Author	Thread: Is it weird? Strange? Normal?
Admin	Is it weird? Strange? Normal? Posted : 17 May, 2010 01:41 AM I was just wondering, is it normal for a guy to ask if a girl thinks he is attractive after they have only messaged twice? And if the girl chooses not to answer for whatever reason, would you think that she is trying to hide something or just respect her wish not to answer the question? Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Is it weird? Strange? Normal? Posted : 17 May, 2010 06:52 AM Um...a guy asking if he's attractive? Sounds a little weird...I wouldn't know what to tell you to do about it though. You could always just tell him what you think and see what happens, or even just ask him why he wants to know...maybe he's got a good reason or something. Anyway, I don't know...sounds like he may be insecure/vain, but I don't like guessing. :peace::peace: Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it weird? Strange? Normal? Posted : 17 May, 2010 07:51 AM I don't think it's wierd. there's a reason guys like girls. would you rather he think you unattractive? when you like somebody, or think you might like somebody you want to get to know them better so you let her know you're interested and try and get them talking and start a conversation and ask an open ended question, or something about herself and share a little about yourself. if there's another way to do it i'm all ears, but as far as i know that's how you do it. Also i think it's a mistake to assume we have a direct feed to what they're thinking and automatically know why she doesn't want to answer a question. cuz when we ask questions we just want to talk and get to know her. she doesn't have to sit on oprah's couch and give her life story or write a 5 paragraph essay, just keep it going, give us something to go on, especially when it's beyond implied that she can speak freely and say whatever she wants and thinks, however much or little. it's confusing because you don't know if she's got something to hide, doesn't want to talk to you, doesn't like you, wants you to leave her alone,but doesn't want to say so, is just really shy, is just being polite,but isn't interested, is leading you on, did i say something wrong, am i being too nosey, not nosey enough, etc. It just leaves alot up in the air and leaves us hanging. when she doesn't say anything, avoids questions, doesn't share, or gives us the infamous super short mono-syllable reply, that's usually not a good thing and are red flags that say 'you're barking up the wrong tree'. when that happens after a couple times, i usually just accept it, say 'ok whatever...' and move on. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it weird? Strange? Normal? Posted : 17 May, 2010 07:53 AM oh if the guy asks if you think HE'S attractive. i thought you said if he said he thinks you're attractive. yeah that's kinda wierd and insecure. Post Reply
DontHitThatMark View Profile History	Is it weird? Strange? Normal? Posted : 17 May, 2010 11:17 AM Well...after only the second email it's kinda weird. A few emails in and it's ok...normal I think... :peace::peace: Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Is it weird? Strange? Normal? Posted : 17 May, 2010 11:37 AM You want a man, not a little boy. He is clearly ridiculously insecure. Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it weird? Strange? Normal? Posted : 17 May, 2010 08:15 PM When guys have asked me that, I tell them that they look "normal and healthy." I'm not sure what I'll say if a guy who doesn't look normal and healthy ever asks... lol But, I haven't been asked that in a couple or so years. Guys tend to ask that less as they age, I suppose. Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Is it weird? Strange? Normal? Posted : 17 May, 2010 09:07 PM I think it's a little strange...REALLY seems insecure. But it does happen pretty frequently. I usually just say something noncommittal, like "Well, it's hard to tell from the pictures...they never do a person justice...but from what I can see, you look fine" or "Oh, it looks like you must go to the gym frequently...do you?" That usually does one of two things. 1) The guy is distracted and quickly moves on to talking about his pictures or activities, or 2) he pressures me for a more detailed answer, in which case I try to end the conversation as soon as possible. I've had one guy ask me what I think of his looks after I'd gotten to know him pretty well (we've never met in person, though...just online). I was able to be honest with him because we are just friends and he simply wanted an opinion and some advice from a girl's perspective. 'Course, it helped that he was pretty good looking, so I could be both honest and kind at the same time!!! :angel: Post Reply
View Profile History	Is it weird? Strange? Normal? Posted : 17 May, 2010 09:39 PM This is news to me. It's honestly never occured to me to ask that. lol Post Reply
IFBJack View Profile History	Is it weird? Strange? Normal? Posted : 20 May, 2010 08:43 AM I wouldn't ask that, sounds as though he has self esteem issues. Plus, asking most women that immediately makes you less attractive in there eyes. It's not strange though, he might not like his reflection much though. How you react to his question is entirely upto you. Post Reply