Author	Thread: Why cant i just let it go
holy_boi_512 View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 13 Jul, 2010 04:46 PM I don't understand this and am having a hard time letting it go but, I met someone here yesterday and we talked for a while yesterday and we talked for a lil bit today. We were talking via i.m and I told her that I was saving myself for marriage and told her that other people I've met have had a problem with that and all of a sudden she just ends the convo.. this has happen before and I am bad at handling rejection. Just not sure how to just let it go Post Reply
View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 13 Jul, 2010 06:27 PM God has protected you, brother. He showed you right off, before you got too emotionally involved, that the lady you were talking to had wrong motives, wrong values, and was not a Christian. Praise God for His protection! Keep on your path -- it is the right one. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 13 Jul, 2010 09:10 PM Just because you have her on the line doesn't mean you landed her, so keep that in mind next time. Also go after many women at a time even if you have a few on the line already. Make her give you a reason to choose her over all the other ones, instead of choosing her because of default. See also 'In Praise Of Rejection' on here. How to let go? Do things. Do, do, do. Rest. Then repeat. Don't feel like it? Well the only other choice is sit around laying in your own filth feeling bad and doing things is how you get out of it. In doing this you give yourself just what you need. A challenge to prove to yourself that you matter to you, and rather quickly what mattered to you about here fades. Also, go to stumbleupon.com and look up advice on relationships and women there. Post Reply
holy_boi_512 View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 13 Jul, 2010 09:19 PM So how do you know when to open up to her or should i just be closed off Post Reply
View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 13 Jul, 2010 09:36 PM Yes and no. Yes in that you are letting her get to know you and no in that you're not emotionally invested in her. If you're giving somebody you don't know that well something you really value about yourself, like caring, then be careful. Don't give it all away all at once right off the bat. It's difficult to explain completely and like anything else you have to figure it out for yourself to fully understand, but it goes something like that. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 14 Jul, 2010 02:46 PM It's not as tightfisted as it sounds though. When it comes to going about getting love, start small. Give a little, get a little and go from there. And again don't get stuck on just one women before you should. Post Reply
View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 14 Jul, 2010 02:52 PM And what you do give, give freely Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 14 Jul, 2010 08:39 PM It probably did sound strange after a day. I just think "online" should be treated a little more like "offline". Not saying what she did wasn't rude, but it is a weird thing to tell someone after just meeting them. She may have thought you were rushing it. Maybe she's had a bunch of guys say it that turn out to creepers or something. Anyway...everybody should treat this like a real life. That's my opinion. If a guy is talking to you in real life, you don't suddenly ignore them. And if you're talking to a girl in real life you don't usually volunteer the fact that you're saving yourself for marriage after the first couple hours. I'm not trying to be a butthole...just....don't rush it....they can tell... :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Why cant i just let it go Posted : 3 Aug, 2010 10:32 AM Okay, I have a different take than some of the others. I let it out from the get-go that the clothes are staying on. No point, to me, in waiting until things get cozy, or whatever, to then tell it. Kinda like the color of my skin, can't hide, so there it is. I know, people will say, skin color and chastity are two totally different things. Point taken. AND my point is, for me, I am what I am, and a part of that, like my skin color, is that we're not getting naked 'fore marriage - and it ain't changing for anyone. Been down that road and I ought not have to ask God's forgiveness on such a matter as this when He's ALREADY told me what to do. In this matter, we have a choice and one that should be iron clad. May seem harsh, but for me, and maybe only me, I have chosen NOT to withhold such things. Why "waste" the time? Why not be honest and truthful, full disclosure from the get-go? If that person cannot accept this truth about you, then this was NOT the person for you. Smile, thank God, and move on; she IS OUT THERE! Patience and persistence. Hold tight, to that which is right! Post Reply