I want to find a love, a love that fight for me, i dont want a love who press me to do things that I dont like to do, i dont like manipulation, a love that does not be like an immature child, a love that is respectful, a love who is very patient with me, a love who loves God above all things, a love who is that is very kind and caring, a love that is retail, a love which is worker, honest and take care of me and treats me as a queen, and if that love can not offer a palace it would be great that could offer me a home full of love. :glow::glow::glow:
I'm going to hijack this thread a little. Have you noticed that despite this being the "ask a guy" section that a lot of women respond? Is it just because women want to put in their opinion so much that they can't wait for men? hmmm.
Anyway, since the post title addressed women, despite this being the men's thread, I'll give my two cents, and hopefully it will enlighten someone.
What I want in a man who I will marry:
~I want a man who will fight for my heart. I don't care if you're tough. I want to know that you'll "fight thousands for my love." I want a man who I am confident is ready at any time to storm the walls of my heart.
~I want a man who will be my flag on a hill. I can run to him for protection. When the world is piercing me with arrows he is a place where I'm not spread wide at the mark.
~I want a man who is teachable. He's a changing creature, not static, not stuck in his ways. He learns and improves, admits when he's wrong. A man who says "I'll only change when God forces me to" is not a man I want. He should not be like a mule.
~I want a man who will do his best to give the best of himself, even if it's not extravagant or traditionally romantic.
~I want a man who is patient and honest and kind. And on the days that he isn't, apologizes and tries to do better.
~I want a man who thinks I'm beautiful, whose eyes don't wander, whose mind does not wander.
~I want a man who I am comfortable with, who I can talk to, take my problems to, and who will do the same with me.
~I want a man who will listen to me, take my opinions and suggestions seriously, and use me as council, despite his leadership position.
~I want a man who won't run away from being courageous, from being a leader, from being real and responsible.
In turn this is what I plan to give:
~loyalty that is unwavering. It won't matter if you've earned it that day or week or month, I will have your back.
~Respect. If you are my flag on a hill you will always have my respect, and if I disagree with your decision for our life I will still accept it.
~I will have your back. My girlfriends will not hold my mind, you will. If there's a fight I will not side against you. I will not talk about how terrible you are to other people even if I am very angry at you.
~I will love you. You will have my heart and whatever of my mind is required for selfless love. I will do my best to give you what you need, to be what you need as much as I can, to help you be a better person, and to show you the level of physical affection you require (when married).
~I will believe in you and the man you can be. I will do my best to both see you as you are and see you as the best you can become, and to support you and encourage you and inspire you to be amazing, and to believe you are amazing now.
~Friendship.
~A safe place.
It's a lot to ask, but I think it's a lot to give too. And I'm no fool, love is difficult and terrifying, and most things that are worth the effort are.
Nobody or no thing is perfect. If you keep pursuing things 'out there' to make you satisfied you will always be disappointed. Happiness comes from within single or not.
Believe me, the older you get... some things get better about a person... but on the other hand... there is more of a "past"...etc..
I think it's important to understand that sometimes God brings people together to "compliment" one another...to help eachother "grow" in areas. We must not expect soooo
much from another person... that we do not allow room for growth/ learning "together". Relationships are about
"togetherness"... and sharing experiences...both good and bad... that create the bond.
I think it's important to value yourself... realize your worth in God... have a clear understanding of your boundaries/values.
When you know yourself well... you do develop a "list" if you will.... but... we must always keep our hearts open to
receiving... and knowing that God has things in our own selves to work out (and sometimes he uses other people to help achieve that). We ALL fall short of the glory.
I think the online dating can be too much like a "convenience store"... stop in ... see if you like something... read the labels... hmmm... "too much sugar", "too much spice"... "whoa! wayyyy too much vinegar"... LOL.
Problem is ... for some of us in smaller communities etc... this is the only way.
KNOW YOURSELF..BE FOCUSED.. BUT WILLING TO COMPROMISE ON THE 'LITTLE' THINGS ON YOUR LIST.
DON'T LET 'JUNK' INTO YOUR SACRED LIFE... BUT ....
DON'T PRE-JUDGE EITHER... LET GOD GUIDE YOUR HEART
I dont know, but i feel like my heart doesnt want to beat...
I�ve talked with some guys from this page, and all have been gentlemen and a good christian guys... and when at least im interesting on someone special... for some strange situation can not be true or reality, there are a lot of excuses of them to me: for example the distance, age, or because I'm Mexican, because mexico is unsafe, because i'm not white and their parents will not accept me as a wife hahaha, so an unlimited number of silly situations that show that men are not prepared to have a real and a full of love relationship as i wish to have a real christian relationship.
