Author	Thread: Winks
hesformeareyou View Profile History	Winks Posted : 17 Aug, 2010 04:59 PM Hey guys, I am flattered when i receive a wink because to me it means you are interested in me. weather or not you like my looks or something i have written, I am not sure. when you send a wink to someone what kind of a response are you looking for? I do not like to be the initiater of conversations. I would rather have a man write to me than just wink. I do not know how to respnd to a wink. should I wink back? or just wait for you guys to write something? I am a old fashioned type girl and would rather have the guy do the talking. what do you think? Can you help me understand the way a guy thinks. thanks Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Winks Posted : 17 Aug, 2010 05:35 PM Is your question more about winks or not wanting to have to put yourself out there? If it's about winks, then I say ignore the heck out of 'em. Guys who send them are being sissies who aren't bold enough to send you a real message. If you're talking about not liking putting yourself out there, you should at least try it a couple times. If anything, it'll give you a better understanding of what guys go through every day. Post Reply
View Profile History	Winks Posted : 17 Aug, 2010 09:23 PM I agree, winks are dumb because nobody knows what to make of them...I don't use them, but I guess if a guy winks at you then he wants you to check out his profile and message him/wink back if you're interested. Regardless, I think the putting yourself out there should definitely go two ways on a website--it's nothing like walking up to an attractive person and asking them out on a date. Don't ever be afraid to respond to a wink or message a guy out of the blue, the worst that could happen is you have to read a message that says I'm not interested. Post Reply
sing2hymn View Profile History	Winks Posted : 17 Aug, 2010 09:37 PM I am just like hesformeareyou. I don't get the wink thing. You look in your mail and there's just a wink! What exactly is a girl supposed to do? If a guy wants to talk, why doesn't he just say so? Am I supposed to write to him and say no thanks if I'm not interested, or just ignore him, or write the first message if I am interested? How do I start? Thanks for the wink? At least if he sends a message and I'm not interested, I can write back and thank him for his interest and tell him I don't think we would be a good match. If I am interested, then, there ya have it!!!:rocknroll: It's just kind of awkward. Post Reply
hesformeareyou View Profile History	Winks Posted : 18 Aug, 2010 08:46 AM Thank you for your reply. I'm not afraid of putting myself out there. I guess I was just wondering what other people on this site did when they got a wink , and wondered why would a guy send a wink and not just write soemthing. I didn't want to be rude and ignore the wink but at the same time if they guy doesn't say anything i have no idea why he's winking. I'm kind of with you in thinking winks are dumb and they shuld just get rid of them. from now on if a guy winks at me i will think he's to afraid to write to me and just ignor him.. what do you think good plan? Post Reply
hesformeareyou View Profile History	Winks Posted : 18 Aug, 2010 08:52 AM Thank for your respnse. Do you think if a guy sends a wink instead of just writting he's shy, scared or a sisssie? I think i'm going to ignore all winks since i'm still unsure as to why a guy would send one. Maybe he does want me to check out his profile but usually after someone looks at mine i can see who they are and look at their profile. I guess i am just thinking if someone was really intersted in getting to know me after seeing my profile and reading what i have written then he would take the time to write rather than wink. I'm glad you don't use them. Good for you! Post Reply
sing2hymn View Profile History	Winks Posted : 18 Aug, 2010 09:27 PM I definitely think a manly man would send a message or take a risk on IM. It could turn out to be a good thing, but if it isn't, a little rejection never hurt any of us did it? And I'm SURE we've all suffered rejection at some point in our lives to a worse extent than an "I'm not interested ." It's what this is all about! Finding people with whom we are we are compatible. If a guy winks, I don't respond, because I don't know HOW to respond or what he's looking for. DO I say, "Yeah, I think you're hot too?," then wait for a response from him? I sent a message to someone who winked at me and asked him what a wink meant, and he never responded. If I don't think I am a good match for someone who has sent me a message requesting communication, I try to be as sensitive as I can and thank him for the opportunity, but I don't think we would be match. I would hope one would appreciate and respect that. I would, if someone responded to me in like manner. I also think the site should do away with winks and force people to come out and communicate if they are interested. After all, we are all adults!:rocknroll: Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Winks Posted : 19 Aug, 2010 07:24 AM Well, maybe you could send a wink back and then he would send you a message. I think the website developers put the wink there to replace the usual body language that you get in real life. I think they meant winks to be "hey, I'm interested in you, if you're interested in me send me a wink and then we'll talk". I never used them either, but they got used on me a lot. I would just send them a "Thanks for the wink" message or something equally simple, and they would message me back and we'd have some good conversations. What are you missing out on? :peace::peace: Post Reply
sing2hymn View Profile History	Winks Posted : 8 Apr, 2011 10:42 PM You're probably correct "donthithtat mark. Seems a little more reasonable and humane! Sing:applause: Post Reply