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Admin	Would it bother you if... Posted : 17 Jul, 2010 06:00 AM Would it bother you if (when you marry) your wife made more money than you? Would it make you feel like you are not the provider? Would it mess with your sense of being head of household? Post Reply
klmartin62 View Profile History	Would it bother you if... Posted : 17 Jul, 2010 07:26 AM Good question. It would make me feel that I had somehow failed her. I believe it is the man's responsibility to make enough money that the wife has a choice to either work or stay home. If she was making more than me, she would feel a responsibility to continue. Love and grace, Leon Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Would it bother you if... Posted : 17 Jul, 2010 10:43 AM No, money means very little to me. The only way it would bother me is if she chose to hold it over my head, but I think it would go the other way too. If I thought someone was less of a person because of how much money they made then I would be very wrong. :peace::peace: Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Would it bother you if... Posted : 17 Jul, 2010 10:47 AM It's all about pride. "Look at what I can do, I'm so much better".:boxing: :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Would it bother you if... Posted : 17 Jul, 2010 02:18 PM If you're right for each other that's not really an issue. I think just as much would depend on what she thought about making more than me. Perfect love casts out all fear including insecurities. When it comes down to it, love and happiness are more important than money. Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	Would it bother you if... Posted : 17 Jul, 2010 02:31 PM Baby girl, haven't you ever seen Fight Club? You are not the car you drive or how much money you have in the bank! No, dating someone who earned more than me would not bother me. I only have high school education, so it's something I've already come to terms with. I'd love to get married someday, and as long as my woman's doing something she loves, I don't care how much money she makes. If more than me, great, if not, then we'll just have to spend more time just enjoying each others company at home, because we can't afford to go out anywhere glow:: Can I kick this back to you? Would it make you any more masculine if you earned the majority of the income? (I think you already know that answer.) Besides, it's just money, it grows from trees! Post Reply
View Profile History	Would it bother you if... Posted : 17 Jul, 2010 03:05 PM HaHaHa, SWB, when I have more money my muscles do grow a bit. ;~P I had this conversation with someone recently and was surprised at the answers that came from the discussion. I just wondered where the majority stood. Post Reply
DarrelT View Profile History	Would it bother you if... Posted : 17 Jul, 2010 05:33 PM i would love to meet a girl that can support me...lol. i'm good at cooking cleaning and watching kids so if she has a high paying job i'd be good with being home all day. Post Reply
skinnywhiteboy View Profile History	Would it bother you if... Posted : 18 Jul, 2010 06:39 AM I was thinking about this last night, and two situations came to mind. I came up on a missions recruiting base. No one there earned a dime, they all lived off the support of others. They didn't have to pay rent, but didn't earn an income because the mission owned the property. In fact, neither of my parents has earned a "paycheck" since I was born 29 years ago. So I'm not sure if that applies to this, but it goes to show me that money and God's will can often be at odds with one another. (There were about 80 families at that mission, and same story across the board.) However, when I think of a "man" I can't imagine people more focused on doing God's work. My second example is a friend from that same mission. He's a doctor. MD. He could be driving a benz, living in a mansion with his wife and three kids. Instead he's in Kyrgistan, working in a medical system where they can't even afford clean needles between patients. Money's good and all, don't get me wrong, but I've seen plenty of good done for the world by people who "let go and let God..." Post Reply
shepherdingking View Profile History	Would it bother you if... Posted : 19 Jul, 2010 01:34 AM I prefer a woman who can support me in a lifestyle I'm accustomed to. Being homeless, that is not too much to ask for, :dancingp: . But women, if you think about it, really do identify more with the home. Men get their identity from their work. The real provider is God, who says not to worry about food or clothing. Man as head of the house is not in the bible. The bible says man is head of the woman, not head of the home. And he is to provide for her a covering. That is Spiritual food and clothing. Traditionally the man brings home the bacon in the natural but that need is small compared to protection and provision for the soul, spirit and emotions he can give his wife. ‎"Has not God chosen those who are poor in the eyes of the world to be rich in faith and to inherit the kingdom he promised those who love him" (Jam 2:5). Post Reply
View Profile History	Would it bother you if... Posted : 3 Aug, 2010 10:14 AM Provision is more than money. Would she see as less of a man if she worked while I attended school to better my self? We tend to equate and view our lives within the context of social norms. When prayer and faith is applied and we look to God for His specific guidance to a situation and put our pride, knowledge, ideas and wants aside to seek His will, then we might embrace more of the peace that life has to offer in His ways as opposed to trying to fulfill and ideal. We bandy scripture around like the words themselves are the answers. Seek first His way, pray, give it over, MEDITATE, wait on the answer, then do. Kinda like looking at the world to define my relationship with Christ... Post Reply

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