Author	Thread: What do men value most about women?
worshipgirl30 View Profile History	What do men value most about women? Posted : 4 Aug, 2010 07:31 AM Hi guys.......... I have observed that many guys are mostly interested in looks more than they are in personality...... Now I am not generalising here but most men are all about how good the woman looks!!!!! While I agree that looks are somewhat important in a relationship, what about a woman's intelligence? I have met many guys who would prefer a brain-dead female with good "asset"s and beautiful face instead of an average- looking woman who's smart... Why is that? After all, beauty fades, and assets eventually sag, but personality, wit, intelligence and general aptitude only gets better with time..... Not so? Post Reply
View Profile History	What do men value most about women? Posted : 4 Aug, 2010 09:59 AM Cavalier attitude. The best attribute any person can have is happiness. Not relying on other people or other things to make them happy, genuinely happy, is the definition of personal strength, which shows in their appearance, how they carry and groom themselves (which is what gets our attention at first) and in their personality, the things they value, and how they handle life (which is what keeps our attention). If the guy that admires the strong girl is strong too then the interactions they have will feed off of each other. The great thing is happiness is a choice not something you are born with like a physical attribute. Choose happiness and you will get what you want and need and remember that the joy of the Lord is our strength and true love casts out all fear/God is love. That's the kind of person I want to be and that's the kind of girl I want in my life. I can think of a few women that weighed in at at least 200 lbs and I still found them attractive because they were strong in the way I described above. Post Reply
worshipgirl30 View Profile History	What do men value most about women? Posted : 4 Aug, 2010 11:35 AM Hey thanks for your response............. I agree with your point............. I love your answer........... Women should read this!!!!!!!! Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	What do men value most about women? Posted : 4 Aug, 2010 11:51 AM Brandon's right. I especially want to echo the be happy alone. Only then can you truly "give" of yourself. Men are also visually stimulated. Doesn't make it right, or explainable, but it is what it is. Me personally, I check out the ring finger left hand first, to see what's going on there. Then I move to the shoulders. Is she standing up straight? Paying attention to her surroundings? Or is she walking with her head down, eyes on the ground arms crossed looking like she just got hit in the stomach? It's also confidence. I have a female friend, and anytime I try to set her up with someone, she gives me a million and one reasons why it's not gonna work, and why he's not gonna like her. The poor guy is usually shot out of the water before she ever lays eyes on him. (Ladies, you're all awesome, and I love these forums, but all women, please re-read this paragraph. Please don't do this to yourself, it drives guys NUTS!) :glow: What do we value? That's individual and personal to each man. And sometimes they don't even know what they want. However, taking time to make the distinction between guys and MEN: Guys are simple, easy to control, easy to read, and easily gone. MEN are complex, difficult, and probably frustrating. I'd say most guys are looking for someone who's personality/skills/attributes play off of their own personality. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	What do men value most about women? Posted : 4 Aug, 2010 03:50 PM "Most guys are all about looks" is a lie invented by female friends to comfort their other female friends when some guy isn't interested in them. Of course we are very visual, but both secular and Christian studies show that the overwhelming majority of men want a woman they can connect with emotionally to settle down with in marriage. Personality-wise, men are looking for confidence, humor, intelligence, etc. just like women are. One huge thing for me is finding a woman who isn't an emotional black hole. Men are like 5-ton bridges that too many women keep trying to drive 15-ton emotional-need trucks over. When we care about a woman, we want to be there for her, but men can't and were never meant to meet all of a woman's emotional needs. Both men and women need to take their problems to Christ first. Post Reply
View Profile History	What do men value most about women? Posted : 4 Aug, 2010 06:08 PM welll for me I look for people that are stong with themselves and how they handle life. Of course being a christian is a muct as well. One thing I dont see alot if that alot of women want to become complacent as they get in a relationship, they do not want to make it a working issue for both sides. And for the love of God, please do not string the guys along, Honesty is a rare thing anymore it seems. It is something that I dont find alot, you get people who will dance around the subject, expect you to take all these off the wall cues, and then get mad because you didn't connect the dozen points that you was supposed to get. As to the physical, I like to see it when a woman is healthy, that is attractive, at least to me. Post Reply
View Profile History	What do men value most about women? Posted : 4 Aug, 2010 09:51 PM Personally, I check to see the crowd she hangs around with. The type of people you surround yourself with are generally similar to you...if she's hanging around with people who are cussing, drinking, smoking, cracking jokes about God I'm generally going to pass by. Second, stability. I've dated some pretty crazy girls. Not "OMG she's so crazy!" crazy...I mean "We the jury pronounce..." crazy. So I tend to gauge where she's at mentally from day to day just to see how consistent she is. Third, sense of humor. She needs to take things lightly...not that she needs to joke about everything; but I don't want someone who feels the need to bring unnecessary gravity to every situation. Hope that helps! God bless! - Rodey Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	What do men value most about women? Posted : 4 Aug, 2010 10:32 PM Some good post ya'll To adress the topic of the value men place on appearance, It would SEEM to me, men make their first emotional investment with their eyes, however what I find attractive maybe slight diferent to another fellow. A woman like my Jesus would be nice, for instance: A woman who will pray with me, I find to be a very intiment moment. A woman who I can be friends with first, and not have the pressure of who likes who, and the security if it doesn't work out, that we can still be brother/sister in Christ A woman who is totaly sold out to God, and has made it her life goal to live for Him. to name a few :) Post Reply
Koinonia87 View Profile History	What do men value most about women? Posted : 5 Aug, 2010 01:20 AM Yes men can be visual. Not only that, but physical attraction is important. What is attractive is individualistic and so there is no measuring stick for men to call one woman attractive and another not. Because we don't find every woman attractive, it is one thing we do value in her. It's all reversible, so it stands that the physical attraction is mutually had and mutually valued. That this results is, I firmly believe, intended by God. By itself, physical attraction (or any one quality) will not keep a man around. Guys that see only this are the ones floating from one fleeting relationship to the next. In other words there is no one thing that is most important. We stay and build a relationship even throughout marriage because we continually notice, search for, discover, and re-discover many positive qualities, attitudes, and behaviors in our partner. It's efficacy comes when we acknowledge and communicate each to her, and when it is accepted and reciprocated. To me, all these things demonstrate the sincerity of her faith as she lives it out walking daily with her Lord. That's what's important! He's the stem, she's the branch, bearing all those other qualities as fruit. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	What do men value most about women? Posted : 5 Aug, 2010 07:49 AM The men that look for brain-dead supermodels are probably pretty brain-dead themselves. After all, people look for similarities, right?:laugh: Anyway...I agree with everyone here pretty much. Physical attraction is important, but I see hundreds of "beautiful" women that I would never date/marry. The problem with guys nowadays is that they don't keep their pants on long enough to see how shallow that kind of "beauty" is. Anyway...I know my girlfriend is probably not the most beautiful girl in the world, but I also know that I think she is. Probably because I'm attracted to everything about her. Physically, mentally, and spiritually. I'd even venture to say that people that marry just one or two of those things are missing out on the "whole package" that God might have in store for them...but if there is any contention among you...I have no such custom.:winksmile: Just a theory. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	What do men value most about women? Posted : 5 Aug, 2010 08:12 AM it wasn't me who asked the question but I find all the answers excellent and very helpful, too! thanks guys!!!!! :) Post Reply

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