Author	Thread: Asked for phone number
ashyah View Profile History	Asked for phone number Posted : 27 Sep, 2010 08:29 PM Hi, There have been two men that have started emailing me. One after the very first email sent me his number to call him.The other after the second email. He said he is leaving the site soon. Got to watch out for scammers right? Post Reply
View Profile History	Asked for phone number Posted : 27 Sep, 2010 09:02 PM Yea, I would give it time, probably lots of time. If he likes you he won't leave the site. Men can be grand schemers and liars and generally be full of shiitake mushrooms...hehe Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Asked for phone number Posted : 27 Sep, 2010 09:46 PM They could be trying to prove that they aren't scammers by giving you a real phone number. Regardless, they shouldn't have given you their numbers. They should have asked for yours (and not in the first email!). Post Reply
View Profile History	Asked for phone number Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 03:36 AM There are a lot of scammers who target people on this site, since this is a free dating site, and this site does not verify who you actually are. If you give someone your personal information, you have no way of tracking down who they are. Even though you would have their telephone number, they could have purchased a pre paid phone that does not require personal information to activate. Please don't take this the wrong way, but you are good candidate for a confidence scam, someone who uses a romantic relationship to try and get some money from you. I would take it slow with someone before giving them your information on this site. If he truly is interested in you, then he will stick around. If he is just scamming, then he will try to pull you off this site. Post Reply
DEEDEE72 View Profile History	Asked for phone number Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 06:46 AM Why is he leaving the site soon? Why does that mean someone can be a scammer? Post Reply
ashyah View Profile History	Asked for phone number Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 10:43 AM And, some of these phone numbers can be numbers that you call and then be charged thousands of dollars. Post Reply
View Profile History	Asked for phone number Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 02:48 PM Or you can call and block your number! GOD BLESS! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Asked for phone number Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 03:37 PM Ultimately, you have to put yourself out there a little bit. Do I think you should call a guy in Nigeria offering you untold riches if you can help him move some of his father's gold into an American account? Not at all. Do I think you should meet a guy in a back alley in a bad part of town by yourself at night? Of course not. Do I think a guy should be passing out his number in the first or second message? Nope. But if you click in the first several emails, he lives nearby, and wants to meet for coffee, you can't immediately assume he's a scammer. Post Reply
View Profile History	Asked for phone number Posted : 28 Sep, 2010 08:02 PM You had it right. Scammers. Don't call; ignore them and move on. Post Reply
ashyah View Profile History	Asked for phone number Posted : 29 Sep, 2010 09:40 AM Yes, this one lives nearby and wants to meet for coffee.Number he gave is right area code. I try to be very careful believe me. I also feel that maybe older men may not be used to computers and rather do it the old fashion way?Or that don't want to be talking to a bunch of people at same time. Post Reply
View Profile History	Asked for phone number Posted : 30 Sep, 2010 05:38 AM Hey ashyah!, I had or have a similiar experience. I met a guy on Sovereign Grace Singles (joined mainly to meet other christians and discussion etc), which we are both on but membership is running out. .... we've talked everyday on the phone since july. We've also done background checks on each other!! I know nothing sounds like trust then a background check! but we were both trying to be mature and discerning. He flew up and we spent day in city about an hour from here, He lives in south me in north. I have since flown down and stayed with a couple in his church and spent most of a weekend getting to know church family ( which i spent alot of time reading their statement of faith etc) and was able to speak to people in his church. He is planning on coming here soon to meet my family and church etc. I don't believe in 'there's only one particular person out there as a spouse" but there is an attraction, and alot of mutual interests, faith, and people we know in common. And we both agree that since we met on line we need to take alot of time to get to know each other, and flying back and forth to know each other friends/family. We also have the guidance of an older couple and pastor. Online isn't impossible but it does take maturity and discernment. FYI there are 2 couple in my church here who just got married having met online!!!. It isn't the ideal situation, and not my first preference in meeting someone, but God is Sovereign and it's not impossible. Rachel Post Reply