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Admin	sex! =) Posted : 21 Aug, 2010 02:34 PM This is just an experiment to see how many people will click!!! Okay, kidding. I really do have a question :goofball: The question is this: What is appropriate to discuss with one's boyfriend regarding sex? And, no, I'm not talking about anything like phone sex. I mean things such as discussing birth control. And discussing expectations. And talking about anxiety and hang-ups. Things like that. And what is the time line for discussing them? Post Reply
View Profile History	sex! =) Posted : 21 Aug, 2010 04:39 PM Boyfriend or fiance? Either way, after you're married. Till then, get to know, love, and appreciate him for him, make sure you're both right for each other, and live your life. Post Reply
View Profile History	sex! =) Posted : 21 Aug, 2010 04:41 PM Oh, in my opinion it happens when it is right between the two of you. For some people that may mean dating for six months before talking about it. For others they will feel comfortable and ready after two months. Each couple will need to decide where the comfort point it, but I think it happens around the time you both decide God has placed you together and you want to spend the rest of your lives together. Post Reply
View Profile History	sex! =) Posted : 21 Aug, 2010 07:23 PM @Brandon- So you don't think there needs to be any kind of conversation at all prior to marriage?? That could make for a really bad honeymoon night. See examples below. Bride: You are going to use a _____, aren't you? Groom: Huh? Don't all women use the _____ these days? Bride: The _____? I disagree with the _____. Groom: Well, I don't have a _____, and it's after midnight and we're in the middle of _____ and I don't want to run to the store. Bride: Well, we're just going to have to stop doing _____ and wait until we figure out the birth control thing... --- Bride: What is the _____ for? Groom: Oh, you didn't know that I like to use _____ when I _____? Bride: Nooo... Groom: Well, this is how I want to do it. Bride: Well, I don't feel comfortable with that. Groom: Well, too bad. You're my wife and you're not supposed to deny me in bed and this is how I want to do it and you can't deny me. We WILL do it like this. --- Bride: Look, honey. I bought this book that shows us all these pictures about how to _____. Groom: You did WHAT? Bride: This book. Look at it. It shows everything step-by-step. Groom: That's inappropriate, dear. Bride: Inappropriate? You're calling me inappropriate?!! I want to use the book. Groom: We're not using the book. Bride: Well, then I'm not having sex with you. --- Bride: What is that? Groom: Oh, just this movie I bought to help inspire us tonight. Bride: Did you notice the rating?? I really don't think we should watch this. Groom: Oh, it doesn't matter. We're married and we're only sleeping with each other. Bride: I really don't want to watch the movie. Groom: Well, I did bring along an issue of _____ magazine. You don't mind if we look through that for a bit, do you? Bride: No, we're not looking at that!!! Groom: Well, I just don't know how to get started without some inspiration. Bride: Then don't bother starting. I'm going to go get my own room!! Post Reply
View Profile History	sex! =) Posted : 21 Aug, 2010 07:26 PM And I meant boyfriend. I wouldn't agree to marry someone who I hadn't had some basic conversations about sex with. Post Reply
happyjer2911 View Profile History	sex! =) Posted : 21 Aug, 2010 09:18 PM I would have to agree with you. There are so many important issues every healthy couple need to discuss before getting married... How many kids does each person want? How are we going to raise our kids. (if we have any) How much debt does each person have??? Do either have a Po/5 habbit, yes both people need to answer that. I would also say that Pre marriage cousel from Godly men and women always helps too. Everybody needs to think about those question that should be answered On the other side, There are questions that never should be discussed before marriage. We all know what those are. If you dont know those questions, please feel free to ask in a messege... Post Reply
View Profile History	sex! =) Posted : 22 Aug, 2010 12:56 AM Forgive me. I just know how easy it is to justify whatever you want to justify, especially when it comes to sex (If you let it: one thing leads to another and then 'oopsie'). Sex and love are not the same thing. I say, truly get to know, love, trust, and respect each other, and your wedding night will be wonderful and the stuff you're worried about won't be an issue. Focus on building love, trust, respect, and getting to truly know each other for who you are as people let it grow and grow and grow. You'll get a lot more mileage out of that. Patience is an acquired taste and it is savoring the moment. If you're impatient, even if you get what you want, you won't enjoy it or be satisfied. I don't mean to project on to you or anything. If the boot fits wear it and if not maybe someone else could benefit from reading this. Some people learn from books. Some people learn from watching others. And some have to whiz on the electric fence. -Wise E. Oregonian Rancher Don't be the latter and don't worry. Just be you :) Post Reply
View Profile History	sex! =) Posted : 22 Aug, 2010 03:49 AM I guess what I was getting at in not so many words is don't confuse lust with love. Make sure the other person doesn't either. If so that's a problem that needs to be fixed before marriage and sex. A little lust? No such thing. That's all. Post Reply
View Profile History	sex! =) Posted : 22 Aug, 2010 03:51 AM I'm confused =( Post Reply
View Profile History	sex! =) Posted : 22 Aug, 2010 03:58 AM Maybe I'm off topic. Post Reply
happyjer2911 View Profile History	sex! =) Posted : 22 Aug, 2010 04:15 AM I think we all agree what to say and what not to say before we get married. There are those questions that need to be answered and others that should wait. Great topic, Thanks for bring it up. I know for me, young women and men should be told what are the right and wrong questions. You will never know unless you ask. Thank you both for your thoughts... Post Reply

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