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Admin	Would you date a woman who... Posted : 8 Sep, 2010 09:51 PM had been forced into posing for child pornography when she was little? And her photos and films are on the internet and whatnot? Would that creep you out that guys are sitting around looking at her pictures and films all the time? Post Reply
Onceablumoon View Profile History	Would you date a woman who... Posted : 8 Sep, 2010 10:02 PM Hello Pixy! You seem to come up with some very interesting topics lol. As for me, I would not be creeped out at all. Everyone has a problems, regrets, and bad things they did or things done to them. What matters is who they are now and to move forward together. To find out something like that would just make me want to be with her all the more, to show her the love and affection that she may not have been able to experience, but every person deserves. -Blu Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Would you date a woman who... Posted : 8 Sep, 2010 11:14 PM as long as she has found healing, no I dont believe it would be a problem. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Would you date a woman who... Posted : 9 Sep, 2010 05:01 AM To borrow a phrase from one of the great philosophical minds of my day, Rafiki, it doesn't matter. It's in the past. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Would you date a woman who... Posted : 9 Sep, 2010 06:11 AM It would be a little creepy, but it definitely wouldn't be enough to make me not date someone. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you date a woman who... Posted : 9 Sep, 2010 07:16 AM Thanks for the responses, guys =) Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you date a woman who... Posted : 9 Sep, 2010 10:13 AM Yes, that sounds creepy. Seems like when a person has had tramatic experiences in the past, they carry alot of that baggage into the future, so depends on if that exists or not. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you date a woman who... Posted : 9 Sep, 2010 11:01 AM Agreed that it would be creepy. But if she was forced into it, then I would still give her a chance, as long as she is a growing believer. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you date a woman who... Posted : 9 Sep, 2010 11:47 AM @Loony- To a certain degree, we all carry our pasts into the future. And nobody has a perfect past. If we did not carry our pasts into the future, I think that we would be completely unable to have the sort of compassion that truly reflects Jesus. If someone who had been victimized through child pornography just decided to put it in the past and never think of it again (as if such a thing were even possible), then what would happen if she were to meet another victim/survivor someday? Another woman who is aching on the inside and who needs Jesus to help heal that ache. Would she have the words to say to her if she'd closed that part of her life out? I don't know quite what you mean by baggage, in this case, but I know what many guys mean when they use the term is that they don't want their girlfriend's/wife's past to affect them in any way. But, you know what? We're supposed to be affected! It's not normal to not be impacted by things like that. There have been wonderful ministries born out of adversity and many of the people who have started those ministries have supportive spouses who aren't afraid to deal w/ "baggage." I think that when we incorrectly apply the term "baggage" to something that it's like we're tying to close the door on letting God use that in our lives to serve others and to glorify Him... @kanyine- I don't imagine that a child would ever be a willing participant. I understand what you mean, I think, but I don't think there's an "if" there. Post Reply
SilverFire View Profile History	Would you date a woman who... Posted : 9 Sep, 2010 04:13 PM Eh, what strangers do with the past is really none of my concern. I'd be ok with it. Post Reply
View Profile History	Would you date a woman who... Posted : 9 Sep, 2010 07:47 PM Baggage as I decribed, would be as in the bad things in the past, negatively affecting the future. Thus a person may not be as emotionally available to proceed in a relationship. Therefore; since I only am looking to date, for the purpose of seeking a wife, the influences of one's past maybe will make them less likely to accept being in a loving, strong relationship and will bolt. Having chatted with various women online, from all sorts of backgrounds, I've noticed tragic pasts tend to cause an unstable present. Obviously exceptions, as you have noted. I see internet as a good screening tool, so I don't end up dating a person that is emotionally unavailable. So like I said, it all depends on many factors regarding how they have dealt with their past, whether I would date a person or not that has been in a situation like that. We all have preferences in a mate, and I prefer not to be someone's counselor. Post Reply