Author	Thread: Why do men cheat?
Admin	Why do men cheat? Posted : 24 Jul, 2010 04:46 PM I know. I know. You all are upstanding Christian men who would never consider/do such a thing. :-) It can come from your own experience (if there is anyone that transparent and brave), what you've picked up from locker room talk, friends, family, etc... Maybe you were tempted to cheat, but didn't. What was that reason(s)? We women talk about it amongst ourselves about what WE THINK the reasons are. Enlighten us! Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Why do men cheat? Posted : 24 Jul, 2010 09:34 PM Well....I haven't had much experience with this. My dad's first wife cheated on him and left him with their daughter. My uncle cheated on his wife but she took him back...for whatever reason. But as to why? Same reasons a woman would I imagine. Dissatisfaction...boredom...temptation...I hear lots of stories about women using sex as a punishment for their husbands, so maybe that has something to do with it in some cases. But it probably all boils down to "lost faith" or unhappiness. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do men cheat? Posted : 24 Jul, 2010 09:54 PM Thanks, Mark. I was over here like daaannng, is that how they gone do me? Ev'ybody viewing but not postin'. Lol I've those reasons as well. I am hoping somebody will go deep and tell me what causes one to at that moment, cross the line in the mind. What makes it okay? Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Why do men cheat? Posted : 24 Jul, 2010 11:31 PM I dont think people know why they cheat...they just think they're bored or something weird. when in reality, there are deeper issues. well, let's see what they say :) Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do men cheat? Posted : 25 Jul, 2010 07:32 AM Because we're bad... (puppy dog eyes). In 100% honesty though, I don't know. I guess I'd have to go with what riveroflife said, they just have some deep issues. It's almost like their appetite for stupidity and selfishness is insatiable. Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	Why do men cheat? Posted : 25 Jul, 2010 07:47 AM You asked for honesty, so here goes. To all the ladies that read this, I'm ME. I speak for MYSELF and am explaining MY actions. If you have a problem with what I say, please direct your anger at ME, not any of the other dudes who may post up to this. Likewise, if you've got a problem with what THEY say, realize THEY only speak for THEMSELVES. Just as no woman should feel they have to represent all women, no man can speak for all men. Now that the disclaimer's done, This is MY answer. I dated a girl a few year back. Real sweetheart, but real jealous. REALLY jealous. Jealous like I had to explain to her that I wanted to spend Christmas day with my family. (Selfish, I know, and yes, I'm being sarcastic, but actually had to explain that to her.) I got a phone call one night that my aunt was in the hospital, and not long for this earth, and that I'd better get here NOW if I ever wanted to see her on this side of heaven again. I started driving to the hospital. While I was on my way, my girl called me. She asked me if I wanted to see a movie that night. I explained that my aunt was dying, and I wanted to see her that night, and I wouldn't be able to do anything. (we didn't have plans, so I was not blowing her off either.) My girl started on this rant about how I'd rather spend time with other women than her. I listened, without saying a word till I got to the hospital's parking garage. I knew I'd lose signal in there, and prioritized seeing my dying aunt over listening to my girl yell at me. I told my girl I wasn't hanging up, but about to lose signal. This did not stop the yelling :(. Well, the doctors were right, and my family was all with my aunt in her final moments. Afterwards, we all went our separate ways. My sister took my nephews home, my parents went home, and I realized there's a bar right across the street from the hospital. Well, I got back to my car, got my cell phone to call a couple people and give them the news about what happened. On my cell were more than twenty text messages and seven voicemails telling me what kind of p person I was for leaving my girlfriend sit home alone while I went to go visit another woman. After being yelled at immediately before and after losing a love one, I was not happy with my girl at all, I threw my cell phone back in my car, and decided to hit the bar, and that Mr. Septa driver was gonna take me home that night. (My reason for hitting the bar was I needed a drink after losing a loved one. My girl's messages only compounded that, and made me feel bad about myself on top of what I was already feeling) What I did not realize was that this bar was the hotspot for nurses getting off their shifts. (After losing my aunt, I was not thinking clearly, and the fact that the bar was across the street from the hospital should've given me pause, but like I said, kinda feeling a bit numb and stupid.) Well, I was sitting at a booth, when there was plenty of room at the bar, because I wanted to be alone. One of the nurses from the S.T.U. (surgical trauma unit) was getting off her shift, and recognized me as she was one of the people who'd been taking care of my aunt. I think as most nurses would, she saw someone in pain, and tried to do something about it. She walked up to me, with a shot for each of us, sat down, proposed a toast, and asked me if I needed to talk. Boy did I ever, and I'm sure you can see where this is going... Again, this is ME, and MY story. Each man is each man, so don't blame them for what I did, but I'll own up to MY own actions Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do men cheat? Posted : 25 Jul, 2010 07:51 AM You the man, skinny! Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do men cheat? Posted : 25 Jul, 2010 08:43 AM Skinny, I love u! Your transparency is awesome and a testimony to how far God can bring us. Don't worry about any judgemental folk, let me know if you feel any blows from any of them that have 'I am without sin' stones to throw. In other words, insecure behavior as well as finding comfort when its not being ministered at home, can cause the temptation to stray. Thank you so much for sharing. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do men cheat? Posted : 25 Jul, 2010 08:53 AM I wouldn't really consider that cheating anyway Post Reply
riveroflife1 View Profile History	Why do men cheat? Posted : 25 Jul, 2010 10:05 AM All humans have needs, those needs are to be met by our parents, siblings and or close friends as young kids. We learn identity, provision and protection from our Dads. We learn companionship from our siblings or close friends and then we get nurtured and taught by our mothers. when those needs arent met by those people or others that are in those roles in our lives, we look elsewhere to fill those needs. It's where we find the fulfillment of those needs that we get off track. God of course takes the role of the Father in our life. Jesus takes the role of siblings or close friend and then there is the Holy spirit who has the role of nurturer and teacher. This is where the healing begins. When we have fear issues, it goes back to protection(dad). How about trust...dad, how about low self esteem (identity), dad. when we can connect our issues with the God head, that is where we go for healing. forgive, release those things to Christ. Then we replace those things with the positive that daddy says we are in scripture. I DONT KNOW WHY I POSTED THIS HERE BUT I FELT LED TO. bless you guys! Jennifer p.s. cheating falls under identity. No one had the perfect upbringing and it's not the parents fault, but as christians we need wholeness to be effective in the Kingdom. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why do men cheat? Posted : 25 Jul, 2010 11:05 AM @Jen, YOU BETTER PREACHHHH!!! Excellent teaching and breakin' it down! @Brandon, I know some who feel that way too. It goes without saying that you're wrong if you sleep with someone ur not married to. To me, if ur in a committed relationship, dating and the person thinks they are the only one and you are not open about your activities, you are still cheating, being unfaithful or deceitful. Post Reply

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