Author	Thread: Have you ever done this??
myhopeisgod08 View Profile History	Have you ever done this?? Posted : 7 May, 2010 12:29 AM Last week a really good friend of mine (a guy) texted me just to say hello. We had some back and forth exchange and than the conversation took an odd turn.. He made some sexual comments that were inappropriate (he is struggling in his walk right now obviously). He than said that he didn't mean to scare me. I told him it was just shocking to hear. Although we had met through another Christian dating site, we have never been romantically involved. He is quite a bit younger than me (27). I never took issue with that but it bothered him. So this sudden admission that he may 'perhaps' have romantic feelings for me through me for a loop. At some point in our friendship I did have more than friendship feelings for him, but I knew how he felt so I chose to bless him as my brother in christ. A little difficult at times because our conversations are usually an hour or more and center around God. So his admission stirred up those old feelings in me, Remember this whole conversation is via text.. Oh and another awkward aspect of this situation. He has a gf. This happened last thursday and I didnt hear anything from him until yesterday,,, Again via text. He said he was embarrassed and ashamed of the commenst he made and asked for my forgiveness, Bomb set up, he ran away and than sent a text? So confused in Cali. Post Reply
View Profile History	Have you ever done this?? Posted : 7 May, 2010 03:40 AM I understand confused feelings, but there really is no need to be confused about what to actually do. He had a weak moment and reached out to you in it and is now embarrassed. He has a GIRLFRIEND. If you were with him, would he be reaching out to others while you were unaware? You want someone settled, committed and who knows what he wants. Post Reply
myhopeisgod08 View Profile History	Have you ever done this?? Posted : 7 May, 2010 05:34 AM Agreed. Even if he didnt have a girlfriend I'm not saying that I would consider him romantically. He is not someone that is walking with God right now and he has admitted this. Someone close to him died and this has shaken his faith. Its just odd to me that after 3 years of knowing me he would suddenly develop feelings for me. I just ask God to bring him conviction and to draw him back to Him. Thanks for your input Post Reply
View Profile History	Have you ever done this?? Posted : 7 May, 2010 06:27 AM when someone makes sexual remark that doesnt necessarily mean they have feelings for that person. that simply means they have sexual desires. Men and women are wired differently. Post Reply
myhopeisgod08 View Profile History	Have you ever done this?? Posted : 7 May, 2010 07:18 AM Oh I know that. When he said it I was so surprised and I asked him about it. He said he did have feelings more than friendship towards me. I think he is just confused right now. I have no expectations whatsoever. More important to me is his relationship with our Father. I hope this will translate into him surrendering completely to Gods will. In the moment though it was hard for me to separate myself from what he was saying. It stirred up old feelings. Thanks for your input Post Reply
View Profile History	Have you ever done this?? Posted : 7 May, 2010 09:16 AM yes, been there, done that...your concern for his walk is a good one, that's what friends do...love :) bless you, River Post Reply
myhopeisgod08 View Profile History	Have you ever done this?? Posted : 7 May, 2010 10:09 AM Thanks River. I think so to. I am keeping him in prayer. He is a prodigal right now with a huge calling. Thanks again for your thoughts. Blessings, Melissa Post Reply