Author	Thread: A little advice needed
Reacy View Profile History	A little advice needed Posted : 26 Apr, 2010 04:29 PM Some months ago I met a man online and we started chatting for at least a week every nite for a few hours. During that time we both found out we had a lot in common and a spiritual connection, and we began to talk hypothetically about how life would possibly be together. During this time I began to take a step back because we were talking a little too much and it began to get too serious at least on my part. Before taking this step back, he tells me that he would love to talk to me all day, but he doesnt have the time, I am not sure why he said this because the only times we talked were when I had the time which was after school and work, I have never wanted nor asked to talk to him all day, but for some reason he expresses this to me. I expressed to him in an email that we should take a slight step away from our constant chats and just kind of catch up with each other when we can. He writes back and says that he doesnt know what happened and that in spite of everything he's gonna move on and there are no hard feelings because he wants to find "her" this year. He then leaves me all of his contact info. I have tried to talk to him on a few occasions, but his chats are kind of short and abrupt. I still desire to be his friend and to continue to get to know him, but it appears as if he may have lost interest and just doesnt want to hurt me. Any advice from the gents or the ladies is welcome. Post Reply
View Profile History	A little advice needed Posted : 26 Apr, 2010 05:56 PM I'm not saying anyone is good or bad, just what i got from it kinda sounds like he was attatched and probly desperate, and you may have botched the delivery on that without realizing. and now he doesn't want to talk cuz he's afraid and/or angry that his feelings will get hurt. a guy is constantly worried he's being played and that he's being treated like a sucker. but i dunno. that's just what it sounds like to me. also, if a guy is infatuated, sometimes we'll say what we feel 'i could talk to you all day' with no intention of it cuz we don't know better than to keep it to ourselves. he sounds kinda naive or immature and like he doesn't understand. i agree it sounded kinda too steamy and some backing away was needed for it to cool off and see where the substance was. i think the right thing to do though is keep trying be open handed, upfront, honest and to reach out and get an understanding cuz he's probably hurting if he's kinda new to the whole relationship deal. even if it ends with you guys parting ways, at least there won't been any hard feelings and you two can still have that respect if one ever happens to think about the other. it's like a negotiation. decide what outcome you want, and figure out how to get it, execute, and don't stop till you get it. Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	A little advice needed Posted : 26 Apr, 2010 11:51 PM My advice? Just move on. He can pursue you if he wants, but you don't need to wait around for him. Post Reply
Reacy View Profile History	A little advice needed Posted : 27 Apr, 2010 04:32 AM Thanks guys for your advice. @remp, I like the idea of accessing the situation and making a decision, and possibly me and him parting as friends. Post Reply
View Profile History	A little advice needed Posted : 5 May, 2010 07:25 PM Everything happens for a reason. It was for the best. Post Reply