Author	Thread: Okay let me have it
jlaughlin0002 View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 12:05 AM I get virtually no mail. I am wondering if there is something that is a major turn off in my profile. Keep in mind that I am not going to remove anything that is the truth. Thanks everyone :waving: Post Reply
View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 03:28 AM Hey girl! The guys may have an opinion about your profile, but remember the answers will be varied because EVERYBODY has an opinion based on their own preferences. I didn't even go look at your profile, because I'm an advocate for being yourself and not adjusting your profile based on what others want to see. But rather your profile should be exactly how YOU want it, sharing what YOU want to share, said how YOU want it said and you more likely (my opinion) to get with someone who gets the 'real you'. Also, many women believe that men should make the first move. In real life, yeah I agree, but in this venue, I think the rules change. If you, check out guys profiles, they will in turn check you out and you have put yourself 'out there' to be viewed. Which in turn, increases the likelihood of winks & emails. Remember there are thousands of women here. Also, keep in mind the % of pple here who are 'real' Christians (talkin bout a change of heart, no longer in active sin, relationship with God type of Christian) is smaller than it should be for a Christian site. So if you have indications that you a serious, no nonsense Christian woman, pple who are playin' may pass you by. Praise God for it! Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 03:59 AM Well, to be honest, the profile is pretty sparse and it doesn't give much insight into what makes you tick. The profile is your chance to shine! What you're experiencing is not unusual. Most profiles I've seen of women are just kinda there and I think it's because women are not used to presenting themselves. If you want an example of a great profile, see pixy's. Post Reply
View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 05:06 AM I hestitate go up against Silver, who is looking kinda intimidating with his arms crossed looking down at me......okay wait....:ROFL::ROFL:...alright, I'm back. No, for real doe, if people were more confident & knew who they were, we would have the attitude that people must take us how we are or not at all. If you start going to people's profiles & trying to mimic or pull ideas from them, you lose who YOU are and essentially become a poser. Be who YOU is. I'm just playin' Silver. Post Reply
View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 06:11 AM One of the things that I look for are common interest. That makes it easier start the "conversation" when you have a common interest. You talk about your qualities and that is a lot harder to try to write to you about. Hey! You are patient? Really? So am I.:rolleyes: That just doesn't work. Try listing some of your hobbies, interests, or things you like to do. Post Reply
Jaywar View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 06:57 AM Not to sound weird, but the way you presented your profile, you gave more information about your daughter than you did yourself. I'm pretty sure this wasn't intentional, but just something to keep in mind. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 08:45 AM As others have said, your profile really doesn't tell us much about you. "I am a single woman who is hard working and looking for someone to share my life with. I am funny and outgoing and I love a good laugh," are pretty empty phrases. They say things, but they don't really say anything unique. I'm not saying to be someone you aren't, or to change yourself. I'm saying that you need to put MORE of yourself into your profile. No guy has the time to message every woman on this site. When we read a profile, we need a reason to message you. Even if I wanted to message you, about the best I could come up with would be a comment on college. Maybe mention where you grew up, some more specific hobbies, highlight experiences, and other things that make you unique. That way, when a guy comes across your profile, he'll get a much better idea of who you are and be far more likely to message you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 11:03 AM My profile... haha... I wiped it clean a few days ago. All that's left is a bunch of "prefer not to says" and my statement about being attached! I was hoping this would deter people, but it actually seems to have had only a minimal affect. I'm still getting an average of 1 message a day from a guy who I haven't spoken to before and established a friendship with. Maybe I could send them all links to the OP's profile? Or, anyone else who wants more attention? :goofball: Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 11:23 AM I only took a look at your profile because of the various replies you get on your OP. 3 members have put you on their favourite list.... so your profile is not fully without attention.... (good for you) You state that you have too many interests to list.... pick one and talk a little about it in your profile. If you are shy or modest.... make sure that your profile will not look dull instead. Everybody has something intruiging and interesting. Perhaps you dream about sailing around the world, even if you know that you never get to do it. Or go to a broadway show or safari in Africa. Mention your favourite food. Just an ordinary remark that personalizes a lot without becoming very intimate. What book are you currently reading, what horrible movie you still are recovering from. etc etc etc. Some members update their profile every 15 days. With current information about what they have done and will do. They also ask questions: Please let me know what you think of ...... You can make a little blog/diary within your profile so that you will be giving besides your personalia some info about your activities and your life .... It is a great way for people to get to know a little better and they have something to respond to besides your profile Just some ideas to ponder on. :waving: Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 03:01 PM Ok, ok, so don't go see Pixy's profile now...:nahnah: But what I was trying to get at was not "hey, go copy her style", but rather make your profile reflect you. Her old profile was a stream-of-consciousness scattershot of ideas, some inchoate, some fully-developed, all expressed in a unique and engaging style. When you were done reading, you had a strong impression of the person. Make your profile engage the reader with your interests, your viewpoints, your passions, your dislikes -- what makes you tick. I don't want to seem vain, but I tried to do that with mine. Post Reply
View Profile History	Okay let me have it Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 06:34 PM What up e'verbody! I don't know what the author of the post is thinking since she hasn't commented yet, but I do see what yall are saying. My point is that the fact that she didn't post hobbies/interests as much as qualities says a lot about who she is. I believe putting that into her profile would have occured to her if it was important. If we can keep it one hundred, most guys are looking at the pictures as the main motivation as to whether they are interested in getting to know a woman further. She can have the greatest profile/personality/love football, drink beer and never say 'Can We Talk?' and her profile will never get read if she doesn't physically appeal. (buttaface) In fact, I will dare to say that a woman could have absolutely nothing written in her profile but if she is beautiful (whatever that means to you) she will be hundreds of favorites. But I suppose since she asked, she will take all of you alls advice to try to get a different result than she's been getting, so I humbly recede into the background....fade to black.... :laugh: Post Reply

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