting rejected and of ruining the friendship and because I really do think the guy should lead in that area. There were moments when I was really tempted to suggest that we be more than just friends, but I never truly felt led by the Lord to do that and felt the prompting that I needed to be patient. So I mainly just prayed a lot that God would guide our friendship and that InHisHonour would have the courage to speak up and say something if he did like me romantically. And that if he didn't, that it would become clear to me too, so that I wouldn't be sitting around over here pining away after someone who didn't want a relationship w/ me. I'm really glad I waited to let him pursue me =) Post Reply
View Profile History	Should women pursue men? Posted : 2 Oct, 2010 11:59 AM But even w/ all the hoping and praying, I was totally shocked that he was even attracted me and when he first said something, I didn't even respond that night because I was so shocked and didn't know what to say. I waited like a night or two and was then like, "Remember the other night when you said..." Post Reply
View Profile History	Should women pursue men? Posted : 2 Oct, 2010 12:15 PM @Cobbler: Yes I am. :laugh: Post Reply
View Profile History	Should women pursue men? Posted : 2 Oct, 2010 03:36 PM This is a BAREFOOT GREAT question with a lot of BAREFOOT SENSATIONAL AND THOUGHTFUL answers!!! :hearts: I feel it should be a little (or a LOT) of both, depending on the two people involved and the leading of your heart by God ... I LOVE, LOVE, BAREFOOT LOVE to be barefoot romantic in pursuing a gal who has attracted me in some SPECIAL BAREFOOT WAY ... AND I LOVE, LOVE, BAREFOOT LOVE to be barefoot romantically pursued by a gal who has found ME to be attractive to HER in SOME BAREFOOT SPECIAL WAY, whether it's my heart, spirit, faith, looks, mutual interests and loves or whatever the special attraction may be ... but it's ALWAYS important to me ... and I hope to her too ... that whatever pursuing we do is kept in prayer and guided by the Holy Spirit ... that we might ALWAYS be pleasing to God in our pursuit of each other!!! :hearts: So ... my answer and feeling personally is: YES, I feel it's OK and not displeasing to God if a woman is attracted to a man to pursue him in a proper before God way ... and vice versa. Steve Post Reply

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