Author	Thread: I have a sincere question for you guys (girls feel free to jump in)
Admin	I have a sincere question for you guys (girls feel free to jump in) Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 06:39 AM First, I ask you to be truthful yet tactful in your responses. :-) Okay here's my question & situation ... 1a) How can you tell if a "Christian" man is being truthful/for real with you? 1b) How long should one give the benefit of the doubt for? Situation: I met a seemingly really great "Christian" man here on CDFF. We have been sending emails back and forth. We have also been sending emails to each other on our personal email address as well. They have started to become less often to hardly at all. I'm not one that does well with hints, I do much better with truth. So ... I asked him if he wanted too continue to get to know each other or if he has had a change of heart. I've asked this in so many words on two occasions and both times he stated he is still interested in getting to know me, he has just been slammed lately with his online ebay business more so than usual and is sorry he has not been able to connect with me. Now, to read his profile in combination with the emails we've sent to each other it just does not seem his character would be one to just say something to pacify me. However, it has been a full week, yes folks 7 days, and I've not heard from him. I understand being overwhelmed at work as I experience that on a fairly regular basis. But I'm thinking if you are truly interested in someone would you not make time for that person? Now I have no idea how an Ebay business runs and he also stated he helps others start up their Ebay businesses as well which is why I'm wondering just how much leeway does one give in this area? Mind you I truly like this man and would love to know him better... Okay I'm rambling now ... The floor is now yours ... =) Post Reply
View Profile History	I have a sincere question for you guys (girls feel free to jump in) Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 07:13 AM Unless there is some kind of medical emergency, not really any good excuse why he isn't responding more regularly. I say move on and find someone that has time for you. Post Reply
View Profile History	I have a sincere question for you guys (girls feel free to jump in) Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 10:04 AM The hardest part of christianity is waiting on the Lord.(for me anyway) I think you should just sit back and be patient. Your discernment will kick in as soon as you can see the situation from another perspective. Meaning when your heart isn't so much involved. It sounds like he has other things going as well. Whatever it is...he'll realize the type of woman you are and he'll contact you when he's ready. Until then just hang out in the forums with us :) I'll be praying for you Riveroflife Post Reply
View Profile History	I have a sincere question for you guys (girls feel free to jump in) Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 10:52 AM River, Thank you so very much! As soon as I read your response my heart completely identified with it. Great insight! Yes; it is hard to wait on God's timing sometimes. Like I stated, he just seems like a man of god and of great character. Yes; he is very busy as he stated. I will sit back and when he is ready he will send me an email. And yes, I will hang out with y'all in the forum. God's blessings to you River, and thank you again for your insight and wisdom. Savedbygrace3 Post Reply
View Profile History	I have a sincere question for you guys (girls feel free to jump in) Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 11:31 AM Just some things i consider when it comes to stuff like this: Do they know I'm interested and (to give them the benefit of the doubt) if i were them would it be evident that i was interested? And then I think about that saying: You make time for what you want to make time for, and by then it's not too hard to figure out if they do or do not care. sorry that happened. better luck next time, is all i can say, but who knows maybe he'll get back in touch. i keep that possibility open, but don't really invest too much hope or interest in them doing so and just move on. Post Reply
View Profile History	I have a sincere question for you guys (girls feel free to jump in) Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 02:09 PM aw, so glad I could help ;) bless you, Riveroflife Post Reply
Johnaus View Profile History	I have a sincere question for you guys (girls feel free to jump in) Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 06:44 PM One press with your finger two clicks with your mouse two keys pressed H then I then press send, to someone that cares about you and you care about them this process takes less then 60 seconds, Seven Days its all about me. Give it to the Lord He see's what you don't Romans 8:28 breaks it down You Love Him So He gots your back Everythings going to work out for your good Just keep being you What are those things called checkers,monapolly,twister,yatzee yea, those things ,even though people claim to be one thing they still play them. God Bless you and keep you Post Reply
View Profile History	I have a sincere question for you guys (girls feel free to jump in) Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 07:53 PM Saved, this has happened to me. In my experience (yours may be different) it meant he was also emailing other women, and was stringing me along. The times it has happened to me I cut the guy loose. Only you know best the situation, since you are in it and have communicated with this man. My suggestion it to pray specifically that God show you which way to go: wait and keep going, or cut him loose. That always works for me. Good luck! Post Reply
View Profile History	I have a sincere question for you guys (girls feel free to jump in) Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 09:51 PM If it walks like a Duck and quacks like a Duck. Smells like a Duck and plays pool like a Duck...well, then lets give it some time and maybe it will not be a DUCK! Really? Seven Days! God only needed Six to create The Universe. I am sorry to tell you but unless he bumped his head and is suffering from amnesia and "Tune in next week for..." he can not care a whole lot. You would find some time to drop a line or two. You would not allow that much time to go by. I'm sorry. Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	I have a sincere question for you guys (girls feel free to jump in) Posted : 16 Apr, 2010 05:38 PM No, seven days is nothing for someone who considers himself very busy. Especially when he has explained the reason why. I think it is very normal that you feel insecure about this but for him it was legit, clear and normal. People who have their own business do not work from 9 - 5. They work 24 hours a day if they have to... and then all of a sudden they take a lunchbreak for 5 hours... Their working rhythm is very difficult for a new relationship, where we are easily confused and upset what place we take in somebody�s life. Maybe he also tries to prove to himself that you are not going to take him off his responsibilities and have him romance you while there is so much to do in his business. To a man it might be a very reassuring thing to know that the possible love of his live is not a threat to his business. So he is, while losing his heart, still sane enough to make profit. Of course he could be an ordinary liar but I felt like I wanted to give you the above in consideration. I also think that you should always be able to share your fears and doubts with him. Sitting and waiting might not be the way. If you are feeling secure about your own feelings for him, than step forward and tell him how you are suffering from it. To be vulnerable is not a defeciency.... it fact it is an act of courage and quest for honesty. Good luck and on occasion, let me know how you are doing. Post Reply
sweetlife68 View Profile History	I have a sincere question for you guys (girls feel free to jump in) Posted : 17 Apr, 2010 10:13 AM give him up to the Lord. 7 days is too long. If you really like someone you will find time to talk to that person even a few minutes or just to hear that person's voice, saying he is busy is not an excuse. Communication is very important in a relationship. We really need to consult the Lord in every area of our life as He is the only one who knows what is and who is best for us. The Lord has already prepared someone for you, maybe you are not yet ready to meet him or you are looking at the wrong direction. Or maybe God is telling you,' he is not the one i meant for you, you have to wait'. You have to move on. Let him go. set yourself free, it's his loss not yours because he did not see who you really are... he did not see your true worth... Post Reply

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