I'm not really sure, but I think this might have something to do with it.... They were probably immature when they were younger, thus they would date someone younger in order to compensated for the difference. Unfortunately their lack of maturity has magnified over the years and left them in an alternate universe that's very far from a place I like to call reality!
I'm going to give myself a gold star for that * hmm... close enough!
thanks for some of the answers, I have to be honest, I've been seeing alot of this....First you read how they love the women's heart and mind...attraction important, but there are other things that are more important....and it goes on.....and then they are around 55.....and at the end it says you must be 22-40...okay then...
It's no big deal to me, it just puts up some red flags...truly hope everyone finds what there looking for....
Society has allowed men to feel that they are �entitled� to get whatever they want and many men do pretty much get what they desire. These men are somewhat �shallow� and their minds are �simple�. Beauty is very important to them and also as a status symbol. So a younger wife is important to them. Consider that as a �Signal� for you to avoid them.
Now I also feel that that is not always the case and sometimes the man has not given it a whole lot of thought, but generally it is a very good indicator of where their priorities are.
Some of the men who do this are hoping to have biological children w/ their future wife and so limit the acceptable age range to women of typical childbearing age.
I disagree with the maturity theory. I'm very mature and have dated or been married to women younger and older than I. My first wife was 7 years younger and my late wife was 11 years older. Age is only important when it presents limitations. Younger women tend to be more athletic and able to fit into my lifestyle. Women my age are dealing with a lot of maladies and other issues that keep them from being as active as I am. If they are my age they would have to be younger thinking and in pretty good shape. Also, I've been a care giver for one wife already who passed away and I'm afraid of getting into a relationship that I believe may soon require me to do so again. I don't really have a age preference anyway. My preferences are more about maturity, level of ability to commit sincerely and spiritual growth and development. I'm looking for a package not a box. Whether that package comes in a 40 year old or a 55 year old I don't really care.
Being in that age range and previously viewing profiles in that age range I can tell you it is VERY common. Perhaps the men are looking for someone to start a family with (or continue a family). Yet, perhaps there are other reasons.
For me, I would be uncomfortable with someone more than 6 or 7 years younger than me as a companion. I can be friends with ANYONE, but a companion must share a similar amount of life experience. Even someone my age who has never had children would be a stretch. But I would consider it.
See, I was raised by parents who went through the depression. Their grandparents lived during the civil war. My dad and his Mom used to hitch the mule to the wagon and go to town every Saturday whether they needed to or not.
So, to become involved with a woman who does not have this sort of up-bringing would have me feeling like I am with a CHILD. I am opposed to those sorts of relationships, like Woody Allen marrying his ADOPTED DAUGHTER. Abominable.
So, from this old man's perspective, it would be quite difficult for me to work toward a long-term relationship with someone too young. But then on the other side,
I can't imagine being with someone who is very much older than me. Call it insecurity, or lack of self-confidence, poor self-image, but it is simply a practical issue. Same thing with regard to education and money. For many men, if a woman surpasses them in any of these areas, there is a sense of insecurity, inadequacy, and inferiority that is quite intimidating.
Of course the women often think that if you are saying she is TOO OLD, that you mean she is "unattractive." FOR ME that has nothing to do with it. I have seen many beautiful (externally) women who are outside of my "upper age range," so it is not a matter of external appearance.
I can't imagine becoming a life-time companion of someone who could be my daughter, or my mother. Others may be okay with it, but not me.
If that is being judgmental on my part, then so be it. I don't mean it so, I am only having a preference.
Men who choose prospective females 20 years younger than them are likely trying to make one last fling with youth or grab a trophy wife. When you stop and think about the calamities envolved with such an age difference, it isn't all that pretty, no disrespect intended.
The man with 20 more years of adult experience, say now in his 50's, thinks different than he did when he was in his 30's.
The music he grew up with in his 30's, and the generation it was speaking for, is quite different from the music of the 30's generation now. His list of favorite artists, athletes and public figures is different. He remembers US history that she missed, like where he was when JFK was shot or when Neil Armstrong walked on the moon. His financial situation is different. His physical and emotional energy is different. His ability to weigh risks and spot a scam is different. He has more equity than he had in his 30's. There is a cultural difference.
If he has the energy and income in his 50's to raise her little ones or (re) start a family of his own, he is going to be in his 70's when they graduate from High School, when continued education expenses hit and he can't work as hard. She is in her 50's, feels her freedom, and wants to go for it.
There are issues I lived thru in my 30's and 40's that I don't necessarily want to hassle with again. They were bad enough the first time. Most men prefer to season with a gal their own age with the same extra 20 years of living experience.
Men who choose prospective females 20 years younger than them are likely trying to make one last fling with youth or grab a trophy wife. When you stop and think about the calamities envolved with such an age difference, it isn't all that pretty, no disrespect intended.
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The man with 20 more years of adult experience, say now in his 50's, thinks different than he did when he was in his 30's.
The music he grew up with in his 30's, and the generation it was speaking for, is quite different from the music of the 30's generation now. His list of favorite artists, athletes and public figures is different. He remembers US history that she missed, like where he was when JFK was shot or when Neil Armstrong walked on the moon. His financial situation is different. His physical and emotional energy is different. His ability to weigh risks and spot a scam is different. He has more equity than he had in his 30's. There is a cultural difference.
If he has the energy and income in his 50's to raise her little ones or (re) start a family of his own, he is going to be in his 70's when they graduate from High School, when continued education expenses hit and he can't work as hard. She is in her 50's, feels her freedom, and wants to go for it.
There are issues I lived thru in my 30's and 40's that I don't necessarily want to hassle with again. They were bad enough the first time. Most men prefer to season with a gal their own age with the same extra 20 years of living experience.
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i agree with the above comments & if i see a profile from a male who specifies in his profile that he is looking for young women
15 and more years younger than he is,:toomuch:
i see a very immature man who is not thinking right in his mind
for he is old physically but his maturity level is so stunted ~
trying to act young by flaunting motorcycles & looking for casual sex with girls who could easily be their daughters , by 20 years
that is a huge red flag to self respecting noble ladies :stop:
whose own integrity and self esteem & self respect
is something very worthy of upholding
& we have the need and the ever present responsibility to protect our kids and grandkids& other children we may come in contact with from potential perverts and child molestors..:devil:
