I am almost 25 but am never smart to read signs that guys throw. For example, there was this coworker that twice just asked me to have lunch with him when I was first joined the company, he did it just like not being serious plus his division was next to ours so I thought he asked all 'new kid' at the office to lunch. Few days ago, he kinda bought me a food and I knew that he bought it for me coz people were teasing him to buy me that food I like. Then, I felt a little awkward, so I came to my friend and asked her whether he ever asked her to go and have lunch with her, then she said he never asked her even when she was just joined the company. Another coworker just started to tease me a little too much and he sometimes pulled away my hair, then another friend came to me and told me that the guy was interested in me. The thing I notice from those two guys were, they did not show other signs but just like what I did with my friends. I mean, if they did not come and tell me straight, I would have no idea that they were interested in me, I do not want like a big headed kind of person. Most men I met were acting that way, I mean like they were just wanted to be my friends then later I found out that they wanted more.
Other thing, when I think the guys were interested in me and they say they do, the next thing I know they have put their pic with their new girlfriend, so by the time they told me that they were interested in me, I assume they told their soon to be their girlfriend the same thing they told me.
So I am kinda mixed up in determining whether the guy was interested or not.
Could someone help me out here, I mean out of praying and asking God what's on the guy's head lol
there is a woman that I like who has just gotten out of a relationship and Ive been told that I need to be her friend first and then "make my move". this is hard for me cause I 'd rather just tell her how I feel and then find out is she may feel the same way or not and then deal with what happens. these guys probably acted like friends to see if maybe you might be interested in them. when you behaved nicely towards them they thought perhaps you were interested in them too. They may just still not be sure exactly how you feel though. im my opinion a woman's signals are just as hard to understand.
Courtship is a funny and confusing part of human interaction, we want to secretly see if the other likes us without the pain of rejection, and even worse endangering a friendship.
Men will usually pursue, and the more shy and timid ones need lots of hints and grace. Men if initially interested can also for no apparent reason at all, become disinterested, and stop pursuing; much like a woman who seems interested and then all of a sudden ignores a man. Assuming there aren�t other factors involved which aren�t affecting him. (like his mom died etc)
So essentially if he is interested he will seek you out, and if he�s not he won�t or will stop. Friendship first is the key 
But today, I heard a story of my friend, she was telling the story of how her cousin got married, and it was because of the woman was aggressive since the man was too passive. Now, I think not all men are all aggressive, I mean, like the men I was telling up there, they never did make any move but only just like some sentences of "You would notice if you did not spend too much time with your boy friends", or setting up all trainings or outings with me and him to be in one car/group (no matter how hard me and my friends had begged to change the member group), and the sentence has been thrown every time I met him, or every time we have an event out of the office. Some other men do that as well. Some, like really "make a move". If I did not reply on messenger, they will buzz, I still had not replied, they would text me, I still had not replied yet, my phone would start ringing.
From an objective side, I think yes, most of guys would make a move, but some guys would still "play safe", some of my coworkers at the office once told me that if the girl never showed any interest that guy would pull back even before they make any move, the next thing I know that they got really jealous if men come after those women they should be chasing of.
Just an opinion though, since I am not one lol I just summarize it all from what I hear coming out from men around me :)
