Author	Thread: To wink or not to wink
Admin	To wink or not to wink Posted : 24 May, 2010 09:34 PM When I check out a guy's profile and I'm interested, do I send a wink or not? I don't believe in the woman making the first move, so is sending a wink to forward? Or is it a safe way of saying "hey, I like what I see"? Post Reply
View Profile History	To wink or not to wink Posted : 24 May, 2010 09:55 PM single people stay single if not forward enough. So if you are interested in getting to know a guy on here, you will have to contact him in some form to gather attention to yourself, or they will never know. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	To wink or not to wink Posted : 25 May, 2010 12:02 AM Please don't send a wink. It's like standing on the other side of the room and staring at a guy. Just write out a message like the ones you like to receive. Don't make it too long, ask a couple questions, sprinkle in some humor, and try not to sound generic. It's just like starting a conversation with a guy in real life. Either way the man is still in a place to pursue the woman. It's a crowded party here though, and if you don't introduce yourself, he might not see you. Post Reply
existlookingup View Profile History	To wink or not to wink Posted : 25 May, 2010 12:03 AM Winks feel passive to me. Is the other person supposed to wink back or write a message guessing why the other person winked? I'd rather have a direct message. Plus if you're not interested it's kinda rude not to write back, but awkward to say "Hey, you winked at me, and if it's because you like me, I don't think we're compatible." I think for shy people, it can be a great tool. For me, Winks and no message...you must not be THAT interested. Post Reply
View Profile History	To wink or not to wink Posted : 25 May, 2010 03:06 AM well I must say I do send winks to guys - especially when I think there's not much sense in writing a message as they live on another continent. In most such cases I think there's no way this could work out. Maybe that's a huge mistake - who knows, maybe my prince charming would come from South Africa or Australia on his white horse to find me in one of my castes in Central Europe, but oh well.... it does not sound very likely, does it. So I just wink at such guys to say "I saw your profile and I liked what I saw", without any expectations or hopes or whatever. Whenever I spot a man I feel like we have something in common and it is possible we could ever actually meet, I write. And I am not ashamed of being the one who starts. We all know we're here because we want to find God's blessing in marriage, right? Post Reply
View Profile History	To wink or not to wink Posted : 26 May, 2010 07:12 PM I think a wink is perfectly acceptable. Personally I like them. It really takes the guess work out of wondering whether she is interested or just clicked on my profile for whatever reason. Post Reply
View Profile History	To wink or not to wink Posted : 27 May, 2010 09:31 PM I personally don't like the idea of winks at all. They're good for if you're literally running through the airport with your laptop trying to catch your flight-but besides that 1 in a million chance that's actually happening I would so much rather have a full message. A wink to me states, "I think you're cool and attractive but I'm either too intimidated by you/don't think it will go anywhere/don't know how or want to socialize with others." My profile isn't exactly short I'll admit, but it's not long either. If someone messages me about what's on it, I immediately put it in the "I will respond and strike conversation" group. If it's a wink, I will flat out ignore them honestl;, if the message has no depth to it, there's no conversation to be struck about. Post Reply
John_O View Profile History	To wink or not to wink Posted : 30 May, 2010 08:12 PM I don't care for winks myself but when I get one I'm ok with it, but I won't send one. It's all that on this site. I have said many times I wish they would replace the wink with a wave. If I were to "wink' at a girl I saw on the street ,would that be a very Christian thing to do?? No diffrent when sending one here if you ask me. Instead of sending a wink, just send him a quick note saying hi. Post Reply
Souljah View Profile History	To wink or not to wink Posted : 12 Jun, 2010 01:16 AM I don't mind winks but I wouldn't give one. I'd rather send out a message and if the person decides to respond, good. If not, no big deal. A wink is akin to flirting and flirting is playing with fire. Post Reply
livetheword View Profile History	To wink or not to wink Posted : 4 Jul, 2010 10:51 PM it all depends on u. many times even if u noticed that the guy viewed ur page if u like him u should speak up. we guys arnt as brave as u girls think. many times i have viewed pages and dew to not being sure if i would be what there looking for i have not messaged or winked. but they have gotten back to me anyways and weve had good conversations. so if a guy seems compatable to u girls send a wink let him know many times we are intrested and by u sending a wink u let us know that we have a chance. also if u have somethin to say ladies message us tell us what u have to say. we guys also like a little acknowledgement and to be persued everyounce in a while. it will actualy boost our confidence a little and ull get better coversational quality out of us if u take the time to tell us ur intrestid Post Reply
View Profile History	To wink or not to wink Posted : 9 Nov, 2010 10:09 PM I think the best thing is to just say hello and ask to open a dialogue of friendship. I think that is better than the flirtatious Wink. I do not mind receiving Winks but I feel obligated to let someone down easy if a wink is sent and I'm not interested. But a nice note leaves it open for any response. Post Reply