Author	Thread: Are Christian men romantic?
Admin	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 14 Apr, 2010 06:56 PM I'm wanting to ask the guys (or girls) if Christian men are romantic. In a class on relationships for the divorced and single women in the church, the pastor said that we shouldn't expect roses and romance- that romance is the worldly way. What is your take on this? Post Reply
bcpianogal View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 14 Apr, 2010 07:10 PM What? Christian men aren't romantic? We can't expect them to send flowers and such? Well, phooey. That burst my little bubble. I happen to have a great Christian man in my life right now, and you better believe he sent me flowers for Valentines Day! He also sends me cards just to say he's thinking of me. Romantic? Yup. I think so. :applause: Christian men, what do YOU say? Can you be a Christian and still be romantic? Post Reply
View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 14 Apr, 2010 07:19 PM Since you said "girls too", I will respond. I hope your pastor is not married. From personal experience and observing other Christian relationships for many years, I can say that Christian men are, and should be very romantic. It is not a "worldly" thing at all. Romance is just one way of expressing love for a person. Christian men should realize the importance of nurturing a loving relationship even more than perhaps non-Christians because Jesus told us all what love is and how we are to treat our spouses. Now buying outrageously expensive things for a girlfriend or wife just to impress them would be an example of a "worldly" thing. ie: buying yourself a new sports car to attract women. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 14 Apr, 2010 07:51 PM ummm Song of Solomon?? Sounds like the pastor is getting a lot of guys off the hook!! I can't imagine being in a relationship without being romantic. :hearts: Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 14 Apr, 2010 07:59 PM I agree with Thunder. I say the only time you (women) can't expect it is if you cant give as good as you get. And by give, men want dif' things; certain things (other than sex, nevethe less) make us feel love and accepted. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 14 Apr, 2010 08:12 PM I can't agree with your Pastor on this. My Bible tells me differently. Of course Christian man can and should be romantic! Post Reply
View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 05:09 AM i think the pastor needs to read Song of Soloman!!!!! If married he needs a little romance himself... makes me also wonder how he met his wife? if married? Rachel Post Reply
SOS4EMAILFRIEND View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 06:17 AM Thank you Thunder! :rolleyes::applause: Making my day again... I would like to hear the reasoning of that pastor though. Just for curiosity as I find it impossible to think of an intimate relationship not being romantic. I love to be romanced... It really does not matter that I get the same perfume because he has seen it is almost over and I was just enjoying the idea that I could finally get another.... it is the gesture that counts! I just keep on smelling like that. Truly I would not want it any other way because the man loves me.... I walk around with collars and earings that I would never have chosen myself but were given to me with so much love... I read poems which do not ryme nor make any sense. But I love it and makes me even love him more. Really I adore it. And after all, he eats my food so I really have nothing to complain about. I love being romanced! Please guys, do not listen to the pastor. I love romance in a relationship. And now that I have none... I miss it so much! Post Reply
Tulip89 View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 08:14 AM One of the biggest mistakes a Christian guy can make is to expect a woman to choose to be attracted to him. Overall attraction is not a choice. A woman cannot be expected to look at a guy, evaluate his qualifications as a mate, and upon realizing he is well qualified, choose to begin feeling butterflies in her belly. I think "being romantic" is doing what makes a girl's heart pitter-patter, so in that sense, Christian men should absolutely be romantic. As others have said, just look at Song of Solomon. Another mistake a lot of guys make, though, is doing "romantic" things hoping they can manipulate the woman into liking them, which is basically the same problem I first mentioned. "What do you mean you don't want to date me? I opened all the doors for you, bought you flowers, and have taken you out to seven very expensive dinners! You're basically obligated to already be in love with me! Sure I bored you with our conversation, but look at everything I *did* for you! Don't you see how much I care?" At the same time, I caution you to avoid expecting real life romance to look like the movies. "When Harry Met Sally," "27 Dresses," and "Pride and Prejudice," and "The Notebook" are all made up. If a guy doesn't give you 150 roses on the third date, don't write him off just yet. Actually, if a guy buys you that many roses, go ahead and write him off because not only is he bad at managing money, but he's also trying to make up for the fact that he thinks you won't really like him for who he is. Post Reply
View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 11:10 AM I want to thank all of you for your input. The statement felt "wrong" to me, but I wanted someone else's take on it. Post Reply
Rabbit32 View Profile History	Are Christian men romantic? Posted : 15 Apr, 2010 11:10 AM Than tulip, I ask what attracts a woman to a man? I find that most people make the mistake of going strictly off of attraction,if a woman isnt filled with Christ I will kill an attraction immediatly,even women that are more attractive than what I normally can get, even if they are interested. A perfect "10" w/o Christ is just an empty clay pot. I do agree that some chateristics of attraction are inborn. I would never consider a woman who I couldn't stomache to look at naked, while being intimate, but with that my thoughts must be transformed to look for a Christ like nature too, because emotions follow thoughts, and if my thoughts change than so do my emotions. But it doesn't change the nature of the question: is romance to expected, but what is it? Funny how we can say the same word and mean two different things. I agree with all that Song of Solomon is the guilde for romance, but it also seems like a romance between God and his bride. Post Reply

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