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Admin	The "Secret" To Getting Her Posted : 22 Jul, 2010 05:18 PM Feel good about yourself. Even if you don't get her at least you'll still feel good about yourself. Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Secret" To Getting Her Posted : 22 Jul, 2010 05:34 PM It's not that you can't find some one that is right for you. It's that when you do you can't get her because you're not right for you. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	The "Secret" To Getting Her Posted : 23 Jul, 2010 08:05 AM Not sure it works like that. I don't feel good about myself, but I found someone. I've always thought it was good to dislike yourself. You only get stronger/smarter by playing a stronger/smarter opponent, and which opponent is closer to you than yourself? You know your every weakness. Anyway...I bet if you ask any athlete or scholar what drives them it's probably either trying to prove they're better than everyone(using other people as markers in their progress, i.e. Pride), or trying to eliminate inadequacy in themselves and make themselves better(using themselves to mark their progress, i.e. Humility). I think the only way we can achieve true confidence is by the latter. Using other people to measure our success gives us "shallow/prideful" confidence. I suppose you're right by saying we need to accept ourselves. I think we should accept where we are, but I don't think we should ever accept what we are. We should accept where we are and keep moving. Maybe that's what you meant...anyway....sorry for the sermon... :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Secret" To Getting Her Posted : 23 Jul, 2010 09:23 AM If God and the people in your life love you for who you are, then why shouldn't you? If it is true love they wouldn't love you any less if you felt good about and liked yourself. Think of the most successful (what you consider to be successful) people you know. Are they happy and do they like themselves? Are they happy because they are successful or are they successful because they are happy? Think of a time in your life were you were really glad to be alive. What made it so? Could you be striving for the things you do now and still like yourself? I think if anything you would find they were more worthwhile, or that you would find better things to strive for and be more successful at attaining them. Do what you love, love what you do. If you love what you do, even if it's flipping burgers at McDonald's you'll be creative and inspiring and find the things you actually are passionate about, which will draw people to you that will help you succeed. It's more comfortable and less scary to hunker down and dig in and hold your position and tell yourself it's the best you can do, than to advance and break enemy lines and make contact; But you will never accomplish anything yourself like that. Of course none of that is written in stone that's just what I'm thinking now. Food for thought :eat: Post Reply
stormcountry33 View Profile History	The "Secret" To Getting Her Posted : 23 Jul, 2010 10:08 AM When I look at myself...me just being me...I like who I am. I think I have a great sense of humor, I'm generally hard working, I hold to my core values, and I have a big heart. However, when I look at myself through the standards of this world...that's when I start disliking what I see. My sense of humor turns into immaturity. My work ethic becomes a useless show if brown-nosing, my core values simply mean I haven't experienced life, and my big heart mean I'm a coward/whimp. Of course my weight also plays into this...so when there is a woman I'm interested in, which there is, I try to be me but from my past experiences, it seems that they have seen me through the eyes of the world and not through the eyes of God. So they see the immaturity, the coward, and inexperience at life instead of seeing the big heart, the sense of humor and core values. So I think whether or not we like oursleves can in essence effect if we "get the girl" but it also depends by what set of eyes is she seeing you through...the worlds eyes or Gods. Good post Brandon... Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Secret" To Getting Her Posted : 23 Jul, 2010 10:08 AM It sounds like you're talking about confidence, am I reading that correctly. Yes, confidence does help in a lot of cases, as long as it doesn't turn into pride/arrogance. Post Reply
shepherdingking View Profile History	The "Secret" To Getting Her Posted : 23 Jul, 2010 01:36 PM Do you love yourself? then, Love your wife as you love yourself. Some guys love themselves too much. Others have no love to give. Women want well balanced guys, Not given to extremism. Unless of course it is extreme love for her. :winksmile: Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Secret" To Getting Her Posted : 23 Jul, 2010 03:12 PM @storm- Me too. I think that happens to most of us. It's just something I just now realized that I wanted to share. @kaynine- Yeah I suppose this is describing confidence. Not just acting, but BEING confident. True confidence is being happy with yourself. @shepherdingking- Balance is the key. However I think it's much more prevalent and natural for nice Christian guys to feel inferior to women. We put a halo over their heads and not until much later consider the possibility that maybe they were spoiled, or stuck up, or selfish, or cowardly, or not that bright. No matter how they treat us we always think it's our fault when often the reality is the only thing we did wrong was enable them by not being ourselves because we haven't learned to like us for who we are. Post Reply
amazinggrace2010 View Profile History	The "Secret" To Getting Her Posted : 23 Jul, 2010 03:47 PM Thanks guys for telling us your "secret" to getting her. It is true that every one of us hold the key to that special someone. Ask and you will recieve, you do not have because you do not ask. We love because He first love us. If we only open our mind, our soul, our spirit and serve God first, then everythings will fall in line. His love is awesome! So contagious and I want everyone to know that God is Love. Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Secret" To Getting Her Posted : 23 Jul, 2010 10:29 PM Fool! Never let a woman think you care! Just kidding. That's awful advice...although it's occurred to me a few times that once a girl thinks you're interested in her; she seems to withdraw from you. - Rodey Post Reply
View Profile History	The "Secret" To Getting Her Posted : 23 Jul, 2010 11:04 PM Love is patient, usually, that is why. I tend to gravitate towards what comforts me. Which is men who are more relaxed and not too quick to flirtation or anything of that sort. I know that makes me sound rather prude, but I can respect a man who doesn't always have to talk fast, or move fast, or try to get me to kiss him, or something else I'm unprepared for. I like men who trust in God, and don't stress out too much. Really, most women like to feel comfortable. If they see a man is displeased with himself, or that his disposition is usually chaotic or in upset they get a bit spooked. At least I usually do. I think Brandon hit the nail on the head. Post Reply

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