Author	Thread: What's most important? Virtuousness or Physical Attractiveness?
Admin	What's most important? Virtuousness or Physical Attractiveness? Posted : 26 Apr, 2010 08:08 AM My question is can you or have you ever been attracted to a woman based on her character FIRST, where her looks (for you) never are greater than who she is (character, integrity or relationship with God)? It's said that you all are visual. Is that trait so strong that you would by-pass a virtuous woman if she wasn't up to your physical standard? Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	What's most important? Virtuousness or Physical Attractiveness? Posted : 26 Apr, 2010 09:38 AM I tried dating a girl I wasn't attracted to. It just didn't work out well. However, she now has a longterm boyfriend. Moral of the story? Physical attraction is important, but what each man finds attractive differs. It's the same the other way around too. A girl can be physically attractive, but if our personalities don't click, then it's just not gonna happen. Just be who you are, be healthy, but don't worry so much about how you look. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	What's most important? Virtuousness or Physical Attractiveness? Posted : 26 Apr, 2010 10:11 AM I say its both, it seems like its a lock and key tyoe thing. Ive been told that I look like the brawny man lol, and some women dig that, while others dont. Just be the best you, there is. :) Post Reply
View Profile History	What's most important? Virtuousness or Physical Attractiveness? Posted : 26 Apr, 2010 12:01 PM i like how rabbit described it. it is a lock and key type of thing. but i also think women worry too much about what we think about how they look. different guys place different levels on emphasis on looks, but to answer your question more specifically, yes there have been more than a few times when a womans virtue and personality was the first thing that stood out to me and was overwhelmingly attractive. appearances will grab us at first glance, but if there's nothing that follows it up, it passes rather quickly. The guys that over emphasize looks are usually looking more to be in lust than in love. When a man can see that a woman has love and joy it shows and it's really really attractive. Post Reply
View Profile History	What's most important? Virtuousness or Physical Attractiveness? Posted : 26 Apr, 2010 12:10 PM Women do alot of things to get attention, but what really stands out is when they do things, but not to get attention. When they us think 'what's she up to?' as opposed to 'unga bunga' lol. make us work for it instead of flaunting or throwing yourself at somebody. A good guy will see something in you, and pursue. Post Reply
View Profile History	What's most important? Virtuousness or Physical Attractiveness? Posted : 26 Apr, 2010 12:41 PM Thanks Rabbit, Tulip and Remp, I appreciate your responses. Yall are so sweet to encourage me to be myself. I would have needed that advice badly about 7-8 years ago. For those who don't know me, I have no self-esteem issues. I have come to terms with my coloring, my size and who I am. I had a early identity crisis because I was raised in Gary, In. which is about 98% African American. I was ostracized and teased much of my early years because I was this tan color with reddish blonde hair. I've been called orange, sunkist, golden girl, I could go on and on... I was told by the other kids that if I was really black I would have black hair and darker skin. So, I did not like my look and wished I was darker. But I'm all good now! :rocknroll: I asked the question for informational purposes only. Trying to figure yall out. :toomuch: Post Reply
InHisHonor View Profile History	What's most important? Virtuousness or Physical Attractiveness? Posted : 26 Apr, 2010 08:34 PM Yes, I can be attracted to someone where her character is greater then her looks, to a point. As a photographer and an artist I do tend to notice how attractive a person is but at the same time a person's character can make a person more attractive. Post Reply
View Profile History	What's most important? Virtuousness or Physical Attractiveness? Posted : 28 Apr, 2010 06:35 AM Thanks yall for your input. It's interesting how women, usually, are looking for security, to be treated right, and looks come in 3rd or even further down the totem pole than that. For me, it would be nice to have eye candy to look at, but like was stated that works for about 30 seconds. If there is no development of character and no depth and substance, beauty isn't worth much. Actually, so far as looks go for me, they are so far down the pole that my standard really is that I just have to be able to look at you without cringing. :laugh: Because looks are so important to you, and beauty fades with time, is that why older men often look for younger women? Does looks become less important to yall over time because you realize your wife will like yourself, wrinkle, gray, and lose that physical beauty? Post Reply
FunnyChef317 View Profile History	What's most important? Virtuousness or Physical Attractiveness? Posted : 28 Apr, 2010 02:28 PM I'd say both as well. If a woman is gorgeous, but is ugly on the inside that's a big turn off. But also remember, God created us to be attracted visually, so we just accept that. Remember, God also makes mens tastes different. My friend may find a certain woman ravishingly beautiful, and i may not. God created us all with different tastes. Post Reply
InHisHonor View Profile History	What's most important? Virtuousness or Physical Attractiveness? Posted : 29 Apr, 2010 06:34 PM I don't think it's because the person IS younger but it may be because the person LOOKS younger or because she ACTS younger. Some men, as they get older, don't want to be reminded that they too are getting older so they look for women that appear younger then they actually are. This in turn would make him feel younger. Post Reply