Author	Thread: Do guys like it when girls contact you first?
Admin	Do guys like it when girls contact you first? Posted : 30 Apr, 2010 05:19 PM Hey guys, I am wondering how do you feel when the girl sends the first message? Post Reply
View Profile History	Do guys like it when girls contact you first? Posted : 30 Apr, 2010 05:23 PM I like it when a girl sends any message. it's so rare. Post Reply
kevinco1 View Profile History	Do guys like it when girls contact you first? Posted : 30 Apr, 2010 09:39 PM I think it is totally appropriate. Internet dating is like being in a crowded room. Sometimes the woman will show the first sign of interest. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Do guys like it when girls contact you first? Posted : 30 Apr, 2010 11:20 PM I like it. I would just prefer a decent message. You know how much you don't like getting messages that only say, "Hey, what's up?" Well, guys don't like getting those messages either. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do guys like it when girls contact you first? Posted : 1 May, 2010 02:45 AM Guys tell me, this is slightly off subject, but related... If a woman emails you or you email her, does she/you owe the other a response? If someone writes you that you are completely not interested in, do you feel that saying nothing is your right and that you are under no obligation to respond? I ask, because I met someone who believes that. He's here on this site and sees sending a response of not interested is rejection, so chooses not to respond at all. He feels no compulsion or guilt for not responding. Anyone feel the same way? Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	Do guys like it when girls contact you first? Posted : 1 May, 2010 04:35 AM I do not want to make this too philosofical but If the non response is to be interpreted as not interested which is equal to rejection, what is the purpose of not responding? Is that person any less rejective if he rejects through non response? If this person is not interested in receiving posts from people who are not interesting, why this person does not stipulate so in his profile? If somewone spends time in composing a message then why not show the decency to reply? Unless of course one is not interested in responding to anyone who is not interesting enough to be of interest.... Babygirl, no offense to you but I think that person is very uneducated by simply not responding. An incoming post on an online dating site is not to be confused with a direct mail offering. It is good to keep in mind that there are PERSONS behind that posting, not articles. Oo eh ... and it so good to have you (back) on the forum! Post Reply
View Profile History	Do guys like it when girls contact you first? Posted : 1 May, 2010 04:55 AM Thanks Sos! I appreciate that. Let me give part of the scenario to you. I emailed this man. He was the first I emailed upon joining this site. He viewed me but never wrote me back. A few days ago he viewed again. I wrote him telling him how I felt about that. He responded (surprisingly) by telling me he owed no strangers a response. Below I have copied and pasted my response to his statement. I believe the Word speaks of dealing with angels unawares to remind us that strangers too, deserve our kindness and love. Every person on the earth right now deserves my love and I'm obligated to each and every one of them to show God's love for them through my actions. It's the reason I will stop as the Holy Spirit leads and minister to someone on the street that I don't know. I have 'rejected' dozens of guys and I do it in a non-flirting way. I don't play games with people's emotions and to flirt when I'm not interested would be doing that. I respond in a polite way by thanking them so much for viewing me and showing the interest. I let them know how honored I am and flattered from the attention with so many beautiful women of God here on this site. I let them know that from looking at their profile, I don't think we are compatible, but that I'm praying for them that God would send the woman I know He has set aside for them as soon as it is their season for Him to do so. They usually(9 times out of 10) send me a response letter thanking me for responding and wishing me the same blessings in finding my mate as well. I believe that is how children of God should deal with each other, with love and respect. That was part of my response and how I feel about it. I omitted a few lines to keep him anonymous. Post Reply
View Profile History	Do guys like it when girls contact you first? Posted : 1 May, 2010 05:06 AM Sos, I spoke of flirting because he also stated that to respond would be some type of flirting with the woman. I believe as you do that not responding at all is the ultimate rejection. I told him that if one of God's children saw enough in my profile to take the chance to reach out to me in an email, instant msge or wink, that I owed them the dignity of a response. And I am truly honored and flattered when this happens. It has never occurred to me to not respond to someone speaking to me. I would feel as though I'd slapped them in the face to not respond. I know we all think differently and have different points of view, but to me, to not respond is extremely rude and un-Christian-like. Post Reply
PEM4 View Profile History	Do guys like it when girls contact you first? Posted : 1 May, 2010 06:16 AM I have pondered this very thought also... I was hesitant to contact the guy first because I thougth it was lady like to do so but I am learning from talking with my male friends that they were also wondering the same thoughts :ROFL:tooo...lol So lets all dive in and just give it a sincere shot.... the response will be a yes or no or no response... This way we are narrowing down the vast number of available men to get to that special guy... :dancingp::prayingf::applause: Happy Sabbath Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Do guys like it when girls contact you first? Posted : 2 May, 2010 11:19 PM I say go for it, the worst they can say is no. Post Reply
lovejoypeace777 View Profile History	Do guys like it when girls contact you first? Posted : 4 May, 2010 08:53 PM Ruth did it to Boaz. Certainly not a problem with me :). Post Reply

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