MEN are hunters by nature. Perhaps, at a certain age for each man they feel the need to find a female cave-dweller, clob her over the head & make something happen that serves their purpose (even fulfilling an honorable need).
This is why I have a real problem with men telling strange women up front that when they try to communicate with them, they are auditioning for a job to serve them & their personal goals & plans for the rest of their lives. And-otherwise you are a waste of their time b/c you do not "qualify" for the job. Well -I won't apply for or contribute to any man's list of "requirements" of worth.
I don't want to date any man who is only intending to interview me for a satisfying sex life & to mother children i don't have yet. I consider this an unfair assessment of who I am and what I have to offer since it's based solely on his self-interest. (I do NOT mean to infer that women are not equally guilty in doing this also)
I want to be with someone who will just get to know me as I am. I have made peace with the fact that if they can't stand to look at me, they probably won't talk to me for very long even if they are pure in heart. So-I disqualify the looks issue.
I'm no first-prize kinda girl to most men - but, I know me & since only ONE guy gets the prize anyway -I don't fuss over volume of interests.
I'm an amazing woman & only an amazing man who knows how to see past his own superficiality has a right to me. I KNOW there are solid Christian men who want relationship & are capable of being completely devoted and faithful & godly, but not all of them are mine. The one who gets me is the one who comes after me. I'm not a PRIZE to be won & refuse to reduce a man to a dog by asking him to jump through hoops. I just want to KNOW Him & see if we can comfortably & purposely pursue a pure love between us & let God decide how we work out the steps in that relationship.
disclaimer: now please understand that I do not mean to imply that there are not sincere goals & godly desires represented as well. I'm just expresssing a broad perspective of this certain view that SOME may or ADAMANTLY hold. It's nothing more than a hunt, intending to spot a good way, shoot them down, take them home, & use them up.
I really hope that no women are looking/settling for the caveman. That "men are hunters" krap really only applies to men that still listen to their selfish animal instincts...
Ms. Sweet1, your post was quite interesting, although I have to strongly disagree with many of your rather "unique" observations. See, although I live in the boonies amongst the banjo pickers, I do all my hunting in Walmart or the "Bent & Spent."
I simply do not relish the idea of getting up at 3 AM in the freezing cold to sit in a deer stand and hunt varmits. I do not carry a club around with me nor do I drag my knuckles around waiting for a girl that suits my liking so I can club her over the head and drag her back to my cave. (I happen to live in a nice gated community on a golf course, I'll have you know)
Be that is it may, all jokes aside, since I happen to have an IQ over 140, and a pretty firm command of the English language, I do understand where I believe you are coming from. I agree, there are still a few under-educated, inbred guys as you have so imaginably decribed. There are also quite a number of guys like myself that do not fit into this category. I do not "interview" potiental mates for the position of head cook & bottle washer. I treat all women with the respect and dignity they so richly deserve. I don't think they should all go around barefoot and pregnant-(a term used mostly down here in the south.) I seek God's guidance in all things. I try to live through faith. My faith in God and my faith in human kindness.
Since I do not believe in luck, I wish you many blessings. There are many wonderful people on this site. Please give some of us a chance.
Yes, Ed. I whole-heartedly agree. There are a rare and precious few & I reallly DON'T believe that there are NONE of you left. I just meant in general & was only venting a long-quieted problem I've felt about the ones who too frequently state that on a dating site, they have the audacity to say they want to be married to the next woman & if you don't want to be the next woman, "dont waste my time". I just feel that that isn't godly or evidence of any type of Biblical character.
I do believe in men who are spiritually minded & God speaks to them & they just KNOW that it is their time & this means is to only serve ONE purpose, b/c they aren't "playing games". I can appreciate it, but even a great man with a great mind HAS to take into consideration the needs, aspirations, & mindset of a woman who is on the site as well & stop making like he's playing beauty-contest of some kind to get the competition going & pick his Esther. -if you know what I mean...
not meaning any offense to any of you WONDERFUL men. Please let me apologize if somehow my strong opinions seemed narrow-minded & personalized. I'm sure you understand that that's what an opinion is & I suppose that we are all unique in our perspectives. No problem. I can make room for yours as well.
To both of you -I really appreciate your comments. Anything else??
Thanks for your gracious reply. I always enjoy hearing the opinions and insight of others. You seem like a sincere and genuinely convicted individual and I wish you all the best.
Thank you again, Ed. really -I had accidentally edited the part where I noted my thrill over the real gentlemen that I found around here (as well as I can know by internet). I don't believe in generalizing b/c it's disrespectful to the individuals and I really HAD meant to note that. But I edited so much & my cursor kept moving itself to strange places, so I think I may have deleted a whole section without noticing.
All that wordiness just to say -I really did appreciate your view b/c I am a real fan of the gentlemen who have high honor for women. They are a real pleasure to serve.
although that i do agree that there are some guys out there that are lookin to club them a wife and drag them to the ave :ROFL: . i personaly am posted on this site as looking for a marriage partner . the reason why i post that is because there are wemon out there( even on a christian website) that lookin more for a vacation or a summer romance. when i show interest it is beause i fill that goals , beliefs and values match . so i choose to make it apperant as to what im looking for . because even thow the dating and getting to know the person isa alot of fun dating to both sexes is an audition . ( hopfully not for great sex because thats realy vain) but for someone that due to the interest, personality and spiritual compatability would make a great partner for life .there are many nie looking girls outthere butt that doesnt mean anything unless there is a deeper ompatibility
