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hisprincess2010 View Profile History	Confused Posted : 29 May, 2010 03:40 PM How do you let a man know you are interested in them without being aggressive? Post Reply
View Profile History	Confused Posted : 29 May, 2010 04:11 PM I would say whatever comes to you how it comes to you. Whatever that is, is who you are and you want someone who can deal with you as you are. I am very assertive and I speak my mind without holding back, except if the Spirit holds my tongue. I am bold and God made me that way. I have learned how to temper my boldness, I sometimes don't hit the mark though. :laugh: Some guys absolutely can't handle me because I am not demure. So, I need someone who can deal with me and who likes me like I am. So, when I approach people here or otherwise, I just do it how I do. Don't take it as rejection if they don't respond as you want them to, take it as you can cross one more off the list of guys God DOESN'T have ordained for you. Post Reply
hisprincess2010 View Profile History	Confused Posted : 29 May, 2010 04:52 PM Hi, I am so encouraged by your post. I am not really as open and bold as I should be or want to be when it comes to guys. I really thought that men should pursue a woman, but it really was the first time in my life that I told or approached a man in that way. I haven't heard from him since, but I will consider this God crossing out the ones who aren't for me and try not to feel rejected. Thank you. Post Reply
View Profile History	Confused Posted : 30 May, 2010 04:04 PM I find it best to be mutually aggressive. Don't go out looking for a guy to date, look for a guy to be friends with. If you're friends and you realize you like him, you already know him, it's less awkward and you won't have any catchy surprises or anything either. And vice versa. But don't be completely passive, drop a line here and there, see if he bites the flirt bait. If he does, he either likes you, or he's too dumb to see you're flirting, but it's usually the fore of the options. But don't run out to a place you think you'll meet a guy expecting to get a boyfriend-that leaves a smell everyone notices called 'desperation' and everyone stays away. Just be yourself! Someone will come to you more often than not, and if he looks at you but doesn't come, more than twice, walk up to him! Post Reply
hisprincess2010 View Profile History	Confused Posted : 30 May, 2010 06:19 PM Demujin, Thanks for the advice. I will take it to heart. Post Reply
View Profile History	Confused Posted : 31 May, 2010 10:07 PM next time bring some handcuffs, so he doesn't get away! or is that too aggressive?:goofball: Post Reply
IFBJack View Profile History	Confused Posted : 2 Jun, 2010 04:43 PM Do things your own way :) Post Reply
hisprincess2010 View Profile History	Confused Posted : 2 Jun, 2010 04:44 PM Hi, I wasn't meaning that agressive.:ROFL: Post Reply