Author	Thread: honesty....
roeroe View Profile History	honesty.... Posted : 25 Jul, 2010 03:42 AM I need to ask the men this question.... If you are emailing someone, let's say for a good month...every other day...really getting to know each other, saying all the right things......and then just nothing....one day it stops and you get know reply.....where does this come from?? If things change, wouldn't the right thing to do be to tell the person....It's happened to me a number of times and it is truly frustrating...you start to put your own reasons and answers in your head and your heart....I want to give the site more time....but I need to pray about it.... Can you give me some insight....thanks....God Bless! Post Reply
View Profile History	honesty.... Posted : 25 Jul, 2010 05:01 AM sometimes it never makes sense,,especially when it has to do with men,,they to turn all very well,,but forget to turn off. Post Reply
View Profile History	honesty.... Posted : 25 Jul, 2010 07:15 AM It doesn't make sense, but you can't really have any hard feelings about it. It's just a thing you have to accept; that this could be the last email you send/receive and not know why. If there's almost zero chance of you meeting in real life, then that will most likely be how it ends. Post Reply
roeroe View Profile History	honesty.... Posted : 25 Jul, 2010 09:37 AM Appreciate the insight from both of you.... And I really don't have hard feelings towards anyone.... I can understand a quick email here and there and you don't feel it taking you anywhere and you stop. But if you build somewhat of a friendship (however much that could be via email) and talk about waiting for the other one's email....and thinking about them alot...I feel it's only common courtesy...to tell someone why the change....no hard feelings...it's all in God's hands anyway... I'm a romantic. But I've been thru quite a few ups and downs in my Life....and I do know how to guard my Heart! But be a Man or Woman of God and let the person know how you feel... Just Me....Roe Post Reply
View Profile History	honesty.... Posted : 25 Jul, 2010 01:30 PM Roeroe - this has happened to me. A lot. In some cases, where I had prayed about it and felt it was the right thing to do - I sent a 'last' email. Asking - politely and without anger or accusations - if I had misunderstood the relationship building that was going on. I've only heard back twice from men I did that with, and our conversations never lasted more than one or two more emails. When I meet someone on a dating web site I ALWAYS assume they are talking with other people, no matter how many emails or instant chats I do with them. Until they tell me differently - I always assume that. So far, 98% of the time, I have been correct. That's just my experience - yours may be different. Just something to think about. Post Reply
selflessshay View Profile History	honesty.... Posted : 30 Jul, 2010 07:41 PM it comes from a lack of respect for another and/or lazyness. I may stop sending messages if ther are no questions being asked of me. It takes alot of love to tell a person ther problem or your concern (you have to care about them), and its alot easier to say nothing and ignor, or move on, or not be polite. I like the road of maximum respect and love, so i ALWAYS respond. Post Reply
CarlosX1 View Profile History	honesty.... Posted : 31 Jul, 2010 01:04 PM hi. luis here.. I get that from ladies also. perhaps am wrong, a manifold answer. seems to be something to do with physical geography on the one hand; If you have no intention of moving from where you are, the reason to continue with the conversation fizzles out. A second might be wether you are ready to actually enter into a relationship which may increase demands to commit to a greater degree. Pull something out of somewhere that doesn't exist so to speak. Feel free to correct me. Post Reply
View Profile History	honesty.... Posted : 3 Aug, 2010 09:53 AM It makes no sense to me that the weather man says no rain for the next three days and yet, there I am, standing at window, watching it storm. Doesn't make sense, but nevertheless, I get an umbrella and go about my day. This person stops and disappears? Might hurt. Might not make any sense. If you get no reply, then by all means, carry on. We are not privy to the inner workings of others and can only regulate our own lives. Soooooooo, dear lady, after you have questioned, meditated, prayed and pondered - open the door to the next man of God that is ready and able to love. Just my opinion. Post Reply
roeroe View Profile History	honesty.... Posted : 13 Aug, 2010 07:28 PM Great answer chmjr.... And I agree with you absolutely, close the door and open the next....which I've done...and I'm sure everyone has.... I'm just starting to meditate on why I want to do this at all??? God Bless! Post Reply
roeroe View Profile History	honesty.... Posted : 14 Aug, 2010 05:03 AM Thanks everyone for your imput.... Thanks selfless, I think it is somewhat a lack of respect....and I will be careful how I proceed on this site! So great to see you young people with so much spirit, Love and Respect! Roe Post Reply