Author	Thread: I don't get asked out.
ashyah View Profile History	I don't get asked out. Posted : 25 Sep, 2010 06:38 PM Hi, I have been divorced for a year. Separated for three years before that. I have joined several sites. Some men have written to me but, after a few emails they just stop. I communicated with a man for two months. He just wrote simple one liners. Maybe something was going on? Anyway, some of these sites are not Christian so , I figure that it may be because they may find that I am too Christian? Also, I don't know too many men most are married or too old for me. Anyway, noone is asking me out. What can a lady do when she is out there to attract a man?I am trying to be upbeat and looking nice. My friend tells me that it is because when I am out I am not looking. That I should try to look like I am single. Thanks. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	I don't get asked out. Posted : 25 Sep, 2010 07:30 PM Your friend is close. You have to look "available" which is to say, demonstrate no outward signs of attachment and have an attitude that isn't "get within five feet of me and I'll disembowel you". However, the dating world has changed quite a bit. I don't see guys asking out women randomly in the grocery store, the library, etc, very often. More than likely it helps to be in the right places where asking out is acceptable. (I don't know what those places are, so I can't help you there.) About being online, that too is a mystery to me. I've been on several sites as well and nothing has worked out for me, either. About the only thing I can say is you might want to write more on your profile and really polish what you do write. Most women's profiles are horribly boring and don't really showcase their interests or their personalities. Also, more pictures never hurts. Post Reply
ashyah View Profile History	I don't get asked out. Posted : 25 Sep, 2010 07:43 PM Thanks for your advice. I just changed it but, have my girls over so will redo it tomorrow. Ashyah Post Reply
View Profile History	I don't get asked out. Posted : 26 Sep, 2010 07:57 AM Like he said you have to look available, however, that alone may not work. Sometimes you may have to be a bit proactive in your search and throw the bait out! By that I mean you may have to keep your eyes open and be the conversation starter. It may not work on the first person, but as you socialize more and more you get into a comfort zone of speaking to any guy and on any topic. Post Reply
View Profile History	I don't get asked out. Posted : 26 Sep, 2010 09:35 AM Looking for any excuse to be friendly, social and having a good time doing whatever you're doing in the moment will turn the most heads. Because you will be more socially compatible, and it will also show in your general overall appearance and personality. Post Reply
View Profile History	I don't get asked out. Posted : 27 Sep, 2010 09:21 PM Stop looking! Yea I said stop looking...I am on this site but I am not looking. Just meeting people sometimes! Ask Jesus to lead you into whatever you need to prepare you for the love He has for you. Pray every day without stopping about everything that occurs to you and every pain and joy and loss and gain. THEN...THEN...will all these things be added unto your life! Steven Post Reply
songbyglory View Profile History	I don't get asked out. Posted : 27 Sep, 2010 10:19 PM I know this is ask a guy, but i think you should have a sister in Christ's input on this question. To make yourself look more available will only cause you to get the wrong kind of attention. I am speaking from experience. As women we know how to attract a man if we want to, but that's not what God is calling us to do. That is the way the world expects a woman to behave, but God's way is not the same. Be and stay who you are in Christ. Do your best to stay focused on God and to treat your body as a holy temple and God will lead your husband to you. You just have to have faith, trust in God, and be patient. God knows the desires of our hearts and when we follow those desires instead of His ways, we open a door for heartache and pain and a whole lot of other things to. Loneliness can be dealt with by giving all your love to God. I've been there so I understand what you are feeling. Those emotions can and will be defeated if you just stay in your word. I hope this helps you. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	I don't get asked out. Posted : 1 Oct, 2010 02:20 PM Being available gets the wrong attention? What kind of attention do you expect her to get by acting closed off and disinterested? Post Reply
songbyglory View Profile History	I don't get asked out. Posted : 2 Oct, 2010 03:50 PM You don't have to put yourself in the spot light to get the attention of the opposite sex. That does not make a person closed off. All she has to do is be herself. The character of a person will draw more attention than anything artificial. Post Reply